Yeah, I like those kind of dates as well :).

To my own view i think the word date is just the little time or chance created between you two and at the same choosing a special place as a point of meeting in order to let know each other well(talk your mind)before going into that great word called relationship(short or long that could lead to marriage)

So the date is just one time to talk before getting into a relationship?

..isn't a date like one of those small fruits some people eat?
:O

Yes, I love them. If we dated, you could feed me dates and grapes!

so your wanting to get together with someone and eat fruit?

Ok, ok.. I'll be serious.

A date is like going for a rectal exam.
(Seriously, hear me out first.)

You scan the field, looking for the best doctor you can both afford and find.
(Analogy: Dating sites, bars, wherever you go to find your 'date')

Once found, you meet with him and open a series of topics in which you discuss your options.
(Analogy: Your way of determining capability with the other)

Sometimes, you get unlucky, and find that doctor who slaps on a glove and just slams his whole hand in your---
(Analogy: People only after sex)

Ours, the experience is wonderful, yet somehow still mortifying. Dating itself, can be mortifying. Thus, the analogy.

The date itself determines what your next course of action will be.

So, thus, it's like getting a rectal exam.

Sometimes it isn't that bad..
Others.. it's downright traumatizing.

Dates should be necessary, because how else do you truly know what your getting yourself into?

..and I rambled so much.. I forgot the actual question?

Let's hope you are not sharing the rectal exam analogy with your dates!

Why is dating mortifying?

lol

Dating can be mortifying for some.

Like..

Blind dates. Nuff said.

And if, out the gate, you already hold a high level of interest; impressing the other can truly be a major stress factor. Even if someone is being themself, I, for example, still go that extra mile to try and really impress.

I mean..

What if you get gas? Or one of your exes shows up?
Or she doesn't like the place I picked out to eat, or I hope she likes this movie..

So many factors to consider.

Unless you're like me and just take it one step at a time.

Sounds like you're over thinking things way too much. If you're worried about what she thinks, ask for her input when planning dates. And stop trying so hard to impress that you stress yourself out. If she likes you, she'll like you.

So no, I don't agree at all that dating is mortifying. Sometimes a date doesn't go well, but you just move on.

It's not for me, personally.
I was saying, it can be, in general, for some people.

I take things one step at a time.

Just merely speculating.

Ah, so you were speaking for others, but not yourself? Why? I prefer not to assume what others may think and let them speak for themselves.

in reading the thread it all sounds a bit more complicated than my perception anyway

I agree there is some over thinking in here - but then - at least there is thinking

A Date is (in my mind)...

1. A set of numbers on a calender.
2. A small fruit that tried to kill Indiana Jones.
3. An interaction between 2 or more people out to have a good time.

None particularly frightening. I think if you put too much stress or worry into going on a "date", then you defeat the whole purpose of the date in the first place. Go out, have a good time and see what you can learn about each other and possibly yourselves. If things work out it can lead to dating, which is not scary at all if you are comfortable with the person you are spending time with. And if you are not... then why are you dating?

Dates shouldn't be complicated. So, I guess that's why I don't get the over thinking things when it comes to planning them. Just find something you both want to do and go for it.

I also don't see the point in going out of your way to impress someone. It's obvious when that happens. I'd rather someone just be themselves and let me get to know them. I will like them more for who they are than what they do to try to impress me.

My last couple dates were a lot of fun. The first one we met for drinks at a local bar, then wandered around outside, talking for a long time. The second date was out to dinner, then more talking outside, looking at a nice view of the city. Simple dates, but they worked very well.

I do think it's amusing that people keep pointing out dates on a calendar or the fruit. Well at first, anyway.

OK, it's also a city in Japan as well as an acronym for the Design Automation and Test in Europe.

So there, I added something new.

Well,,,THATS a GOOD QUESTION,,and Let me try and help..

A date,,,rhymes with LATE which makes one nervous and they wait.

Then theres fate which we can't rate, so then they all think, wait

That opens doors to think way to long.
Then it all just seems so wrong.

Some can think of date as Bait and then try some fate, but still they come down to WAIT.

I think the answer that you seek, is to find a date and peek,,
for if that word called WAIT,,did not rhyme with that word ,,DATE..

Then MAYBE we could never anticipate the wait for a date..

But,,then again,,,MAYBE THIS IS ALL WAY TO LATE..



Your NOT WELL Terry...


I know,,,,,but I try.....

Of course that something new has nothing to do with the forum this is in.. .