You feel that he may well be the one for you as you both share many thoughts and ebliefs, right? And because he is such a great man? But right now you are just friends?

Then if you think he might be the right one, STOP being just friends, and start dating. I just reread your posts a couple times to make sure I was not missing something, and it appears to me that you (or he) are trying to skip the dating process of a relationship. You are not dating right now, yet you both obviously think marriage might be in the future for yas. Then start dating and get toknow each other better. I am not goingto say date for a year before getting married or anythign like that. I hate all those supposed time limit limits to begin with. however, you DO need to start with dating so you can see what the future holds.

I hope this helps hun, and best of wishes to you and him.

i think if you are not in love now ..then you ad marrige kids and a home to that you create one big mix for resentment..i woul try to get the love thing sorted out before you add on .. just my opinion tho

im going through the same thing right now.. a close friend of mine that ive known since i was a teenager has been wanting the same thing with me.. all i can say is give it time and if there is any different feelings in there than they will show within time.. be patient and dont rush anything. who knows maybe one day those feelings of yours will turn into love for him

well said stanne

well said stanne

ty cool .. why make baggage prematurelay it comes anyway lol

go with your instincts

run!!!!!

love isn't something you create-love is and emotion deep inside that rises to the surface and is evident in everything you do.
only then can such an internal passion be nurtured further.
But don't just make it happen; that's got all the earmarks of fear of being lonely or settling for desperation of a counterfeit of Love.

Just my opinion, but why the demarcation from friend to loved one? Why the need for all these boundaries?

My friends are my family. They can offend me, yell at me, disagree with me, but I love them all the same. After all, love is about building up, not breaking down. They offend because that happens, they yell because they care, and they disagree because I disagree too.

As for moving from friend to lover...I think they only change should be in the level of intimacy, and of course the sexual attraction between you. Attraction is a pretty simple concept... there is no mistaking that heat, that desire, that passion that is ignited when you are attracted to someone. If it's there, there's no confusing it, because the only confusion lies in wanting to admit the truth to yourself.

Sometimes we want that passion to be there when it isn't, and at others we don't want it to be there when it is...this is denial, and this is where the crux lies. If you aren't sure, think about past lovers (if applicable, if not think of a "hot celebrity" or sweaty dream), and ask yourself if that feeling is present. If it is, then sweetheart, it's way too late for you to be wondering if your relationship should change, because for at least one of you it already has.

If it isn't...there are worse things than finding out you have made a lifelong friend. While it is a pity that someone you feel so close to is not someone you care about in that way...at least you have that much more love in your life.

The way I figured this out is actually because of some friends of mine. We'll sit around and joke, and one of the jokes is, "If you were a hot chick we'd definitely be knocking boots." Then we laugh and talk about boobies. But aside from the joking around, it really is true. These are my friends for life, my hetero life mates, with bonds as deep or deeper than any marriage vows given out today. We mesh, but due to circumstance, we lack that passion, that drive, that intimacy that changes the label from "friend" to "lover". So if it is guilt or fear that denies you from accepting how you feel, stop it. It's no one's fault but God that you do or don't have that attraction, because lord knows nobody I know can figure it out. Just look at Lyle Lovett and Julia Roberts,

I hope that helps in some way, and good luck to ya!

Wise old monkey says: the best long lasting relationships are built on a firm foundation of friendship. Sex is cheap but true and honest friendship is rare and precious.

Now back to your regularly scheduled program of yodeling and armpit wrestling...

And to add to that...remember the wise ostrich.

He is wise because no matter what, he knows to bury his head in the sand

DO NOT...I REPEAT...DO NOT MARRY SOMEONE YOU DONT LOVE!!! IT NEVER WORKS.. BELIEVE ME....

what happens when in six monthes after the wedding you meet someone you do love (without having to strive and work for it)

I think you should go with your instincts. I also don't think you should marry him if you don't love him. Being together, seeing him....you might grow to love him. There is no reason to rush into a marriage without love.