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Tea, I hope you see that you have been tremendously insulting to "Most of the women on mingle" All they did was answer your generalisation with an alternate one. I get bashed all to heck all the time. People freely bash me about my opinions and I rarely say anything. If you put yourselves in with "most", I did not say you. "Most" of the women on Mingle who I speak of DO NOT POST. |
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Thanks.....hope i can stand up under the scrutiny. i must say that, having looked back and re-read some of the commentary; im looking for a younger woman....younger than me. i set my age range based on what i gathered from female friends of mine. i hope that doesn't make me some creepy, 'midlife thing' kind of guy, afterall, my range does go up into the 40's......and i would never message a twenty-something unless she initiated it. it would be a one in a million shot to find a good match with such a large age difference. Just don't take things too seriously and you'll do fine here. |
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Tea, I hope you see that you have been tremendously insulting to "Most of the women on mingle" All they did was answer your generalisation with an alternate one. How do you know that most women on mingle were insulted? |
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....sounded more like an opinion to me. You don't HAVE to feel insulted by her opinion if you choose not to be.......maybe we can call it a 'general'opinion... I didnt feel personally insulted, but I found the comments rude. She implied a whole lot, and not one of the posters seem to fit into the rant. All they did was have an alternate opinion. I dont think they needed to be called 'biotches' or told they 'plow thru good men' if they didnt want to continue a relationship with a man. I have dated men who acted like these amazing nice guys in front of their female friends when with me. They were not like that in their absence which is why it didnt last. Just seems like too many assumptions made about 'most of the women on mingle'. Clearly she cant possibly know 'most of the women on mingle'. Ask one of the girls of my guy friends, I am their best advocate. If a guy I know is into her, I will support their relationship one hundred percent. |
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Edited by
doc38644
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Mon 01/02/12 05:00 PM
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....and it appears the 'other opinion' makes too many generalizations about men....so what's the point exactly? Generalizations are generalizations. People who believe those generalizations about everyone they meet are doomed to fail in their efforts to meet someone. No one wants to have to live down the reputation of their predecessor, and yet, some of the comments made certainly suggest that a man in his forties is starting behind the eight-ball with some women. It's refreshing to know that not all women out there are so narrow-minded. Having said that i do realize that not every comment on here was made in malice. As far as her responses; [name-calling]; while unwarranted, it seemed to me to be borne of frustration she felt on behalf of her older friends...We're all human. Probably if we all looked more at our own problems first, we would not only avoid those with unappealing character, but we wouldn't attract them either.
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I won't....I just hope people can take me the same way. I'm opinionated to be sure, but I'm not some raving, ranting lunatic. I just speak my mind......That's what a forum is for...
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I won't....I just hope people can take me the same way. I'm opinionated to be sure, but I'm not some raving, ranting lunatic. I just speak my mind......That's what a forum is for... There are lots of opinionated people here. Some people deal with other's opinions well, some do not. |
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I made friends with one of the mods first thing on here. First thing they told me, "Don't take haters seriously". I could say "Everyone woman on here is made of platinum and encrusted with sapphires". Someone would take offense.........
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Tea, I hope you see that you have been tremendously insulting to "Most of the women on mingle" All they did was answer your generalisation with an alternate one. How do you know that most women on mingle were insulted? I was insulted. Anyway, the point is that we state what our general experience has been. Men and women both do it. When men complain about women I don't believe they are talking about "all women". It's usually just that they've had more than a few bad experiences. We all have. |
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I won't....I just hope people can take me the same way. I'm opinionated to be sure, but I'm not some raving, ranting lunatic. I just speak my mind......That's what a forum is for... Welcome to Mingle. 
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I made friends with one of the mods first thing on here. First thing they told me, "Don't take haters seriously". I could say "Everyone woman on here is made of platinum and encrusted with sapphires". Someone would take offense......... So true... 
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Tea, I hope you see that you have been tremendously insulting to "Most of the women on mingle" All they did was answer your generalisation with an alternate one. How do you know that most women on mingle were insulted? Good point. It was the remarks that were insulting. Thats all. But you said in another post that you weren't personally insulted. So either you were insulted or you weren't. Why speak for other women? |
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Tea, I hope you see that you have been tremendously insulting to "Most of the women on mingle" All they did was answer your generalisation with an alternate one. How do you know that most women on mingle were insulted? I was insulted. Anyway, the point is that we state what our general experience has been. Men and women both do it. When men complain about women I don't believe they are talking about "all women". It's usually just that they've had more than a few bad experiences. We all have. I didn't really take it seriously. I knew I wasn't part of the "most women" she was talking about, so it didn't bug me. If I had felt part of the "most women" maybe it would have been different. |
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Tea, I hope you see that you have been tremendously insulting to "Most of the women on mingle" All they did was answer your generalisation with an alternate one. How do you know that most women on mingle were insulted? Good point. It was the remarks that were insulting. Thats all. Shall we go back through my posts and see how many times I have as a person specifically been jumped or insulted? Not as part of a group? Is I really took this all seriously I would cry myself to sleep but I don't. Internet. Home of people who act really brave behind screen names without even posting pictures of themselves. Really how seriously can you take the words of an anonymous stranger? If everyone accepted other comments and opinions well and had good social graces, the internet dating world would not exist. |
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Tea, I hope you see that you have been tremendously insulting to "Most of the women on mingle" All they did was answer your generalisation with an alternate one. How do you know that most women on mingle were insulted? I was insulted. Anyway, the point is that we state what our general experience has been. Men and women both do it. When men complain about women I don't believe they are talking about "all women". It's usually just that they've had more than a few bad experiences. We all have. I didn't really take it seriously. I knew I wasn't part of the "most women" she was talking about, so it didn't bug me. If I had felt part of the "most women" maybe it would have been different. I still think she's either assuming she knows what is in the minds of these women she observes, or these are just not 'most women' at all. I think its the 'occasional woman', like the occasional man who is this way. Cripes, if I thought 'most men' were no good, I would be crab ee. By speaking for most women here like you did, you're also assuming you know what's in the mind of the women as well. |
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But you said in another post that you weren't personally insulted. So either you were insulted or you weren't. Why speak for other women? I wasnt. The remarks themselves were insulting and I dont want folks to think I endorse that sort of thing by saying nothing. The remarks were insulting. I was insulted. Whether I should have been or not have been I don't really care. I'm over it. |
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Edited by
singmesweet
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Mon 01/02/12 05:53 PM
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But you said in another post that you weren't personally insulted. So either you were insulted or you weren't. Why speak for other women? I wasnt. The remarks themselves were insulting and I dont want folks to think I endorse that sort of thing by saying nothing. The remarks were insulting. I was insulted. Whether I should have been or not have been I don't really care. I'm over it. Honestly, the OP seems to change her mind about things all the time. And about guys at least a couple times since she's been here. And has told some interesting stories about her past with guys. So... I'm just not inclined to be offended by her opinion. She's not perfect and neither am I. What works for her may not work for me. By the way, none of this was an insult to the OP. She's just very open in the forums and what she shares. :) |
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I wasn’t insulted. I felt her words were insulting but I wasn't insulted.
I made my comment because I felt that what Tea said was needlessly inflammatory and felt strongly enough to type a response. When it comes to dating, I HAVE to be “platinum and encrusted with sapphire” because any man that comes into my life isn’t just coming into my life, he’s coming into my kid’s lives as well and I am fiercely over protective of them...I appreciate that people without children may not understand this as well as those with children. I won’t say anything more on this topic... |
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Shall we go back through my posts and see how many times I have as a person specifically been jumped or insulted? Not as part of a group? Is I really took this all seriously I would cry myself to sleep but I don't. Internet. Home of people who act really brave behind screen names without even posting pictures of themselves. Really how seriously can you take the words of an anonymous stranger? If everyone accepted other comments and opinions well and had good social graces, the internet dating world would not exist. Youre not allowed to insult people. At least thats what I thought. I dont want you to be insulted and if I see it happen I will step up. If you were referring to me, I actually have 2 pics of myself posted in the profile. Im interested in the words of anonymous strangers. I like all sorts of varying ideas. I have seen your profile. I am aware you have pictures. I have been slammed repeatedly. Let me say I am "a muse" and watch hell fire reign upon me. |
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But you said in another post that you weren't personally insulted. So either you were insulted or you weren't. Why speak for other women? I wasnt. The remarks themselves were insulting and I dont want folks to think I endorse that sort of thing by saying nothing. The remarks were insulting. I was insulted. Whether I should have been or not have been I don't really care. I'm over it. Honestly, the OP seems to change her mind about things all the time. And about guys at least a couple times since she's been here. And has told some interesting stories about her past with guys. So... I'm just not inclined to be offended by her opinion. She's not perfect and neither am I. What works for her may not work for me. By the way, none of this was an insult to the OP. She's just very open in the forums and what she shares. :) If you know me from forum, you no I am ever stagnant in my beliefs and at all times fluid and changing. I am really not as open as people believe. I know a lot of people feel they really really know me and they do not. Two people on here now me moderately well and one left the site. I do not think of relationships as something that once you start, you have to stick with for life if the guy gets you and then turns around and once he thinks you are his, declares he wants to then change everything about you. I do not require that anybody change for me so I am who I am at 41. "Take me as I am. It may mean you need to be a stronger man........" |
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