Hi ive got a problem.So have hundreds of others propaly lol!.IT never used to be a problem now for some reason its a real pain.

I left my wife 6 years ago well got divorced.I have got epilepsy as soon as you mention it to any woman its like you have a third head ie no one speaks to you.

Any ideas how to get past the problem im reassonable looking ok. someone mentioned dont mention it its not that easy i have fits every few days at anytime no warning.So if u have a fit while you are with a woman it could freghten her.

Any help would be great thankyou.

Jay

I don't think it should be a problem it's not even really bad. I watched a guy having a fit before, it was over within 2 minutes, he was slightly embarrassed but he just got up, smiled & walked away. Panic over. What's wrong is people are SO quick to judge without actually having a clue of the details.

By the way I see your from Coventry, England. I worked there at the Lady Godiva Festival bout 2/3 years ago it was seriously good. We camped in the Memorial Park I think it was called. Some good bars over there, and the drink was SOOOOO cheap, it was all fun and games till be had to crawl through that park at all hours of the morning, impossible in heels

I hope you find what you're looking for

Hi there. I understand your concern with your condition. If a woman doesn't stick around due to your situation..maybe it is best for you. Why get close to someone who will run the other direction the minute things get thick? I would not open up with your condition unless it becomes necessary.
Talk a while about life and things you enjoy..normal things in regular day conversations. If your situation with a woman becomes more serious then it is time to share.
I would never feel offended to hear medical conditions later on in a friendship. Why should anyone have to share such personal details about their life when it is not deemed necessary.

I'm sorry that you feel this way. Society can be cruel, shallow, judgemental. Those types of people, you need to just ignore, cos they are obviously ignorant. If someone can't see past your illness to be in a relationship with you, then best not even try with the judgemental ones. Unfortunately, not everyone is mentally prepared to, or even thinks about "What if this person is actually disabled or ill?". You need to search for a woman who has a big heart, and good understanding. Good luck :)

Sorry. I have to disagree with Pyxx. My best friend went out on a first date with someone who didn't disclose her epilepsy. She had a fit in the restaurant, gashed her end that he ended up having to take her to A+E.

I would want someone to disclose a medical condition to me and let me decide whether I want to continue getting to know him anything else.

If you have fits every few days or so, you do need to inform a potential partner of your condition and let her make the choice...Unfortunately some will see it as a problem while other will not.

That would not discourage me from going out with someone but you definitely need to disclose it right away. I have lupus and I try to put that out there early in case it's a deal breaker for them.

Just look at this as a way to eliminte the incompatible more quickly.

Pretty much just echoing what is said above. It is best to just be honest and disclose the information truthfully and don't be embarrassed or ashamed of it. It is part of who you are, but it does not have to be all that you are. If people can't handle it and will not speak with you, well better that than be some place and have a situation arise and have that person possibly make it worse.

You are probably a pretty cool guy and have a lot to offer someone, so make sure you just lay it all out there. Both what you feel is the good and the bad. There are plenty of people out there who are not bothered by such things.

Good luck with all that you seek.

First of all if someone doesn't like you for who you are, then I would not waste my time.......
Maybe explaining what it is would help.

My friend, John, has severe epilepsy. We do not date. We are just friends. He even had his brain operated on and it did not stop. John told me right away when I met him. He jokingly refers to his seizures as "doing the funky chicken". I know it's not PC but he tries to make light of it. Anyway, he taught me right away what to do to make sure he didn't bash his head or bite his tongue, etc. And if he comes to with his head in my lap, after he realizes what happened, he says "I did the funky chicken, huh?" I am just like, "Ya are you okay?" And if he says he is, I am like "kewl" and we just move on. It's not a big deal. Just I drive. He is worthwhile as a person so to me he is worth the occasional inconvenience. And usually before a seizure, he gets kind of out of it and I know to get him somewhere sitting, etc. But that he jokes about it and I am kewl (I say it that way and not cool) about it, it's not a major deal. And I don't not date John because of it. I don't date John because he and I are diametrically opposed on most important subjects. LOL.

this is no problem for me.. Anyone who loves you will stay.. Have you tried asking God for help?? Have seen people being restored to normal for this. Lots of time.