I usually find myself asking questions on what to do to make things go the way i want them(good things) when it seems there's no reason to be happy until you get what you want.

One always wants to make sure they take their happy pills just in case something or some one comes along to take one's happiness away.

Happy pills? What do you mean rainbow pls?

Where I work when they cut back on the medications for our residents due to state mandates we were asking them since the residents couldn't have them to help the residents if they could give the medications to us workers so that we could deal with the residents.

Maybe try switching your approach.
Isolate and define the things that
make you unhappy.
Work to change that.
Give yourself no excuse to be unhappy.

Well I don't think we should be happy ALL the time. Unless a little sad comes to us how would we truly know we were happy?

(Ok fates that be, I said a little sad... I think I have had more than enough of my fair share of sad. I am truly ready for some happy. Even a little piece. )

They told me once that I had an immature desire to be happy. But I have matured since then and have a mature desire to be happy.

Try doing things that you actually enjoy, rather than just trying to get what you want. Maybe if you're doing things that you like, you'll be a bit happier?

If you truly wish to be happy, stop trying to manipulate life so that things go your way. This type of behavior is certain to create UN-happiness. There are two types of happiness; relative and absolute.
Relative happiness is based solely upon externals - money, cars, houses, girlfriend/boyfriend. Relative happiness is dependent on the material world to define you and is always certain to end. Money, cars, houses, etc. come and go. Even if you manage to hang on to it, you won't be taking it with you when you leave this earth.

Absolute happiness is never based on external conditions. It is based solely upon internal conditions and is not dependent upon material possessions for its survival.

The path to peace and serenity can be summed up in one word: Acceptance. When we learn to let go and realize that there really isn't much we have control over, acceptance becomes as natural as breathing. We set our intentions, take appropriate actions, get out of the way and allow the Universe to do the rest.

i start with having gratitude.
even in seemingly "bad situations" you can stop and smell the roses...
personaly i try not to look at lifes quirks as bad or good, just another experience to learn from....
good example......when my daughter had her accident and i stood at her hospital bed. my thought was i am greatful shes alive for one..but i was also greatful for every "seemingly bad" situation ive been through all the troubles and hard times...cause it made me strong enough to handle it and really be there for her...
so im saying try not to look at things as good or bad..it changes the way you look at and handle things

Thank u soufiehere

Thank u singmesweet

Sry abt ur daughter n thanks a lot insangel

I really hope that your NOT, ONLY HAPPY, when you GET WHAT YOU WANT?
Because life is funny like that,,IT don't like to give away MUCH,,most of what WE want to FIND or GET,,,,comes through GIVING OF OURSELVES to IT and THEN,,it opens a little more to us..
In other words,,we get what we put forth,,and through THAT we become MORE through knowing how THAT effected others to see, and know us...

I almost,, everyday,,live happy,,go to bed happy,,and wake again happy,,well,,I mean,,I;m NOT cracking the freak up when I say that,,lol,BUT,,the mood IS THAT ,,,,That I could easily fall into a laugh or smile..PLEASE,,don't get me wrong here,,with YOU thinking my LIFE is SO full and happy,,that I live each day in,,ITS NOT.
Most would be insane to live inside a truck and be gone all the time,,but,,after many years,,its just my norm..But filled with stress and sometimes fear of accidentally killing someone who pulls out in front of me ,,or runs on their feet in front of my truck...
So even though THAT all surrounds me daily,,I LIVE HAPPY INSIDE ME
and I project THAT around and from me..becasue that IS ME..
Now how to get that,,,well,,I don't know you to even suggest,,but
as for anytime,,I might have a feel sorry trip on myself,,I just think in mind,,someone who I know,,who is in worst shape,,like dying or just lost someone they loved,,or hell,,even a street baggers life,,and THEN,,I THANK GOD for ALL I HAVE as this person I am..
Because I could be LIVING in one of there shoes and I am NOT..
So I'm always thankful of that and try to make the people I come into contact with,,smile,,or at least talk enough with them,,for them to know,,I have a heart and felt their issues they were telling me about..And in THAT,,I feel better as ME..
Do I get sad,,yes,,but OMG its short lived in mind,,as it just fades away,,through me being my natured person,,I have grown tobecome..because when I was young,,I was NOT always happy,,and could go to pissy pretty easy...
I think the only way anyone can truly be happy and smile a bunch everyday,,is to be happy inside yourself,,and to love who you are with all your faults,,because I have MANY,,yet,,I don't dwell on ME,,I try and make me better through what I know is not my BEST ME..
On here JOKING makes others laugh,,so THAT makes me laugh,,reaching out to someone in need of a friend,,makes me feel better for at least TRYING to be their friend,,CALL IT,,,HELPING EACH OTHER,,?
because THAT is my UP for me...my happy...
And I do that with people in person as well as on here,,,it has become my person,,,and we each have to find OUR OWN UP,,to know how to make our self snap-out of any negativities we might be reacting on,,and to stay positive of the better...
OK,,YOU NOW,,know MY LIFE,,,,lol,,I HOPE this helps you find your HAPPY!!!Good Luck and KEEPON SMILING!!!!!

Find you own peace. You have to have peace to be happy.

Thank u iam4u.ur words are helpful.

Be a peace maker.

I find that a good vibrator and burning dragon's blood incense helps. LOL.

I can see/feel how it's easier for others with a terminal illness/chronic illness to accept what they already have. Their recovery makes them stop and look at the world how others don't see it. You have your average everyday person, who just goes about his usual routine everyday, going to work, etc. Then you have people who have really severe, painful illnesses. I guess I'm saying you're kinda lucky enough not to have one of them illnesses. But of course, you've never had one? So then you may not know a bigger difference in happiness level. E.g, my grandad has been amputated, yet i think it's amazing how he remains so calm about it. If it were me, i'd have at least have had to talk to a therapist about living a new life without my fingers and legs. Find what kind of stuff makes you happiest and go forth.