Until your prospective mate meets your family?

Not sure why this is in my head lately.

I know I keep people away from my son until I am sure they are it.

However, I hang out with my family (mom, brother, sister, grown niece and nephew) a lot. We do tons of fun things. It would be great to bring a potential boyfriend along. Even with my sister giving him the 20 questions, etc.

Thoughts, ideas, advice, monkey love?

Thanks in advance. Hugs, M

hmmm, that's a good question. I guess a couple of dates, then get their take on him.

493.7 years...give or take.

thats a LONG time Nus..lol

Heya lady! How's things?

I figure if you have found someone you want to be with, meeting relatives is incidental.

Everyone should reserve the right to their own power of approval, no matter the opinion of family or friends.

i say take your friends and family with you on your first date if he can handle that then he is golden right.

u must not know my family, lol

as one without children i have found that after a few dates/a month i begin wondering what the lady is afraid of. either the kids/grandkids like me or they don't and then all the other rules kick in.
i'm good with kids so its never been an issue. its the adult children that create the problem with me if they are using mom for money or are involved in illegal activities. then i am the one the opts out if the woman cannot understand that.

Not until he has mastered the art of licking peanut butter from between the monkey's toes and making swonnicles with his sharter...

your right sweetie i dont know your family so when am i going to meet them lol

lol, ace, trust me, u DONT want to meet my family, lol

i think when you feel its the right time and he says sure!!

sure i do as long as you come with me

If it seems like a natural and appropriate extension of everyone's interests, I guess any time is cool. Like if you, he, and your dad all love fishing, and you are going fishing this weekend with an inclusive group of people, why not invite everyone?

But as far as "meeting the family", personally it weirds me out if I've just met someone and they start talking about meeting their family for the sake of meeting them. It makes it seem rushed.

Well don't do it on the first date unless ya trying to get rid of him/ her I would say date a month or two first. Myself the guys I have dated. I dated them for at least 2 months before they got to meet my kids for I did not want men in and out of there lives if your still dating them after 2 months then most likely it may last a while. Now that is just my opinion. Now that my kids are grown usually after the 3rd or 4th date. Everyone is differnt it is just what makes you feel comfortable.

Well the fact that you have a son makes all the difference to me!! if you bring a man into his life and your son gets attached to him. I feel sorry for him if things don't work out for you. I don't know your situation but if you are divorced then your son is already dealing with one man gone what ever the circumstances! I just wish I could follow my own advice!!!!

I did forget to ask.. how old is your son?

Been there done that Covington... I survived that... the whole family.. uncle aunts cousins.. the WHOLE Group... but it was okay...