xo nurjoyce.!!!!

I knew there was a reason I like you massage! It's your ability to be tactful, eloquent, and honorable.

i really wanted advice on if i should give this guy a chance or not....
but, tonight i realize why i am on this site....my friends!
you are very dear to me and i u!!!!
thank you all for your response and advice and for your support!

well I,m not your friend , but I gave you honest advice!

well nurjoyce ,when i read the thread, my opinion was that he seemed very controllin right from the get go, reguardless of what he said after, thats just my take on it. and what do i know anyway. lol

lorraine-- i appreciate your advice also

sorry I upset you!

no problem--
i do not hold grudges!
i apologize myself!

Yeah, huh. Ok. Lorraine

Aww Nurjoyce, you is such a sweetie ! I didn't realize that Fembot programming included warmth, I will have to give my regards to your manufacturers.

As for dude-tacular...well, in my opinion if a man says something he should stand by it. I felt bad for the guy at first, but that last letter...he had originally said he just wanted to clear the air, that he wasn't going to play the game to get you back...and if that is the case I don't understand what prompted that last letter. If I tell someone I'm just clearing the air, I don't write another letter making a plea of some sort...I make a statement and I stand by it.

Tomokun--- u r cute
sweetie, this fembot comes with a lot of
features!!

It's the little mustache.

I'd like to give those special features a test-drive sometime...


Bad Tomo! No being pervy!


Erm...what other features are you talking about?

you have to read my manual

I can't think of a book more interesting than one that shows me how to twist your dials

awe
how sweet!!!

So's artificial flavoring, but I don't think I cause Cancer

so did you get the addy? lol

Color me confused

It's a good thing I look good in a dress

WOW,,,Nurjoyce,,,did ya ever think that MAYBE,,,,just MAYBE the dude was thinking (wow,she never called me back, she must NOT of liked me??) So then the poor smock calls YOU and is STILL wandering if YOU like him and YOU trip and take him wrong and say C-YA,,,,,WOW girlfriend,,,,you could
have just lost a great dude who was just "TRYING" to hard to FEEL YA,wink,wink,lol,lol,

Its ok,,,I still LOV YA,wink,lol,

i actually had to think for a few....I read the whole thread 2wice

this is where it is important to read between the lines.

We are who we are.

If i remember correctly Joyce has a demanding job in Nursing....
i would even go so far as to call it EXTREME Nursing, I am guessing that in communicating with this man she has spoken of her work and it's pressures and i would have hoped she knew of some of these situations that Carl was going thru as well.

It's not very clear to me if he has just revealed all these things now or if he is reiterating these as his possible motives for having such behaviour.

If this information was not exchanged/shared on any level then I would even question the sensibility of going on a date at all!!!

so back to the point...Joyce, i can totally relate to how you felt at the end of your day!! I would have felt indignation and reacted the same way.

oops i said reacted.... he was indignant too, because he had not heard from you. so to feel indignant is indeed a RE-ACTION rather than a response.

but hey...tough. after a day after day after week after year of what we do

if someone does not get it when we have been as clear as we could....

were you clear...did he have a clue of what your environment is like?

alot of people just can't imagine at all what it is like to be in emergency medicine..what it does to us , who we are and all that we are responsible to uphold with professional integrity...how we have to manage our energy and WE HAVE CHILDREN!!! sheesh...SO on that note

you made the right call ...but you could consider looking at how much you could have avoided if at one moment you just called ...and said

"it's not a good time right now, this day is crazy"..who knows?.... you don't owe it to him , but to yourself so that you don't have to spend this energy in confusion.

3 chances comes to mind...but use your tools . A person that has gone thru these experiences has alot to process and hopefully will choose to find an effective way to do it. You will be involved in all of that...

someone once said to me...." So should I just walk away because 'he' is in the Hard Basket??"

that's a good question. How hard is it?? ....( LMAO)..sorry

ok ok ...

when i say use your tools, i mean remember what you know and value yourself as an instrument that is very important and a HUGE treasure to many people...maybe screen more carefully or at least do your best to communicate your priorities so someone will understand why you didn't call.


maybe i should give you bl8ant lessons..lol

Sorry Joyce I have to disagree with you slightly, You were tired, I realize, but the guy was giving you every opportunity to make him feel that he may be important to you and all he needed was the one right word, and he would have been patient.
It sounds like you were both on the wrong page at the time. no one likes to be stood up, even on the phone, and I would guess that by the time he called, he was now at his worst, most frustrating time. Thought he had possibly a great thing about to happen and found it slipping thru his fingers. Of course this is only a supposition as I was not there!