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Topic: HOLIDAY BLUES
solitairé's photo
Fri 12/02/11 07:33 AM
I'm beginning to understand what the expression 'BLUE CHRISTMAS' truly means.This will be my first Xmas without that special someone to share with.I have my siblings and friends to hang out with but at the end of the day,I go home alone to an apartment devoid of another human being. I woke up this morning already feeling the blues. How do I cope through this period?

Conrad_73's photo
Fri 12/02/11 07:35 AM
Edited by Conrad_73 on Fri 12/02/11 07:47 AM

I'm beginning to understand what the expression 'BLUE CHRISTMAS' truly means.This will be my first Xmas without that special someone to share with.I have my siblings and friends to hang out with but at the end of the day,I go home alone to an apartment devoid of another human being. I woke up this morning already feeling the blues. How do I cope through this period?
will be hard,but hang with people you care about!
Avoid being alone too much!

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Fri 12/02/11 07:38 AM
pray


sleepover


stay online..Mingle2 is always open:wink:


flowerforyou

BettyB's photo
Fri 12/02/11 07:43 AM
Focus on all the people that do love you instead of those that don,t.

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Fri 12/02/11 07:45 AM

I'm beginning to understand what the expression 'BLUE CHRISTMAS' truly means.This will be my first Xmas without that special someone to share with.I have my siblings and friends to hang out with but at the end of the day,I go home alone to an apartment devoid of another human being. I woke up this morning already feeling the blues. How do I cope through this period?


Check out the internet for volunteer opportunities in your area...I used this approach a couple of times to ease the pain of a "Blue" Xmas......It really helped!!flowerforyou

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Fri 12/02/11 07:46 AM


I'm beginning to understand what the expression 'BLUE CHRISTMAS' truly means.This will be my first Xmas without that special someone to share with.I have my siblings and friends to hang out with but at the end of the day,I go home alone to an apartment devoid of another human being. I woke up this morning already feeling the blues. How do I cope through this period?


Check out the internet for volunteer opportunities in your area...I used this approach a couple of times to ease the pain of a "Blue" Xmas......It really helped!!flowerforyou


drinker

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Fri 12/02/11 07:47 AM

I'm beginning to understand what the expression 'BLUE CHRISTMAS' truly means.This will be my first Xmas without that special someone to share with.I have my siblings and friends to hang out with but at the end of the day,I go home alone to an apartment devoid of another human being. I woke up this morning already feeling the blues. How do I cope through this period?


If you have friends and family around, is it really that bad? Spend more time with them! Keep yourself busy!

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Fri 12/02/11 07:56 AM
I don’t get it. Maybe because Xmas is just like any other day for me with a few extra days off work.

I don’t mean to sound unsympathetic but if you’re single now, I don’t understand what the difference is.


PacificStar48's photo
Fri 12/02/11 08:50 AM
Hang in there. It is tough but you will feel like Rocky in a few weeks when you look back and see you survived it.

Planning some fun things in the offing doesn't hurt. A spring break to look forward to.

Have a pot luck "Bah Humbug Party" at a local hotel and invite every single person you know and a few you don't. If it is girls only that is ok but you probably got some guys you know that are going to be doing the holiday solo too so why not tell them to come by also.

Remember Christmas is a season and pace yourself so you are not exhausted to get through the last couple of emotional landmine days.

It is alright to have a few boohoos about it just set your timer and when enough is enough knock it off,
put your grown up pants on and realize not evey Christmas is going to be the greatest.

hang in there you never know what the future will bring.

Hug all your Mingle pals and get in on the Christmas card exchange. It can be a God send of great new friends.

solitairé's photo
Fri 12/02/11 09:44 AM

Hang in there. It is tough but you will feel like Rocky in a few weeks when you look back and see you survived it.

Planning some fun things in the offing doesn't hurt. A spring break to look forward to.

Have a pot luck "Bah Humbug Party" at a local hotel and invite every single person you know and a few you don't. If it is girls only that is ok but you probably got some guys you know that are going to be doing the holiday solo too so why not tell them to come by also.

Remember Christmas is a season and pace yourself so you are not exhausted to get through the last couple of emotional landmine days.

It is alright to have a few boohoos about it just set your timer and when enough is enough knock it off,
put your grown up pants on and realize not evey Christmas is going to be the greatest.

hang in there you never know what the future will bring.

Hug all your Mingle pals and get in on the Christmas card exchange. It can be a God send of great new friends.
tnx dearie.great ideas!

navygirl's photo
Fri 12/02/11 03:39 PM

I'm beginning to understand what the expression 'BLUE CHRISTMAS' truly means.This will be my first Xmas without that special someone to share with.I have my siblings and friends to hang out with but at the end of the day,I go home alone to an apartment devoid of another human being. I woke up this morning already feeling the blues. How do I cope through this period?


Instead of feeling blue; try thinking about how fortunate you are that you have a place to live, a warm bed, and food in your stomach. Think of those who are homeless and have nothing; then you will see there isn't much to be blue about.spock

PacificStar48's photo
Fri 12/02/11 07:12 PM
Wanted to add a note that if anyone is really finding the Holiday season to be too much and pushing the blues into something more serious to not suffer in silence.

Talk to a helping professional sooner than later. Seasonal blues added to chronic depression is sometime the place where people find the needed help to check what is not a fun illness.

Drepression is treatable often with out missing work, or other important events, or great cost. More often than not treatment is not only nedication but minor adjustments to diet and activity so no reason to suffer.

If you even have a wiff of suicidal thoughts don't poo poo it yourself or in friends. Call a hotline listed in any phone book, here on line, or by talking to any county health clinic or even your local firehouse. We want everyone to enjoy the holidays and the New Year!

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Fri 12/02/11 07:15 PM

I'm beginning to understand what the expression 'BLUE CHRISTMAS' truly means.This will be my first Xmas without that special someone to share with.I have my siblings and friends to hang out with but at the end of the day,I go home alone to an apartment devoid of another human being. I woke up this morning already feeling the blues. How do I cope through this period?


You can hop on a plane and crash at my place. I'm pretty boring, but my cat will keep you company.

paul1217's photo
Fri 12/02/11 08:01 PM
I'd love to tell you it gets easier with time, but I don't like to lie. I know exactly what you are going through and sometimes being around family and friends, especially if they are all paired off, can make it even harder. To quote Dr. Hunter S Thompson, " I can not recommend the use of alcohol and drugs, but it's worked for me".

BAH HUMBUG!frustrated frustrated

solitairé's photo
Fri 12/02/11 08:15 PM


I'm beginning to understand what the expression 'BLUE CHRISTMAS' truly means.This will be my first Xmas without that special someone to share with.I have my siblings and friends to hang out with but at the end of the day,I go home alone to an apartment devoid of another human being. I woke up this morning already feeling the blues. How do I cope through this period?


You can hop on a plane and crash at my place. I'm pretty boring, but my cat will keep you company.
laugh yeah nice

solitairé's photo
Fri 12/02/11 08:31 PM

I'd love to tell you it gets easier with time, but I don't like to lie. I know exactly what you are going through and sometimes being around family and friends, especially if they are all paired off, can make it even harder. To quote Dr. Hunter S Thompson, " I can not recommend the use of alcohol and drugs, but it's worked for me".

BAH HUMBUG!frustrated frustrated
that's d issue!my siblings and friends r all paired off."Two is company,three a crowd". Out of love,they wouldn't complain but I know d desire to share quality time with that special person.With d hustle and bustle that goes on each day in my country,this is just about d only time they get to truly spend together in d real sense of d word.I know alcohol and drugs might work for some but I don't go that way.I like to face my devils squarely.Or would u want to face them with me?

RainbowTrout's photo
Sat 12/03/11 06:40 PM
I hang out on Mingle, Go to my meetings and Enjoy being with the residents. I have found through helping others it helps me.

solitairé's photo
Sun 12/04/11 05:44 AM

I hang out on Mingle, Go to my meetings and Enjoy being with the residents. I have found through helping others it helps me.
where is that?

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Fri 12/30/11 01:08 PM

I'm beginning to understand what the expression 'BLUE CHRISTMAS' truly means.This will be my first Xmas without that special someone to share with.I have my siblings and friends to hang out with but at the end of the day,I go home alone to an apartment devoid of another human being. I woke up this morning already feeling the blues. How do I cope through this period?


I have heard a saying,

"If you would have a friend, be one."

Plant some seeds.

Water them occasionally,

be patient...

there will be an increase.


RainbowTrout's photo
Sun 01/01/12 06:28 PM
One really does choose to be alone I have found. It helps to have lots of friends because sometimes friends get busy. At my job there is no shortage of lonely people who are receptive to someone coming to see them. It is really hard to be alone when someone is always willing to share their loneliness with you.:smile:

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