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 I am 47 and would feel awkward with anyone under 39. I am rather old fashioned I'm afraid. Cannot see appeal of dating younger women. When I was that age, back in the Dark Ages, I was no virgin, but involved in deep relationship. My advice, as if you need it, is keep to men of your own age. Far safer in my opinion. |
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Most Gentlemen your age, are still virgins  I'll be gentle, I promise.     Cherry Picker   (((Chrissy)))
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I appreciate all the good commentary and some of the commentary that made no sense as well. So basically, they may or may not want women younger or older.
I will keep looking for just the right fit, age not withstanding.
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1. Your comment about 20 something women is an insult to younger women.
2. A stereo typing comment that no older men want women their age is not true at all. There are, both, men and women who chase after younger individuals. Why is it such a big issue to older women? Many say they don't care. If you don't care why constantly raise the same issue belittling men? |
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Edited by
indianadave4
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Wed 09/07/11 03:47 PM
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I address this to women because the majority of complaints in this area are registered by women. While I will not date someone under 50 the men who do, usually quote the following:
1. Older women don't have the stamina of someone younger, though they claim they do. 2. While older women have wisdom that young women do not, some of the experiences of life have left bitterness: especially towards men and we feel it. 3. Older women have long laundry lists of what perspective dates must or must not be. Some of these are unrealistic. 4. Some older women try to play the "chase me" game that teens and 20 something women play. Older men will no longer put up with "hard to get". 5. A first date, sometimes, seems like a job interview or performance review. 6. While older women say they are open to new things (not talking about sex) they are, in fact, usually set in their ways just like men are. 7. Some men are only after sex. We know this, and it seems like every word we say has to be chosen very carefully because many women will always take it the wrong way. It seems like they have the "SEX" filter on. We tire of being accuse of only wanting sex. 8. Some women feel their ex-husband/last boyfriend cheated on them. They want to tell him off but he won't listen. Unfortunately it, sometimes, is vented on the next guy who wants to see them. 9. As women age some cease trying to take care of themself physically. The two complains of men who chase younger women are: ----a. Excessive weight ----b. Men like longer hair on women. The older women become the shorter they cut their hair. A few weeks ago I was shocked when a 33 year old started to flirt. Eventually I said it would seem odd to see someone my daughters age. She responded, "I've seem men in their 50's before". "Not interested". I am approached twice a month by women in their 30's. I never respond thinking they only want money. This same 33 year old emphatically responded, "not true at all". My search preferences are 53 to 64. But I will say, if older women are fishing for a man get some bate that will compete with the fish that are out their. Stop making excuses and belittling men. I couldn't find my butt with both hands in my 20's This is a slap in the face at 20 year old women. |
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Wow!
Well spoke dave. |
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Wow....that's a lot of BS Dave...I should know as I'm one of the older women on here. Of course that's just MY opinion.
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I address this to women because the majority of complaints in this area are registered by women. While I will not date someone under 50 the men who do, usually quote the following: 1. Older women don't have the stamina of someone younger, though they claim they do. 2. While older women have wisdom that young women do not, some of the experiences of life have left bitterness: especially towards men and we feel it. 3. Older women have long laundry lists of what perspective dates must or must not be. Some of these are unrealistic. 4. Some older women try to play the "chase me" game that teens and 20 something women play. Older men will no longer put up with "hard to get". 5. A first date, sometimes, seems like a job interview or performance review. 6. While older women say they are open to new things (not talking about sex) they are, in fact, usually set in their ways just like men are. 7. Some men are only after sex. We know this, and it seems like every word we say has to be chosen very carefully because many women will always take it the wrong way. It seems like they have the "SEX" filter on. We tire of being accuse of only wanting sex. 8. Some women feel their ex-husband/last boyfriend cheated on them. They want to tell him off but he won't listen. Unfortunately it, sometimes, is vented on the next guy who wants to see them. 9. As women age some cease trying to take care of themself physically. The two complains of men who chase younger women are: ----a. Excessive weight ----b. Men like longer hair on women. The older women become the shorter they cut their hair. A few weeks ago I was shocked when a 33 year old started to flirt. Eventually I said it would seem odd to see someone my daughters age. She responded, "I've seem men in their 50's before". "Not interested". I am approached twice a month by women in their 30's. I never respond thinking they only want money. This same 33 year old emphatically responded, "not true at all". My search preferences are 53 to 64. But I will say, if older women are fishing for a man get some bate that will compete with the fish that are out their. Stop making excuses and belittling men. I couldn't find my butt with both hands in my 20's This is a slap in the face at 20 year old women. this is so very generic to men and women |
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I couldn't find my butt with both hands in my 20's This is a slap in the face at 20 year old women. I think she was talkin bout herself, and not all 20 yr old women. It also explains her interest in discussing the topic. What belittled men? KLC, thank you and you are correct. I was talking about myself at 20. Not knowing what I wanted in life, career, relationship. And it also explained my interest in the topic. I appreciated Dave's insight into why some men want to date younger. It makes sense to those men who feel that way based on their experience. The same could be true of women I would guess. I never post anything to belittle, whine or generalize as most here can attest. But I do like to initiate interesting discussion and hope I have done that. |
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I address this to women because the majority of complaints in this area are registered by women. While I will not date someone under 50 the men who do, usually quote the following: 1. Older women don't have the stamina of someone younger, though they claim they do. 2. While older women have wisdom that young women do not, some of the experiences of life have left bitterness: especially towards men and we feel it. 3. Older women have long laundry lists of what perspective dates must or must not be. Some of these are unrealistic. 4. Some older women try to play the "chase me" game that teens and 20 something women play. Older men will no longer put up with "hard to get". 5. A first date, sometimes, seems like a job interview or performance review. 6. While older women say they are open to new things (not talking about sex) they are, in fact, usually set in their ways just like men are. 7. Some men are only after sex. We know this, and it seems like every word we say has to be chosen very carefully because many women will always take it the wrong way. It seems like they have the "SEX" filter on. We tire of being accuse of only wanting sex. 8. Some women feel their ex-husband/last boyfriend cheated on them. They want to tell him off but he won't listen. Unfortunately it, sometimes, is vented on the next guy who wants to see them. 9. As women age some cease trying to take care of themself physically. The two complains of men who chase younger women are: ----a. Excessive weight ----b. Men like longer hair on women. The older women become the shorter they cut their hair. A few weeks ago I was shocked when a 33 year old started to flirt. Eventually I said it would seem odd to see someone my daughters age. She responded, "I've seem men in their 50's before". "Not interested". I am approached twice a month by women in their 30's. I never respond thinking they only want money. This same 33 year old emphatically responded, "not true at all". My search preferences are 53 to 64. But I will say, if older women are fishing for a man get some bate that will compete with the fish that are out their. Stop making excuses and belittling men. I couldn't find my butt with both hands in my 20's This is a slap in the face at 20 year old women. this is so very generic to men and women I won't argue with your point one bit. Men and women are both guilty of this. However, women seem to deny in a much louder level. |
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I address this to women because the majority of complaints in this area are registered by women. While I will not date someone under 50 the men who do, usually quote the following: 1. Older women don't have the stamina of someone younger, though they claim they do. 2. While older women have wisdom that young women do not, some of the experiences of life have left bitterness: especially towards men and we feel it. 3. Older women have long laundry lists of what perspective dates must or must not be. Some of these are unrealistic. 4. Some older women try to play the "chase me" game that teens and 20 something women play. Older men will no longer put up with "hard to get". 5. A first date, sometimes, seems like a job interview or performance review. 6. While older women say they are open to new things (not talking about sex) they are, in fact, usually set in their ways just like men are. 7. Some men are only after sex. We know this, and it seems like every word we say has to be chosen very carefully because many women will always take it the wrong way. It seems like they have the "SEX" filter on. We tire of being accuse of only wanting sex. 8. Some women feel their ex-husband/last boyfriend cheated on them. They want to tell him off but he won't listen. Unfortunately it, sometimes, is vented on the next guy who wants to see them. 9. As women age some cease trying to take care of themself physically. The two complains of men who chase younger women are: ----a. Excessive weight ----b. Men like longer hair on women. The older women become the shorter they cut their hair. A few weeks ago I was shocked when a 33 year old started to flirt. Eventually I said it would seem odd to see someone my daughters age. She responded, "I've seem men in their 50's before". "Not interested". I am approached twice a month by women in their 30's. I never respond thinking they only want money. This same 33 year old emphatically responded, "not true at all". My search preferences are 53 to 64. But I will say, if older women are fishing for a man get some bate that will compete with the fish that are out their. Stop making excuses and belittling men. I couldn't find my butt with both hands in my 20's This is a slap in the face at 20 year old women. this is so very generic to men and women I won't argue with your point one bit. Men and women are both guilty of this. However, women seem to deny in a much louder level. Fair amount of truth in that. I blame Helen Reddy ; ) |
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I address this to women because the majority of complaints in this area are registered by women. While I will not date someone under 50 the men who do, usually quote the following: 1. Older women don't have the stamina of someone younger, though they claim they do. 2. While older women have wisdom that young women do not, some of the experiences of life have left bitterness: especially towards men and we feel it. 3. Older women have long laundry lists of what perspective dates must or must not be. Some of these are unrealistic. 4. Some older women try to play the "chase me" game that teens and 20 something women play. Older men will no longer put up with "hard to get". 5. A first date, sometimes, seems like a job interview or performance review. 6. While older women say they are open to new things (not talking about sex) they are, in fact, usually set in their ways just like men are. 7. Some men are only after sex. We know this, and it seems like every word we say has to be chosen very carefully because many women will always take it the wrong way. It seems like they have the "SEX" filter on. We tire of being accuse of only wanting sex. 8. Some women feel their ex-husband/last boyfriend cheated on them. They want to tell him off but he won't listen. Unfortunately it, sometimes, is vented on the next guy who wants to see them. 9. As women age some cease trying to take care of themself physically. The two complains of men who chase younger women are: ----a. Excessive weight ----b. Men like longer hair on women. The older women become the shorter they cut their hair. A few weeks ago I was shocked when a 33 year old started to flirt. Eventually I said it would seem odd to see someone my daughters age. She responded, "I've seem men in their 50's before". "Not interested". I am approached twice a month by women in their 30's. I never respond thinking they only want money. This same 33 year old emphatically responded, "not true at all". My search preferences are 53 to 64. But I will say, if older women are fishing for a man get some bate that will compete with the fish that are out their. Stop making excuses and belittling men. I couldn't find my butt with both hands in my 20's This is a slap in the face at 20 year old women. this is so very generic to men and women I won't argue with your point one bit. Men and women are both guilty of this. However, women seem to deny in a much louder level. Fair amount of truth in that. I blame Helen Reddy ; )
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I address this to women because the majority of complaints in this area are registered by women. While I will not date someone under 50 the men who do, usually quote the following: 1. Older women don't have the stamina of someone younger, though they claim they do. 2. While older women have wisdom that young women do not, some of the experiences of life have left bitterness: especially towards men and we feel it. 3. Older women have long laundry lists of what perspective dates must or must not be. Some of these are unrealistic. 4. Some older women try to play the "chase me" game that teens and 20 something women play. Older men will no longer put up with "hard to get". 5. A first date, sometimes, seems like a job interview or performance review. 6. While older women say they are open to new things (not talking about sex) they are, in fact, usually set in their ways just like men are. 7. Some men are only after sex. We know this, and it seems like every word we say has to be chosen very carefully because many women will always take it the wrong way. It seems like they have the "SEX" filter on. We tire of being accuse of only wanting sex. 8. Some women feel their ex-husband/last boyfriend cheated on them. They want to tell him off but he won't listen. Unfortunately it, sometimes, is vented on the next guy who wants to see them. 9. As women age some cease trying to take care of themself physically. The two complains of men who chase younger women are: ----a. Excessive weight ----b. Men like longer hair on women. The older women become the shorter they cut their hair. A few weeks ago I was shocked when a 33 year old started to flirt. Eventually I said it would seem odd to see someone my daughters age. She responded, "I've seem men in their 50's before". "Not interested". I am approached twice a month by women in their 30's. I never respond thinking they only want money. This same 33 year old emphatically responded, "not true at all". My search preferences are 53 to 64. But I will say, if older women are fishing for a man get some bate that will compete with the fish that are out their. Stop making excuses and belittling men. I couldn't find my butt with both hands in my 20's This is a slap in the face at 20 year old women. this is so very generic to men and women I won't argue with your point one bit. Men and women are both guilty of this. However, women seem to deny in a much louder level. Fair amount of truth in that. I blame Helen Reddy ; ) Ok gonna add my .02. I am a woman in her 40's (43 in a few months). And my last boyfrend was 31. We were very compatible, (until I found out he had hidden some very important details, and personality traits). Quite frankly it didn't matter to me the age diffence. Now I am dating a man 9 years older. We are very compatible and more at the same stages in our lives. In my opinion is if it doesn't bother you, is not illegal or immoral, And all are in agreement- than age is just a number. The problem with all this generalizing (which kinda surprises me with you Dave). Is people are not "typical". I have had men 1/2 my age contact me interested, and I've had men older than my father contact me. Some people are more open in their spectrum of dating prospects. If you are interested in someone, send them a message and take a chance. If someone is not in your ideal age range for a romantic partner, (perhaps talk to them first a bit, alot of people have varied maturity levels due to life experience)Then politely explain that you are looking for someone in the same ccircumstances as you. (Whether this be raising children, house paid off, ready to retire, etc.) I honestly believe you should give anyone that you have something in common with an honest chance. I personally could not see myself in anything long term with someone 1/2 or double my age. But thats my perspective on it.  |
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In love the only rule is there are no rules. Emotions are not
purely voluntary. Men are looking for someone fun, exciting and compatible. Women are looking for someone fun, exciting and compatible. Often they find each other. There are billions of people and undoubtedly at least tens of millions of matches for each and every person. The only obstacle is time and the need to make a living which limits socializing. But the more people you meet the better the odds. Age does not have to enter the equation. If one thinks that age is an obstacle then it becomes an obstacle but life has proven many times over that age needs not be an obstacle at all. |
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Age does not have to enter the equation. If one thinks that age is an obstacle then it becomes an obstacle but life has proven many times over that age needs not be an obstacle at all. This is really something that's going to be different for different people. For some, it has been shown that age does not matter. For others, it does matter. It's all about preference. |
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Age does not have to enter the equation. If one thinks that age is an obstacle then it becomes an obstacle but life has proven many times over that age needs not be an obstacle at all. This is really something that's going to be different for different people. For some, it has been shown that age does not matter. For others, it does matter. It's all about preference. That's my point. Age itself does not matter. Do guys in their 40s go for women in their 20s? Sure they do. |
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hell, blame soufie. everybody else does |
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Age does not have to enter the equation. If one thinks that age is an obstacle then it becomes an obstacle but life has proven many times over that age needs not be an obstacle at all. This is really something that's going to be different for different people. For some, it has been shown that age does not matter. For others, it does matter. It's all about preference. That's my point. Age itself does not matter. Do guys in their 40s go for women in their 20s? Sure they do. Well, it does matter. Otherwise, everyone would be going for people of all ages. |
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she was asking why men in their 40's go for gals in their 20's, but we have seen lots of 'does age matter' goin on in the threads. I have decided to become a lesbian because KLC is the only person who seems to be comprehending my point. Well now that has been decided, KLC am I too old for you? 
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Oh crap!
Another one bites the,,,,,,,dust? |
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