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I try not to expect anything, when i get into a relationship, so if i end one, i expect nothing then either. I just tell them politely, that i don't feel comfortable for whatever the reason is at that time. I don't do that constant back and forth harassing after a break up either. Some of my friends do, but that's their business.
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Edited by
navygirl
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Mon 01/09/12 09:03 AM
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I tell a guy face to face that its not working between us and we should end it. Mind you; I have never been one to tiptoe around and I am quite direct.
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I tell a guy face to face that its not working between us and we should end it. Mind you; I have never been one to tiptoe around and I am quite direct. I wish that others were direct. I never understood not being direct. Maybe someone who is not/cannot be/doesn't want to be direct can explain it to me? |
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Edited by
Ruth34611
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Mon 01/09/12 09:10 AM
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How do you break up with someone you've been dating for less than 6 months? I was thinking of this because of the "stood up" thread. And, being stood up is basically a way of breaking something off right as it gets started. I dated a guy once for a couple of months and I realized he was losing interest or changing his mind or something.... So, I texted him and asked him what was wrong. He texted back and said that we would talk when we met the following week. I said I didn't need to talk about it if he was breaking up with me. He seemed genuinely surprised that I didn't want a long, drawn out face to face conversation. (Although I do give him credit for being willing to have a sit down conversation with me about it). I know when I have broken up with guys I've only been seeing briefly and I break up with them, I just do it. No long explanation. Maybe that's not fair, I'm not sure. What do you do and what do you expect from a break up of a short relationship? You have to give the guy closure or he'll end up like Keanu after you guys broke up.   Well, I have never broken up with anyone by just disappearing. In 2010 I broke up with the 2 guys I dated. 2010 was a bad year. But, I digress. The first had been a relationship of about 6 months. I broke up with him in person. I believe my exact words were "Get in the car, I'm taking you to the airport". But it's not like we weren't having problems that I had already expressed concern over. The second guy was a brief 2 month dating situation. I broke up with him via text. To his day I kinda feel bad about that but there was nothing to discuss. I am okay with text, email or post it note break up. I was just wondering if I'm a cold biotch or most people are okay with it. |
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Well, I have never broken up with anyone by just disappearing. In 2010 I broke up with the 2 guys I dated. 2010 was a bad year. But, I digress. The first had been a relationship of about 6 months. I broke up with him in person. I believe my exact words were "Get in the car, I'm taking you to the airport". But it's not like we weren't having problems that I had already expressed concern over. The second guy was a brief 2 month dating situation. I broke up with him via text. To his day I kinda feel bad about that but there was nothing to discuss. I am okay with text, email or post it note break up. I was just wondering if I'm a cold biotch or most people are okay with it. I'd prefer at least a phone call. A guy I dated last year for a bit called me to let me know he just wasn't ready to really date. He thought he was, but wasn't. And that was fine with me. I appreciated him actually telling me. I wasn't surprised either, because when we first met, he did let me know he wasn't sure about what he was ready for because he had recently broken up with someone who really hurt him. There was a guy recently who I knew for a few weeks and went out with twice. He texted me to let me know he was getting back with his ex. That was also fine with me. I've been ignored in the past, though, and that's not fine with me. I don't want to have to get the hint someone is trying to give me. I want them to act like adults and be honest about what's going on. |
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I tell a guy face to face that its not working between us and we should end it. Mind you; I have never been one to tiptoe around and I am quite direct. Sooooo....you are the type that grabs a man by the throat and screams, "Say my name biatch"?  
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Gah! Sorry for double posting. My browswer's bein a biatch again.
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I just try to keep friendships. It is so much easier than dating. Don't have to worry about breaking up with someone because you never started with them. Don't have to worry about being brave or coward that way, either come to think of it.  You've never had a fight with a friend or had one get mad at you? Or had one give you the silent treatment because they didn't want to talk about what they were mad about? Different issues, but you still have to deal with it sometimes. Oh, yeah, sure. But we could stay friends with some. Some moved away and some were shallow friendships. Depends how close we got and with getting close with some it was not worth it. I have had to keep a professional distance with some friendships. With some friendships it is like its on you is how they explain it as I was given a choice. Like no biggie. And then again I have very few real friendships. Some friendships have been tested in some down and out situations where I was there for them and they were there for me. I have some fair weather friendships. You know that would be an interesting idea of being able to categorize my network of friends.
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I tell a guy face to face that its not working between us and we should end it. Mind you; I have never been one to tiptoe around and I am quite direct. Sooooo....you are the type that grabs a man by the throat and screams, "Say my name biatch"? Damn straight. And who says I grab him by the throat. 
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I tell a guy face to face that its not working between us and we should end it. Mind you; I have never been one to tiptoe around and I am quite direct. I wish that others were direct. I never understood not being direct. Maybe someone who is not/cannot be/doesn't want to be direct can explain it to me? You know I never understood that either Sing. We are supposed to be adults so we should be able to come right out and say whats on our mind but for some reason people don't. This is why I am not in a relationship. I can't get behind the silly mind games that people play in relationships by not being direct. |
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I also prefer a clean break.
Not fussed on the method..phone, face2face, text etc as long as it doesn't drag on. The absolute worse type of break up, in my book, is when you just don't hear from them again. That really grinds my gears .
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That really grinds my gears . I like that saying. 
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Well, if it is not working it is not working. I don't think there is any one way I would handle it, but I would always want to talk about it and air it out. I admit to hating to have to go through it, and wishing to find a way around it, but pretty much just have to dig down, and tell them we need to talk, and then explain what I am feeling and why I feel it is not working. In some cases it has worked out mutually, but in others it has not been so kind. It is those latter ones that make me dread it.
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I generally prefer blubbering and wailing incoherently as loudly as possible in very public places. Once she has the confused and bewildered look and starts glancing around to see who all is staring...I break out the silver bullet...a giant snot bubble and I pee a little bit. For the really stubborn ones I just start yelling..."YOU F*** LIKE MY MOM!!!!"
Problem solved...she hits the door running. This lets her feel better about herself and I don't gotta worry about her bird dogging me later with second thoughts. :) |
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I generally prefer blubbering and wailing incoherently as loudly as possible in very public places. Once she has the confused and bewildered look and starts glancing around to see who all is staring...I break out the silver bullet...a giant snot bubble and I pee a little bit. For the really stubborn ones I just start yelling..."YOU F*** LIKE MY MOM!!!!" Problem solved...she hits the door running. This lets her feel better about herself and I don't gotta worry about her bird dogging me later with second thoughts. :) Freaking brilliant. |
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I ALWAYs let them believe it was their idea. It just goes easier after, the ego thing you know. And, they are happy with me, in retrospect :-) So, to answer your query, I never have to break up, I let them do it. One way or another hahaha I am sooooooooooooooo with you on this one Soufie. My recent ex got back together with me, well he tried, I never officially accepted, so he could break up with me. It was somehow important that he be the breaker upper so I let him have that even though we had never officially gotten back together. When I turned down his proposal, he just couldn't live with that until he came back in his own way and felt like he was the dumper. Everyone thinks girls are so fragile, guys are more fragile it seems. |
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I'm thinking I need to see some action again...been way toooo long since I have. This is necessary for a break up to occure. So I will postpone my commentary unitl I have at least5 one instance in the past year to refer to.
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I'm thinking I need to see some action again...been way toooo long since I have. This is necessary for a break up to occure. So I will postpone my commentary unitl I have at least5 one instance in the past year to refer to. If you have to have at least one instance in the last year then I couldn't even make this thread. |
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I'm thinking I need to see some action again...been way toooo long since I have. This is necessary for a break up to occure. So I will postpone my commentary unitl I have at least5 one instance in the past year to refer to. If you have to have at least one instance in the last year then I couldn't even make this thread. That was just my own personal guid line not for everyone to follow. ..Give us thye gory details of when you dump someone Ruth |
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I know a guy who knows a guy whose cousins uncle had a twin brother that sent a strip-o-gram to his future ex then accused her of cheating on him!
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