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he is cheating on his chick with the FWB - be glad your not HER
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Edited by
RainbowTrout
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Wed 12/07/11 06:54 PM
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I am sorry to hear that. You missed out on a possible women's support group. Where I live they love to compare notes. It is like, "So that lying cheating bastard is now cheating on you. I wonder who he will cheat on next." My friend who used to work here had this happen to her. The guy was complaining how the one he left her for was hard to live with. She said, "Don't come complaining to me. If you weren't such a lying cheating bastard to begin with maybe you wouldn't have that problem." 
Good thing the bloke never got me to cheat with him. It truly changes everything. I really don't believe in open relationships either. I guess being an old soul isn't the norm of today's world. Huh? Who knew? This guy, just to add a little tidbit, said the girl he's in a relationship with never gave him a happy. And he picked me, wow. His opening email was a little strange too. The Subject line said "You're the Best" even before I viewed or said hi to the guy. And he also admited that he googled me. Which I find extremely stalkerish and weird as frick. lol Ladies do you agree? I mean, whatever happened to just having conversations? You go, I go?  
I am glad to hear that you were smart enough to dodge a bullet. That is a good survivor technique. I always liked personal letterheads myself. I can see where an opening line like that wouldn't be personal therefore wouldn't be sincere.
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I am so glad its not me. Imagine the drama that would unfold when the girl in question (who I feel a little bad for) found out? lol She may or may not care. I feel like I was on an episode of Cheaters, only nothing happened and I wasn't doing anything really questionable. I use the fact that he lied as the excuse.
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I am glad to hear that you were smart enough to dodge a bullet. That is a good survivor technique. I always liked personal letterheads myself. I can see where an opening line like that wouldn't be personal therefore wouldn't be sincere.
Yeah that one was just a little TOO personal. |
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I am glad to hear that you were smart enough to dodge a bullet. That is a good survivor technique. I always liked personal letterheads myself. I can see where an opening line like that wouldn't be personal therefore wouldn't be sincere.
Yeah that one was just a little TOO personal. I hear you. When I was in basic training the drill sergeant was calling all of us ladies. So when that lady lieutenant asked me why me why I didn't salute her I was at a loss for words especially when I tried to apologize. I said I am sorry sir. She then asked me if I looked like a sir to her. I said, Ma'm. No ma'm. And here I was just getting used to be called a lady and a real lady asks me a question like that. Yup. Another good survivor technique I have found is to act like one is deaf and dumb.
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..truth is even when you think you know someone things can change in an instant and one just has to learn how to roll with the punches or get outta the game..i chose the latter..and now .."nothing else matters" threw that in 'cause i'm listening to metallica and may not have anything to do with this thread... 
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Aww, sweetie... you are welcome for the welcome. "tis not your FAULT though... just life, right? Careful/scared... what's the difference, huh? You tried and succeeded in that... be proud. And you learned something too!! Whatta gal you are. Okay, you're hurt. Welcome (again) to Mingle. Balls to the wall, baby... make the boyz cry. 
Haha, I don't think I have the capability of making boys cry. Who knows. I may leave one who I think may be falling for me and find him running to me @ the airport telling me don't go. Sorry I cliched that, was the first thought that popped up.  Thanks again! 
Nah... I understand this too well. My heart goes out to ya'. You're better than the average on this site... forgive me for assuming. 
I wish you the best... truly do. |
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This happens a lot. That's why it's SO important to know as much as you can (realistically) about someone before things go too far. And I have found it's just as bad in real life as it is on line. The difference being that sometimes it's a little easier to look into things in real life. I always recommend some healthy skepticism. There may be some decent people out there, but they're well-hidden. Yeah the thing is I only had just a handful of conversations with the guy. Never really gotten to know him as a person. Then all of a sudden he sprouts this bit of info and I was about to scream out of frustration into my computer. Thanks for wasting my time buddy. Truly appreciate it. Its every girl's dream to be lied to. Decent people exist, I know this. The trick is peeling back the layers and see what happens next. ya online is different than IRL - IRL if u cheat & lie your sister's best friend's cousin down the block will come over & tell u that the guy has a GF already or some shyte like that - or you'll know just from hanging out with mutual friends who is attached....you don;t get that background foundation online - so you have to build it by talking & asking the right questions |
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..truth is even when you think you know someone things can change in an instant and one just has to learn how to roll with the punches or get outta the game..i chose the latter..and now .."nothing else matters" threw that in 'cause i'm listening to metallica and may not have anything to do with this thread...
 - true
hey metallica is some pretty good stuff |
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If youre talking about my ex, he lies like casey anthony, pretty much everything is a lie, and in his mind its the truth therefore it is not a lie. Its a sick problem...I think generally honest people can smell a liar ....and stay far far away
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I am so glad its not me. Imagine the drama that would unfold when the girl in question (who I feel a little bad for) found out? lol She may or may not care. I feel like I was on an episode of Cheaters, only nothing happened and I wasn't doing anything really questionable. I use the fact that he lied as the excuse. you really don't need an excuse you weren't cheating and he didn't tell u that he was planning to.... I have had that happen to - and the chick hates ya and I'm like HEY try getting mad at HIM - he told me NOTHING about u... guys like like that usually end losing both the GF and the FWB |
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I hear you. When I was in basic training the drill sergeant was calling all of us ladies. So when that lady lieutenant asked me why me why I didn't salute her I was at a loss for words especially when I tried to apologize. I said I am sorry sir. She then asked me if I looked like a sir to her. I said, Ma'm. No ma'm. And here I was just getting used to be called a lady and a real lady asks me a question like that. Yup. Another good survivor technique I have found is to act like one is deaf and dumb.
That's more than dodging a bullet. I'm pretty sure she looked tough enough for you to man up. :p |
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Nah... I understand this too well. My heart goes out to ya'. You're better than the average on this site... forgive me for assuming.
I wish you the best... truly do. Well thank you! You've been so nice to me on here, its a shame that this all started with me feeling down. Ugh, I just hate it when a man gets to me like this. It sucks. But I appreciate the words. You're so nice! :) |
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ya online is different than IRL - IRL if u cheat & lie your sister's best friend's cousin down the block will come over & tell u that the guy has a GF already or some shyte like that - or you'll know just from hanging out with mutual friends who is attached....you don;t get that background foundation online - so you have to build it by talking & asking the right questions My favorite part was him googling my name like I had something to hide. He honestly didn't want to know me at all. I figured why am I even trying with this guy? Typical only wants one thing and that is to use. Ehh, what are ya gonna do ya know? It just annoys me a little I have to say cause then I feel missed out some great guys knowing I was devoting all my attention to the wrong one. |
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Edited by
MariahsFantasy
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Wed 12/07/11 08:34 PM
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you really don't need an excuse you weren't cheating and he didn't tell u that he was planning to.... I have had that happen to - and the chick hates ya and I'm like HEY try getting mad at HIM - he told me NOTHING about u... guys like like that usually end losing both the GF and the FWB I hate to say but switch the genders on this for a sec. The plot of this reminds me of the beginning of the last Saw movie. Jeesh. lol |
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I hear you. When I was in basic training the drill sergeant was calling all of us ladies. So when that lady lieutenant asked me why me why I didn't salute her I was at a loss for words especially when I tried to apologize. I said I am sorry sir. She then asked me if I looked like a sir to her. I said, Ma'm. No ma'm. And here I was just getting used to be called a lady and a real lady asks me a question like that. Yup. Another good survivor technique I have found is to act like one is deaf and dumb.
That's more than dodging a bullet. I'm pretty sure she looked tough enough for you to man up. :p Yup. Nothing like a little gender bashing to keep one of one's toes. I had this lady who marched behind me in the company who thought it was funny to keep kicking my Achilles tendons. By the time I got back to the barracks I could barely walk. At another time when we weren't coed the 3AM singing ritual between our male company and the female company was really bashing. They would sing to us and we would sing back to them with constant bashing back and forth. I really thought the military was trying to make ogres out of us all.
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I feel like for the most part most men just LIE without batting an eyelash. I'd like someone out there to make sense of this please. It really boils my blood to think a man would just get away with lying about the fact that he's in a committed relationship. Not really sure how long he's been with her but I am JUST starting to get to know this guy and now he tells me he is taken and only wants a FWB. Makes me really hate it that I'm straight sometimes. It'd be so easy to settle just to keep him around but its so wrong, I'm never doing that again. Sadly people lie all the time. Everyone says they want honesty but I wonder how many relationships would last if there was complete honesty. How many guys would tell a girl; yes you look fat in the dress, or yes dear I would be happy to accompany you to whatever event;(that secretly I really detest). Or how many woman would tell a guy after love making that he really wasn't that good? So, get used to it; people and life are built on lies but it seems that our society is accepting of it. |
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I think I was just referring men being honest about what he wants in a girl. The typical lead a girl on bs, don't care for it. That's all. I personally don't care if a guy finds me fat in a dress. Don't wear them. I'm a t-shirt and jeans kinda girl, with a ponytail. I tend to not care if men judge me before they know me.
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Yup. Nothing like a little gender bashing to keep one of one's toes. I had this lady who marched behind me in the company who thought it was funny to keep kicking my Achilles tendons. By the time I got back to the barracks I could barely walk. At another time when we weren't coed the 3AM singing ritual between our male company and the female company was really bashing. They would sing to us and we would sing back to them with constant bashing back and forth. I really thought the military was trying to make ogres out of us all.
You must have been so tortured after going through all that.
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Honey...most people suck.
There are the ones who suck less and do you dirty less often. ...and there are good people too. (It ain't a fairy tale) So that one sucked.............On to the next one. A good looking woman like yourself can pick and chose. Be true to what you want and don't back down. Don't settle for less woman. Love ain't easy to find....it is gonna take some work and alot of luck that you can't control. You don't just walk out to your yard and pick up a diamond....you gotta get dirty and dig for it. :) |
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