Community > 30 and 40 somethings

Topic: Don't you think..........
jenna317 Joined Sun 08/17/08 Posts: 66	Sun 01/01/12 03:05 PM
i just dated a 49 year old man...extemely immature..it depends on the person really

doc38644 Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 44	Sun 01/01/12 09:19 PM
it does depend on the individual. You can't judge all of we 40 somethings by the failings of the ones you went out with. how would you feel isf all guys painted with that broad a brush concerning women...

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Sun 01/01/12 10:00 PM
it does depend on the individual. You can't judge all of we 40 somethings by the failings of the ones you went out with. how would you feel isf all guys painted with that broad a brush concerning women... nothing is absolute, the op stated a certain type she runs into, others are relating their personal experiences too,,,

teadipper Joined Wed 10/19/11 Posts: 2732	Mon 01/02/12 12:08 PM
I just want you guys to know that a guy we are all friends with in forum started reading this thread and was so absolutely upset that that he couldn't finish reading it. He is my age and he was just devastated that his friends said such things.

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Mon 01/02/12 03:32 PM
it does depend on the individual. You can't judge all of we 40 somethings by the failings of the ones you went out with. how would you feel isf all guys painted with that broad a brush concerning women... I absolutely 100% agree that it does dependent on the individual....Having re-read the comments, most (if not all) of the contributors that have made “judgements”, either recognised that that it does dependent on the individual or acknowledged that they were generalising.

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Mon 01/02/12 03:36 PM
I just want you guys to know that a guy we are all friends with in forum started reading this thread and was so absolutely upset that that he couldn't finish reading it. He is my age and he was just devastated that his friends said such things. I find this comment very divisive. The only reason I can see for posting it would to try and elicit some sort of guilt..as I stated above, most (if not all) of the contributors recognised that they were generalising based on personal experience.

doc38644 Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 44	Mon 01/02/12 03:42 PM Edited by doc38644 on Mon 01/02/12 03:48 PM
i just don't want anyone judging me before having gotten to know who i am. i am an individual; a unique, one of a kind individual. And while there are certain constants among men my age in this culture, i like to think that im a great catch; the preverbial 'diamond in the rough'. Truth be told, we ALL have our issues/problems, regardless of gender. Having said that,i do understand that a lot of guys my age never grew up. Some people are determined to 'play' as long as they think they can get away with it. The trick is to make an early recognition and avoid them, no matter how physically appealing they may be. Another idea would be to quit looking for your 'winners' at the 'losers lounge' [bars]...This is kind of a new and scary venue for me to find someone, as much as it is for others. To be sure, some of those losers will stumble onto this site, but we are a bit isolated on here. As desperate as we may think being on here is,we have added insulation from people with unappealing characteristics. Be sure before you meet or give out information you may wish you hadn't later. Take advantage of what this venue offers without taking advantage of others

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Mon 01/02/12 03:46 PM Edited by 42BlackBBW on Mon 01/02/12 03:47 PM
IMO, most people tend to be as open minded as they can when it comes to meeting someone new however, you can’t deny that most people of a certain age have ‘baggage’. It just depends on whether it’s the size of a holdall or a HGV (heavy good vehicle)- please note, that I am generalising again

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 01/02/12 03:46 PM
I just want you guys to know that a guy we are all friends with in forum started reading this thread and was so absolutely upset that that he couldn't finish reading it. He is my age and he was just devastated that his friends said such things. Why would someone be upset about this thread?

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 01/02/12 03:46 PM Edited by singmesweet on Mon 01/02/12 03:47 PM
i just don't want anyone judging me before having gotten to know who i am. i am an individual; a unique, one of a kind individual. And while there are certain constants among men my age in this culture, i like to think that im a great catch; the preverbial 'diamond in the rough'. Truth be told, we ALL have our issues/problems, regardless of gender. Having said that,i do understand that a lot of guys my age never grew up. Some people are determined to 'play' as long as they think they can get away with it. The trick is to make an early recognition and avoid them, no matter how physically appealing they may be. Another idea would be to quit looking for your 'winners' at the 'losers lounge' [bars]... Then start getting to know people in the forums by participating more. The only way to let them know about you is to be more active.

doc38644 Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 44	Mon 01/02/12 03:50 PM
whoah......i just started on this site last night...responded last night and today....im doing the best i can

doc38644 Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 44	Mon 01/02/12 03:50 PM
i edited the comment you commented on, by the way...

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Mon 01/02/12 03:55 PM
Hello and welcome to the site Doc38644

doc38644 Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 44	Mon 01/02/12 04:00 PM Edited by doc38644 on Mon 01/02/12 04:06 PM
Thanks.....hope i can stand up under the scrutiny. i must say that, having looked back and re-read some of the commentary; im looking for a younger woman....younger than me. i set my age range based on what i gathered from female friends of mine. i hope that doesn't make me some creepy, 'midlife thing' kind of guy, afterall, my range does go up into the 40's......and i would never message a twenty-something unless she initiated it. it would be a one in a million shot to find a good match with such a large age difference.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Mon 01/02/12 04:02 PM
i just dated a 49 year old man...extemely immature..it depends on the person really truth,,,,men can be immature or mature, likewise so can women immature tends to attract immature and vice versa, and age is no guarantee of which is which

doc38644 Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 44	Mon 01/02/12 04:03 PM
AMEN...........PREACH!!

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Mon 01/02/12 04:07 PM
Thanks.....hope i can stand up under the scrutiny. i must say that, having looked back and re-read some of the commentary; im looking for a younger woman....younger than me. i set my age range based on what i gathered from female friends of mine. i hope that doesn't make me some creepy, 'midlife thing' kind of guy, afterall, my range does go up into the 40's......and i would likely never message a twenty-something unless she initiated it. I have no doubt that you'll "stand up under the scrutiny" just fine. If not, I know a person that can loan you a shovel (to dig yourself a deeper hole) just kidding. Have fun mingling

doc38644 Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 44	Mon 01/02/12 04:17 PM
....sounded more like an opinion to me. You don't HAVE to feel insulted by her opinion if you choose not to be.......maybe we can call it a 'general'opinion...

doc38644 Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 44	Mon 01/02/12 04:26 PM
that's ok, im trying to unload the backhoe i used to dig my holes with...

teadipper Joined Wed 10/19/11 Posts: 2732	Mon 01/02/12 04:40 PM
I just want you guys to know that a guy we are all friends with in forum started reading this thread and was so absolutely upset that that he couldn't finish reading it. He is my age and he was just devastated that his friends said such things. I find this comment very divisive. The only reason I can see for posting it would to try and elicit some sort of guilt..as I stated above, most (if not all) of the contributors recognised that they were generalising based on personal experience. Sorry that was not my intent. He just wrote me all upset. I told him that you guys didn't believe that about him personally.