Is it possible for me to date who my parent wished?afterall she is not my heart desire but thats what my parents want and thought she was right.

sure it's possible for you to date someone that your parents approve of. your parents want what is best for you and they may see something about this woman that you have not seen yet. give it a chance, get to know this woman on a personal level. than if you find that she is not to your liking, sit down with your parents and explain why you feel this woman is not right for you. if that doesn't work, move away and don't tell them where you are until you are married to the woman you want (just kidding, don't move. talking to your parents is the best advice i can give you)

Thx,but do you know they mandate it for me?yes they do.

I would assume if it is part of your culture then your pretty much stuck. Only solution is to move to America where we make our own choices who we marry and are with.

Not much of a option when you would be leaving your family behind.

i did not know that they mandate it for you, no i did not. so why are you so against this woman that they have chosen for you. i think it unlikely that your parents would chose a woman who would destroy you as a person

yeah,she's friend daughter to my parent.

so go out with her. get to know her. she may surprise you. if you find her character to be less than perfect for you, talk to your parents and tell them why you think this woman is not right for you

yeah ma'am,its a nice thought which i would rather go for,but its difficult for me to do that most especially finance..

is not that shes not fine but i intentionally don't like her

wow bro, that sounds kind of mean. is there another woman that has your interest

Nope don't have any yet.that girl is my childhood friend.we both brought up in the same compound.

there you go, you have something in common. you seem like a very respectable man, honor your father and mother. if things don't work out then your parents will be more likely to help end the relationship

Maybe you don't like her because she is like a sister to you? If you grew up together, you probably never looked at her in a husband & wife kind of way, so I think I understand.

Ese and TxtGal are right. Considering your culture and circumstances you can only move or try to make the best out of it. You might want to talk to someone you trust from your culture about this. What about your friends? How are they handling these things? Unfortunately there is nothing we can do from over here.

yes i will do that as you said.thx i appc8

thx

godspeed to you my friend

Thx to y'all

RUN!!!!!! but is she's good looking...hey...go for it...

As YOU may be thinking about so many women out here in this world to see and meet,,your friend here that you intentionally do not wish to be with,,,let me just say this,,as you and her have grown in the same compound since being little kids,,,I have to ask,,Do you base your thoughts on,,the fact ,,that you and her have already been together sexually?,,Because then,,,I could see your reasoning clearer? But,,if you haven't done that already,,then Let me try and tell you something .
You and her share so MUCH,,of the same things and ALSO,,so much YOU BOTH have never,,ever experienced before,,,,I mean dude,,this is so COOL,,,YOU both could come to America and do ANYTHING,,and it ALL WOULD BE NEW AND FUN...to you BOTH...and each one of you would also know your pasts and your foundations to believe in and always remember,,which also is very cool,,,IF your thinking American women will be OH SO HOT AND COOL,,,trust me here,,,most don't want a husband,,many look for wealth,,and many just play around,,,The FEW who do want a great guy for a husband,,STILL,,will almost always require you to be at least self suffiecent...
YOU could Come here and get a Government loan,,and buy a business here,,and bring her with you,,,or send for her later..But
YOU BOTH are like,,The man and woman in the Movie The Blue Lagoon..
Because your both only aware of whats right there,,that you both have grown to see and know,,I think you will MISS her later in life,,IF you don't at LEAST,,find out now IF you can be a great man,,and be humble,,step back,,,,,and SEE HER as a stranger,,you've never met,,,THEN,,here her words,,and her heart and see how your's feels,,IF its there,,,IT will open,,,,BUT,,,YOU have to open to see her as a real woman now,,,not that little girl you grew seeing,,,wink GOOD LUCK MY FRIEND!!!