Is it possible for me to date who my parent wished?afterall she is not my heart desire but thats what my parents want and thought she was right.

Is it possible for me to date who my parent wished?afterall she is not my heart desire but thats what my parents want and thought she was right.

Im not sure what the question is. Do you not know the girl yet and the parents think you would make a good match? Have you already gotten to know her and know that she wouldnt be a good match?

As YOU may be thinking about so many women out here in this world to see and meet,,your friend here that you intentionally do not wish to be with,,,let me just say this,,as you and her have grown in the same compound since being little kids,,,I have to ask,,Do you base your thoughts on,,the fact ,,that you and her have already been together sexually?,,Because then,,,I could see your reasoning clearer? But,,if you haven't done that already,,then Let me try and tell you something .
You and her share so MUCH,,of the same things and ALSO,,so much YOU BOTH have never,,ever experienced before,,,,I mean dude,,this is so COOL,,,YOU both could come to America and do ANYTHING,,and it ALL WOULD BE NEW AND FUN...to you BOTH...and each one of you would also know your pasts and your foundations to believe in and always remember,,which also is very cool,,,IF your thinking American women will be OH SO HOT AND COOL,,,trust me here,,,most don't want a husband,,many look for wealth,,and many just play around,,,The FEW who do want a great guy for a husband,,STILL,,will almost always require you to be at least self suffiecent...
YOU could Come here and get a Government loan,,and buy a business here,,and bring her with you,,,or send for her later..But
YOU BOTH are like,,The man and woman in the Movie The Blue Lagoon..
Because your both only aware of whats right there,,that you both have grown to see and know,,I think you will MISS her later in life,,IF you don't at LEAST,,find out now IF you can be a great man,,and be humble,,step back,,,,,and SEE HER as a stranger,,you've never met,,,THEN,,here her words,,and her heart and see how your's feels,,IF its there,,,IT will open,,,,BUT,,,YOU have to open to see her as a real woman now,,,not that little girl you grew seeing,,,wink GOOD LUCK MY FRIEND!!!

Its difficult to explain this to my parents

most likely your parents understand more than you think

don't dislike her just because your parents are matching you, that is not her fault.

they feel they know what is best for you. go on a date - what can one date hurt. that way you can say you gave it a chance. but if you do not have genuine romantic feelings for her do not go out again, and stand your ground.

she may be just as unhappy as you are about this....but again, you just might end up together

leave all doors open, my friend