Ex-BF left in middle of night saying he went to a friends house for two days, was back home 3hrs l8r. I suspected he cheated and when i came home from work he started moving out. We separated a couple wks but one night 2 wks l8r he forgot to close his Facebook messages b4 he went to work so thats when i found out he had an ex pick him up that one night, he spoke of only living with a roomate etc....pretty much telling her he was available. I was so hurt that he lied and cheated that I kicked him out. Its been 2 wks now and I hurt all the time, cry when im alone in the place we once shared and part of me misses him and wants him back but hes ignoring my calls and messages. Would anyone give him another chance or did i do the right thing? I feel so miserable without him, weve been thru alot but I dont think i could trust him......advice please

I can't tell you the right thing to do for you. No one can. But the hurt will pass. Being alone is never easy but it is better than being with someone who hurts you and betrays your trust. I'm sure you are a strong woman and with time will heal and be a better you. Please don't be too hard on yourself. Use this time to take on new challenges and enjoy finding yourself.

All my best to you.

thank you for such kind words and encouragement. your right only i can make the decision. Words like yours help cuz my feelings are like a rollercoaster ride. I was ok these past two weeks and now im sad. Havent had a breakup in 11 yrs....somehow i survived that one so it will take time. Wish there was a button to speed up time

If they do not feel for you, what
you feel for them, it usually only
goes one way.

Mourn. Move on. Change your nick.

I once heard detectives quote that most women who hired detectives to go follow men wasted their money because they instinctively knew what the men were up to in the first place. They were simply in denial. Why would you feel bad for dumping someone who appears to cheat and lie to you? A person who does this to someone in the first year will be 5 times as bad 5 years later.

Intuition is usually smarter than the brain so it's sad that few people listen to it. The only reason you're hurting is because you haven't really jotted down in your mind what type of person you would really like to attract and what type you deserve. You might need to boost up your "deserving" level a notch. He need not be a prince -- just someone who respects and cares for you. If you were to do that, within 2 months you would come to realize you made a move so clever that it would be "tough" to feel an ounce of remorse. In fact, your biggest remorse by then might be that you tolerated disrespect for longer than you had to.

HHHUUUGGSSS HONEY!! You definitely did the right thing. NOONE deserves to be cheated on. Stay strong. (trust me-- been there/ done that- namely my ex husband and father of my 6 yr old). Although its hard, force yourself to move on, make new friends maybe try a new hobby. He does not deserve a second chance. If you need moral support, or someone to talk to , I will volunteer. And with 2 ex husbands and 1 ex boyfriend who wronged me in similar situaitons, I do have experience in that area. Stay strong and it will get better I promise!!

you did the right thing. just be firm and never look back. i know, there's no easy way out but you can do it. at first, it would be a rollercoaster ride of flashback memories but try to go out and stay busy. i've been in your shoes a year ago and im happy though im not fully heal but ive moved on from my past relationship. it's better to feel pain, it would remind you to be careful next time.pray.pray hard.it helped me along the way.

He doesn't deserve you. so save your love for someone better

great advice there...soooo...agree with that...and also TLC...