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Topic: First date...who pays?
Conrad_73 Joined Sat 09/29/07 Posts: 22488	Sun 10/09/11 10:08 AM
maybe da Dutch-Man will pay! If he does, I'll buy dinner for everyone! as Ben Franklin said,"He who lives on Hope will die Fasting"! He sure contradicted Barry!

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76455	Sun 10/09/11 10:19 AM
I don't feel that anymore there is a wrong way or right way on who does... But then I do feel that who ever makes the date should in fact pay. I'm one that if I go on a date I always have enough to pay my part... I will offer to pay if they refuse then fine I will even offer to do the tip.. If they say they will catch it all then I let them... There will be other times that I can return the favor that is if there is more then one date..

SilentlyScreaming Joined Mon 09/10/07 Posts: 10681	Sun 10/09/11 10:31 AM
i bring enough to cover the whole date... but, honestly, if he expects me to pay for the whole thing when he asked me out, there more then likely will not be a second date! I dont mind paying for my half, but i dont want to have to pay for the whole thing!

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Sun 10/09/11 10:31 AM
Ladies, do you expect the gentleman to pay? Guys, would it offend you if the girl says "let's go dutch?" I expect the guys to pay on a first date but always have enough money to go dutch

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Sun 10/09/11 10:37 AM
I always pay, after all, I asked her out.

hotbtm4u64 Joined Sun 10/09/11 Posts: 49	Sun 10/09/11 01:22 PM
Not bragging but I never pay ..

educated3511 Joined Sun 10/09/11 Posts: 4	Mon 10/10/11 05:44 AM
Personally I am different. On the first date I usually like to go dutch because if things do not click with me and that gentleman then he wont feel like he spent money on me knowing the encounter will not go anywhere. If all goes well and he pays for me, the next date will be on me.

educated3511 Joined Sun 10/09/11 Posts: 4	Mon 10/10/11 05:46 AM Edited by educated3511 on Mon 10/10/11 05:48 AM
I'm sorry hotbtm4i64 but thats not bragging and I would not tell anyone that you never pay. Thats just shows that you are a moocher off woman.

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76455	Mon 10/10/11 07:37 AM
I'm sorry hotbtm4i64 but thats not bragging and I would not tell anyone that you never pay. Thats just shows that you are a moocher off woman. Hummm don't jump to conclusion till ya read their profile he is not into women..... Myself I prefer to go dutch if it is a date from the internet, if it is one I meet local and he ask me out then we have already met....he ask he pays.... But I have been known to return the favor more them once it all comes out in the end when you start dating. Well at least it should..

civicman1994 Joined Tue 12/14/10 Posts: 145	Mon 10/10/11 11:17 AM
Depends on who invited who, who ever invited the other pays

ybcat1 Joined Sat 12/29/07 Posts: 530	Mon 10/10/11 02:52 PM
I'm sorry hotbtm4i64 but thats not bragging and I would not tell anyone that you never pay. Thats just shows that you are a moocher off woman. I think he's messing with us.

EquusDancer Joined Sun 04/05/09 Posts: 6281	Mon 10/10/11 05:39 PM
I always have enough money to cover my half and will always offer to pay my half. If they insist on paying, that's up to them. Depends on who asks, but I agree with singme's comment

hupuppy Joined Thu 10/18/07 Posts: 1249	Mon 10/10/11 05:40 PM
I say lets dine and ditch and no one has to pay

74Drew Joined Thu 01/22/09 Posts: 4901	Mon 10/10/11 06:57 PM
Whichever is the less attractive of the 2 should pay. It shows their level of commitment and helps guilt the more attractive into spending more time with them. . . .

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 10/10/11 07:04 PM
Whichever is the less attractive of the 2 should pay. It shows their level of commitment and helps guilt the more attractive into spending more time with them. . . . Do you start out dates discussing who is less attractive?

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Mon 10/10/11 08:08 PM
Ladies, do you expect the gentleman to pay? Guys, would it offend you if the girl says "let's go dutch?" Any first dates I ever went on, I insisted on going Dutch.

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Mon 10/10/11 08:16 PM
Ladies, do you expect the gentleman to pay? Guys, would it offend you if the girl says "let's go dutch?" I have always paid. never had a woman offer to pay or pitch in but I doubt that I would let her.....unless it was a really expensive resturant

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 10/10/11 08:26 PM
Ladies, do you expect the gentleman to pay? Guys, would it offend you if the girl says "let's go dutch?" I have always paid. never had a woman offer to pay or pitch in but I doubt that I would let her.....unless it was a really expensive resturant I've heard several other men saying they've never gone on a date with a woman who offered to pay. I'd feel weird if I didn't offer.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Mon 10/10/11 08:44 PM
Ladies, do you expect the gentleman to pay? Guys, would it offend you if the girl says "let's go dutch?" I have always paid. never had a woman offer to pay or pitch in but I doubt that I would let her.....unless it was a really expensive resturant I've heard several other men saying they've never gone on a date with a woman who offered to pay. I'd feel weird if I didn't offer. My experience has been if the guy pays; he wants you to pay in sex. So, I just paid my own way so I don't owe him anything.

74Drew Joined Thu 01/22/09 Posts: 4901	Mon 10/10/11 09:17 PM Edited by 74Drew on Mon 10/10/11 09:20 PM
Whichever is the less attractive of the 2 should pay. It shows their level of commitment and helps guilt the more attractive into spending more time with them. . . . Do you start out dates discussing who is less attractive? it's usually easy to figure out. it's the figuring out who makes more $$ that's a little more difficult. . . .