From reading many posts here since I've been here, it seems like some people are afraid of the word date. There are always people talking about how they don't date, or they hate dating, or they don't want to date and so on. Why?

And if you don't date/don't like dating, how do you go about getting to know someone? Do you just pretend you're not dating? Do you call it something different?

i don't date because dating implies more than just friendship.
i think i need to learn how friends work first.
basically,
i can't be physically attracted to you.

From my experience, men and women have different definitions for the word "date". I have a friend that I have known for about 20 years. She was a person I knew from around town, we had some mutual friends and would talk occasionally. Within the last year we began spending more time together, talking daily and going out, or having dinner and hanging out at her place. I know she is on a tight budget, she owns here own condo and after bills she doesn't have a lot left, so when we go out I usually pay for dinner, drinks, whatever. She is a great friend and I can afford it.

When we first started going out to dinner and such I thought, in the beginning, these were "dates". We were going out and getting to know each other better. As we began to spend more time together and realized we have fun together and have a lot of common interest, I brought up the topic of a physical relationship. It was at this point I found out the difference in the "date" definition.

Pay attention guys, and ladies feel free to correct me.

Man's definition, Date, taking a woman out to dinner, for drinks and various other activities in an attempt to get to know them better and see if the possibility is there for a serious relationship. If there is no spark then the dating process ends and perhaps a friendship can continue.

Woman's definition, Date, going out with a man to dinner, for drinks and various other activities in an attempt to get to know them better and see if the possibility is there for a serious relationship. If there is no spark then the dating continues until such time as the man attempts to get physical, at which point you tell the man we are "just friends and I don't want to risk losing your friendship by getting involved with you that way. But we can still go out as friends." Unsaid but thought, "As long as you continue to pay for everything and realize you have no chance of getting any!"

Unless your name is Colbert.

colbert is in a category of his own.

He transcends dating.

Nope I date.

I would date if a suitable prospect existed.

2date
noun
Definition of DATE
1
a : the time at which an event occurs <the date of his birth> b : a statement of the time of execution or making <the date on the letter>
2
: duration
3
: the period of time to which something belongs
4
a : an appointment to meet at a specified time; especially : a social engagement between two persons that often has a romantic character b : a person with whom one has a usually romantic date
5
: an engagement for a professional performance (as of a dance band)
— to date
: up to the present moment
Origin of DATE
Middle English, from Anglo-French, from Late Latin data, from data (as in data Romae given at Rome), feminine of Latin datus, past participle of dare to give; akin to Latin dos gift, dowry, Greek didonai to give
First Known Use: 14th century


I THINK ALL OF THEM BUT LEX ARE CONFUSED BY THIS LONG DAUNTING DEFINITION. PERHAPS THEY ARE SCARED BY 5)

Is this all based on the one woman you mentioned? Sounds like you're a little bitter over what happened. Don't assume that all women are like the one you had a bad experience with.

Then again, I don't assume that a date involves a man paying for everything.

Not 1 woman, seems to be a recurring theme for me. LOL And I am not bitter at all as a matter of fact we are still very close friends and still go out all the time. She is my best friend.

Perhaps I am just too old fashioned, when I meet someone I am interested I try to get to know them. I want the person I fall in love with to be my best friend. The problem is I usually end up watching, and listening to, the women I care about get treated like crap by guys the are involved with. And I can't tell you the number of times I have heard, " I'm afraid of losing your friendship."

If dating means seeing someone regularly and Phukn wit no serious commitment then I am all for it

Some dates can be deadly, just watch what happened to the little monkey in Raiders Of The Lost Ark

To me a date is a day in time, some days are good days and some I'd love to forget!

Maybe you should try and separate dating and friendship. You don't have to pay for everything when you go out with a friend. Actually, you don't have to when you go out on a date either. From what you've said, it sounds like you're letting women use you for what you're willing to pay for.

Yeah, it can mean that.

not here

dating is a process of getting to know someone not using them for sex or money - that is called ummmm....something else

sorry but it is what it is

any date who expects a decent and attractive woman to behave like that is crazy, dreaming, or both (or "paying" for it if u know what I mean)


this is exactly why many women will not have first date sex

I know you won;t agree so I'll call the truce up front

I call it going out i guess. But either way its all the same. I don't think its the word dating that scares someone...moreover maybe its their experiences in past instances that lead them to believe its negative. I think it's called having a closed mind...whatever you call it, courting, meeting, treating or simply hanging out.

Sometimes people use 'date' to mean 'in a relationship with' - in that sense I 'date' women.

But dating can also mean going out and doing something like dinner/movie/play/picnic/etc with a woman (often one you don't know very well) for the purpose of building a connection or exploring your compatibility.

I only go on these kinds of 'dates' with woman I am already in a relationship with.

In that sense "I don't date". I don't use these social outings to get to know women or explore whether I'd want to be closer to them.




Pillow talk.




I guess you are talking about a 'phase' to a relationship? A labeling of a period in between 'friendship' and 'together'?

I usually move directly from friendship to something more meaningful and involved than 'dating', but sometimes less restrictive. We might still be seeing other people, but we are not 'merely dating'.

Although date has its definition.. many people perceive it differently.
Some can view it as a commitment of just going out with each other while others may view it as I go out with many people.
A date is having a set time, place and day to meet and have fun..however, nobody says I have a date with my best friend.
It is a very broad word for everyone.
And yes people do fear it, not all though.