Topic: Fat women?
Robert1680's photo
Wed 07/18/07 10:33 PM
that jerk should've realized that the wieght gain comes with pregnancy-I'd betcha if HE had a baby he'd gain wieght too!! mad
personally when my future wife(hopefully one day) has our child you'd better believe she'll be treated with even extra love and compassion for the task; although maybe a beautiful task; she is fulfilling.2.)I don't care what anybody here thinks of me but, I like a little wieght (not huge ) on my women -hell I wiegh 220 why should I be so judgemental anyway + a woman who's beautiful on the inside beats any outer beauty queen hand over fist!!!!glasses

erinestrella's photo
Wed 07/18/07 10:37 PM
Someone should buy him one of those things you strap around yourself to simulate pregnancy.
And (I don't really know but I probably will someday) that still doesn't account for all the pain of childbirth.

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Wed 07/18/07 11:31 PM
I wouldn't leave someone just b/c they gained weight or their appearance changed. I mean, my god the woman gave birth to HIS child or children. I am not a shallow person. You fell in love w/that person for a reason. It's different if there is more to the story but if he left her just solely on looks or the fact that she didn't lose her weight fast enough. That is shallow!!explode

seahawks's photo
Wed 07/18/07 11:39 PM
there has to be more then just a weight issue, very hard to believe that someone could leave a relationship for that.!!

daleray1606's photo
Wed 07/18/07 11:40 PM
Hey Seahawks How are you doing Dude?

seahawks's photo
Wed 07/18/07 11:41 PM
hey bro how you doin, im fine i think.!!! lol

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Wed 07/18/07 11:43 PM
Looks do mean something of course but looks always fade with time and age. If you are stuck only on looks, you will most likely be a very lonely person. That guy sounds like a complete idiot. He is probably gonna look back one day on that and understand what a mistake he made but I guess thats good cause he needs some education in being a good human.

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Thu 07/19/07 11:37 AM
Thank you for all your replies...appreciated...and for the ones who dont think that "weight" was the maine issue he left..well..when someone says to you..." Im leaving you because you arent the skinny person i married and I want a skinny person"...I think that pretty much says it all...so yes HE IS A JERK!!! But its all good..cuz she looks good now...lol

carebear19622's photo
Thu 07/19/07 11:42 AM
shallowgrumble

seahawks's photo
Thu 07/19/07 11:44 AM
sounds like he will be dating the "palm sisters" for a long time with an attitude like that. lol

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Thu 07/19/07 11:46 AM
You got it seahawk....lol..I think her name is "Helen Palmer and her 5 sisters"?..did i get it right?...lol

seahawks's photo
Thu 07/19/07 11:47 AM
lol

oldsage's photo
Thu 07/19/07 11:57 AM
He is very shallow & rude, she is better off without the jerk.
True love is blind & kids to boot??
Waht an AZZ
Glad she learned from it.

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Thu 07/19/07 12:01 PM
<----------- FAT LOUD AND PROUD!!!! wheres ice when you need her...lol

seahawks's photo
Thu 07/19/07 12:02 PM
you forgot sexy nascar. xo

jwaddy's photo
Thu 07/19/07 01:46 PM
Time to be the devil's advocate here. It's actually a pretty common thing, so I'm going to look at it objectively from a big picture perspective.

*steps out on the tracks in front of the freight train*

The less confident you are in yourself, the more you look to your mate for re-assurance. If your mate is someone your friends will look at and go "wow" it becomes very easy to feel good about yourself, saying "he/she is mine and all my friends look up to me for it." Why do you think women are so instinctively attracted to confidence? What do you think happens inside someone's head when they get addicted to this response from other people, then suddenly have it taken away?

Your body tells a lot about you. Being overweight sends signals of poor self control, poor health, and laziness. In reality this usually isn't the case, as like you say for instance having kids can put on pounds, but it's an unspoken first assumption for many people. It's kind of like how a lot of people can look at a young driver in a car and assume they drive fast, look at a model and assume she's a slut, or even look at a black person and think he's a thief. These are all common assumptions in society.

Here's a different angle to the issue. Of all their senses, women are biologically the least sexually aroused by their sense of sight. On the other hand, men are turned on more by their sense of sight than all their other senses combined. This creates some interesting dynamics.

I see a lot of people say he's shallow. I think it's funny that he left her rather than motivate her to start working out with him, and then got to eat dirt when she got skinny again without him. He handled it poorly, it's important to understand where his thoughts came from. She may have started getting comfortable, assuming she didn't have to work at the relationship anymore, or she could have been testing him to see how he'd react now rather than 20 years from now.

I'll admit I'm a man who only likes skinny girls. I'm 5'6" 100 lbs and like women who are my size. I don't want to lug around someone bigger than I am, and I am very attracted to curves, shapes, and flat stomachs. Love handles ruin this for me and are a huge turn-off. For a lot of girls, to stay this size takes dedication and hard work, which is a big thumbs up to me. The average woman is 140 pounds, so as you can probably guess, there aren't a lot of women I'm physically attracted to off the bat. Of these who actually pass my physical bar, I require a lot out of her personality. If there's no connection, no sweetness, no brains, no creativity, and no chemistry, it's not worth pursuing, no matter how attractive she is.

How many of you girls can say you're attracted to a man who sits on the couch all day, unemployed, drinking beer and watching tv, while hollering and ordering you around? It turns you off pretty bad, no? How would you respond? Sometimes a woman who starts rapidly declining physically can have that same kind of repulsive effect to a man. Men and women come from very different places. Understanding that is so important.

SheNerd's photo
Thu 07/19/07 01:59 PM
Curves and bone thin bodies don't go together unless you're talking Barbie. Of course she also comes with the dream house and the man with the plastic mustache. Of course that's not a problem if you're into threesomes...

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Thu 07/19/07 02:04 PM
i can see why u would wan to be with a skinny person (jwaddy)..she might kill your skinny frame...lol..jk

ArtGurl's photo
Thu 07/19/07 02:06 PM
Yeah that underweight look is great for the health ... and the psyche

No worries SheNerd ... once we are all done starving ourselves to oblivion ... we can buy some curves ... a boob enhancement and a J-Lo butt coming up.. oh and Angelina's lips and Aniston's hair ...

This is starting to feel like Weird Science... who brought the bras for our heads?


Take me back to the Renaissance when women were fleshy and curvy and men thought it was sexy! dayum



cutelildevilsmom's photo
Thu 07/19/07 02:06 PM
well jwaddy thats all good but i'm big because of genetics not laziness.I work full time and am raising a ADHD child by myself.
I prefer big men myself because I am big.