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If you don't keep women in the fridge, they spoil. my uncle's words...wise man |
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IMHO, men who attempt to "spoil" women feel that they are lacking in some way that makes them unlovable. Attempts at spoiling a woman is their way of detracting her from their perceived flaws. Such men should work on finding themselves to have worth and to be lovable, before entering a relationship. It will save them heartbreak and frustration down the road. Absolutely agree with this  . I had a male friend that felt that he had the treat 'his woman' like a queen to compensate for his perceived shortcomings..he was a great guy that had bad relationships because he insisted on spoiling the women in his life. If I dared to point out that maybe his relationships were failing because he was spoiling these women, I got the 'you don't understand..I was the guy that women ignored' etc Your friend, was he raised primarily by his mother or grandmother and he has mostly female friends by any chance? His mother and he is very close to her. And yes, he does have mostly female friends. The girlfriends of his mates tend to gravitate to him because he apparently easy to talk to but he secretly resents them for overlooking him as b/f material. And he's very sensitive (bordering on paranoia) to any perceived criticism even when you actually demonstrate that you weren’t criticising him, you were either pointing out a fact i.e. 5.5 for a guy is considered as short or not referring to him at all, he just overheard a conversation that you were having with someone about someone else.. |
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IMHO, men who attempt to "spoil" women feel that they are lacking in some way that makes them unlovable. Attempts at spoiling a woman is their way of detracting her from their perceived flaws. Such men should work on finding themselves to have worth and to be lovable, before entering a relationship. It will save them heartbreak and frustration down the road. Absolutely agree with this . I had a male friend that felt that he had the treat 'his woman' like a queen to compensate for his perceived shortcomings..he was a great guy that had bad relationships because he insisted on spoiling the women in his life. If I dared to point out that maybe his relationships were failing because he was spoiling these women, I got the 'you don't understand..I was the guy that women ignored' etc That's really sad to hear. He probably is a great guy with tons to offer but he needs to know this and quit listening to past bishes who continue to controll how he conducts his life. He is a great guy and a good friend. He's the type that'll do anything for anyone. |
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IMHO, men who attempt to "spoil" women feel that they are lacking in some way that makes them unlovable. Attempts at spoiling a woman is their way of detracting her from their perceived flaws. Such men should work on finding themselves to have worth and to be lovable, before entering a relationship. It will save them heartbreak and frustration down the road. Absolutely agree with this . I had a male friend that felt that he had the treat 'his woman' like a queen to compensate for his perceived shortcomings..he was a great guy that had bad relationships because he insisted on spoiling the women in his life. If I dared to point out that maybe his relationships were failing because he was spoiling these women, I got the 'you don't understand..I was the guy that women ignored' etc Your friend, was he raised primarily by his mother or grandmother and he has mostly female friends by any chance? His mother and he is very close to her. And yes, he does have mostly female friends. The girlfriends of his mates tend to gravitate to him because he apparently easy to talk to but he secretly resents them for overlooking him as b/f material. And he's very sensitive (bordering on paranoia) to any perceived criticism even when you actually demonstrate that you weren’t criticising him, you were either pointing out a fact i.e. 5.5 for a guy is considered as short or not referring to him at all, he just overheard a conversation that you were having with someone about someone else.. That sounds like classic "nice guy syndrome". The book "No More Mr. Nice Guy" might help your friend out a lot. |
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IMHO, men who attempt to "spoil" women feel that they are lacking in some way that makes them unlovable. Attempts at spoiling a woman is their way of detracting her from their perceived flaws. Such men should work on finding themselves to have worth and to be lovable, before entering a relationship. It will save them heartbreak and frustration down the road. Absolutely agree with this . I had a male friend that felt that he had the treat 'his woman' like a queen to compensate for his perceived shortcomings..he was a great guy that had bad relationships because he insisted on spoiling the women in his life. If I dared to point out that maybe his relationships were failing because he was spoiling these women, I got the 'you don't understand..I was the guy that women ignored' etc Your friend, was he raised primarily by his mother or grandmother and he has mostly female friends by any chance? His mother and he is very close to her. And yes, he does have mostly female friends. The girlfriends of his mates tend to gravitate to him because he apparently easy to talk to but he secretly resents them for overlooking him as b/f material. And he's very sensitive (bordering on paranoia) to any perceived criticism even when you actually demonstrate that you weren’t criticising him, you were either pointing out a fact i.e. 5.5 for a guy is considered as short or not referring to him at all, he just overheard a conversation that you were having with someone about someone else.. That sounds like classic "nice guy syndrome". The book "No More Mr. Nice Guy" might help your friend out a lot. Thank you but we kinda lost contact a little while ago..I found that I couldn’t be myself around him just in case I inadvertently offended him and we just drifted apart. |
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42BlackBBW wrote... Thank you but we kinda lost contact a little while ago..I found that I couldn’t be myself around him just in case I inadvertently offended him and we just drifted apart. That's too bad. That's part of what prevents a "nice guy" from being in a long term relationship, the fact that they are so sensitive and difficult to get along with. |
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IMHO, men who attempt to "spoil" women feel that they are lacking in some way that makes them unlovable. Attempts at spoiling a woman is their way of detracting her from their perceived flaws. Such men should work on finding themselves to have worth and to be lovable, before entering a relationship. It will save them heartbreak and frustration down the road. I never said there was. There is a problem when a man ignores his own needs in an attempt to spoil a women. Absolutely; not to mention the woman could also take advantage of this and expect it all the time. |
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