Man I miss the days of yor. I mean, back in dem dare days, all a guy had to do was write a simple note...just a note, and then fold it into the shape of an airplane, throw it at the girl he liked, she would then take said plane, break it down to a full sheet of paper, and then see....

"DO YOU LIKE ME? Check YES or NO"

It was so simple.

I was just curious, lots of men say they are clueless when it comes to figuring out if someone is interested. So if they're clueless and you don't give them a clue, how does that work?

True. But I wonder what clues they would recognize? I mean, maybe we should ask them what are signs they WOULD recognize and take note from that! hahaha

Well, lots of people don't understand themselves completely. Some not at all. I don't find that surprising.

Personally, I definitely let them know if I'm interested, but I no longer will make the first date. I've had too many experiences where the man just goes along with it even though he's not really interested in me. At this point in my life, if he's not interested enough to make some effort, it's not going to happen. Practically everyone is younger and prettier than me, so I need some indication that he actually does find me worth his while.

I’m reluctant to do anything about it if it's someone that I've met in cyberland as I’ve had my interest backfire on me too many times not to be cautious.

There you go . http://mingle2.com/topic/show/320394

So you just wait it out and hope that he does something?

That was modern Technology compared to the 20th Century.

Too many blonde men come to mind...Would ya still go for it in todays world? Oh yeah they call it texting.

You send a text to him/her and they:

Text back=yes
No text=baaaaack to the drawing board

A billboard would be enough for me. I mean, assuming the interest was spelled out on it in really big letters. Otherwise I won't have a clue.

No, I don't hope he "does something". If he contacts me then I'll respond but other than that, I don't do anything.

Oh, ok. So if you're interested, it doesn't really matter unless he feels the same and does something. I was just trying to figure out what you meant.

That's exactly what I mean..I know it's not exactly proactive but every single time I've initiated contact, he's turned out to be a weirdo..if he contacts me, he tends to be less weird .

I just put that explanation down to my weird women's logic

I've found that when I actually make first contact, I end up getting along with them better than if it were the other way around.

That could backfire. In all honesty how many men actually like when we make the first move?

I'm not really worried about it backfiring. If they're not interested, they're not interested. We've had several discussions on here about who should make the first move. Most men are fine with a woman making the first move. Sometimes you just have to take a chance rather than waiting for something to happen.

I know (and I'm generalising) that a lot of men say that they don't mind woman taking the lead and initiating contact and I think that's true but I also think that some men do like it if the woman continued to take the lead in the relationship..that to me is kind contradictory as he was effectively caught by determined (ok, I'll say it...dominant - I'm not talking BDSM) woman but still wants a relationship whereby he is fulfilling the ‘dominate’ role.

Making the first move makes someone dominant?

I have to agree here. I don't think "first move" is a gender thing, I see it more as a willingness-to-express-interest thing. And interest certainly isn't gender-specific.