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I don't know that I can trust enough to recognize love. I just got hammered in a 20 plus year marriage, viscious divorce and custody battle. I need some friends to help me re-enter the real world! Then get your buns in here and make some friends woman! :) |
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Edited by
a2jpman
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Thu 08/25/11 05:49 PM
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To actually fall in love? Again!! Gluton for punishment This question is mainly posed at the old timers here. Though, anyone is free to answer. Can you let go of your fear and just love like what you want to recieve? This is a tough one for me, after a failed 23yr marriage that I was completely immersed in and two beautiful daughters and a beautiful Granddaughter. I was taken totally by surprise when it happened it was very surreal almost as if it were a dream. words were said that shake you to your soul, after many months of... I admit it (Begging) I fell for a friend that was there for me. and I was off again. only to be played and discarded, two more attempts at making a go with the ex. and another one that I was head over heals for,ready for the church in love..I thought yes I have found my new soulmate! after many months of excellent I find that she has been seeing someone else the entire time. im there now!!!! so fear I am on the cover of that book! but I feel that if you dont try you never know. Can you put aside the heart ache of failed attempts? Tough and I dont think put aside but learn from! Do you got the balls to stand up to the plate again and risk striking out when you want a Homerun? absolutly! if you dont play you cant win! It took me three years before I had the courage to just say "Screw it! Let's fall in love" Im totally ready for love! Do you really plan on saying "F**kit...I do love you"? Yes I do! Just curious.... Will you honestly give love a fighting shot or do you resist it. (I know the answer before I ask the question so, if I have talked to you for a while now...you better be honest or I will call you out) I actually look forward to being in love there is nothing more satisfying than that. Do you have the guts? I like to think I have the guts sometimes they make me sick but they are there. Step up...or step away. Im in the box swingin away!!! I wanna be grounded again! I inherited my fathers nickname from his youth! he was known as Tough lover, well over my heart is a torn and tattered and stitched, beaten heart tattoo with a banner over it declaring TOUGH LOVER 2. I will keep on loving until I quit breathing because I believe that we as humans are not meant to be alone!! and we all have a mate that we are destined to be with. Sometimes we have to make a couple runs down the batting roster to get that homerun.! Thanks Krupa, thats a lot of questions that make you think and look inward. very hopefull in my search. |
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I ain't exactly a fan of lettering in tattoos but I like the "Tough Lover" concept. That's pretty cool!
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As of today right this minute i am
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Edited by
a2jpman
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Thu 08/25/11 05:58 PM
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I had it done the day my divorce was final. its a statement to myself, that yes I have been beaten and worn and tattered! But im still here and I still have a lot of love for the woman that I hope to spend the rest of my life with. Im not a loner! Im a lover!
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Edited by
a2jpman
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Thu 08/25/11 06:00 PM
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As of today right this minute i am . And I am jumping in head first. No worries no doubts. And like I said previously I will fight tooth and nail for love. So fingers crossed and here's to love Congrats! and love with all that you are, because you are worthy of it. and deserve it. |
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As of today right this minute i am . And I am jumping in head first. No worries no doubts. And like I said previously I will fight tooth and nail for love. So fingers crossed and here's to love Congrats! and love with all that you are, because you are worthy it. and deserve it. Oh i always do. Never do anything half azz. and thank you |
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I step up but its not a testament to my guts, unfortunately, it cuz Im outta control in that area. I feel ya there! I almost feel like Im out of control there as well! I cant thrive alone I need the driving force of love behind me ! |
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I call them chitterlings!
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I had it done the day my divorce was final. its a statement to myself, that yes I have been beaten and worn and tattered! But im still here and I still have a lot of love for the woman that I hope to spend the rest of my life with. Im not a loner! Im a lover! Well, I have to say I admire you for your guts. Me, I am a loner not a lover. Sure you find someone that deserves you. 
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As of today right this minute i am . And I am jumping in head first. No worries no doubts. And like I said previously I will fight tooth and nail for love. So fingers crossed and here's to love  YEAH Great for you txmom! 
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I had it done the day my divorce was final. its a statement to myself, that yes I have been beaten and worn and tattered! But im still here and I still have a lot of love for the woman that I hope to spend the rest of my life with. Im not a loner! Im a lover! Here Here! Agreed! |
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I ain't exactly a fan of lettering in tattoos but I like the "Tough Lover" concept. That's pretty cool! Im not gutsy to enough to ink any mans name on me. .divorced after ten years, thank god i never tattooed that butthole on me. My friend got her fiancee and i warned her, they have broken up 3 times the last month and a half. . . |
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I am soooooooooo ready. I'm not afraid regardless of the past. Each day is a new beginning, and all I need is a man who is unafraid too.
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I am soooooooooo ready. I'm not afraid regardless of the past. Each day is a new beginning, and all I need is a man who is unafraid too. I like your attitude. This is so important. You cant live life through your rearview mirror. I always live by the motto "Today is the beginning of the rest of my life?" haha. However it goes. When i was younger, i was kidnapped and assualted as a very young child, my parents became deceased as a result and I had no choice to but to look up in life. Live with ambition and hope and you will find joy and happiness. Everyday is a new beginning. We cant change the past but we can control the future by our decisions emotionally.. |
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I'm ready and willing tooo. Almost 5 yrs I've been alone and I want to find someone to share my life with..I really miss that... I'll never quit looking, even though I've been hurt a few times, as long as I am able and in good health...
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You kids sure do make for a good read. I really respect the fact that you cats and dolls responded with what seems to be just honest answers about your true selves. That is pretty gutsy too.
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As of today right this minute i am . And I am jumping in head first. No worries no doubts. And like I said previously I will fight tooth and nail for love. So fingers crossed and here's to love YEAH Great for you txmom! Thanks T |
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To actually fall in love? This question is mainly posed at the old timers here. Though, anyone is free to answer. Can you let go of your fear and just love like what you want to recieve? Can you put aside the heart ache of failed attempts? Do you got the balls to stand up to the plate again and risk striking out when you want a Homerun? It took me three years before I had the courage to just say "Screw it! Let's fall in love" I am so grateful that I took the chance and despite odds or distance, I found what everyone here is searching for.....love. Do you really plan on saying "F**kit...I do love you"? If not, no biggie cause I know that some of my very best friends are here.... But ask yourself this simple question....DO YOU WANT TO FALL IN LOVE? I am talking about the patience, work, compromise, empathy. Cause I know alot of people here can't see past thier past or thier ideals. I used to be one of them. Just curious.... Will you honestly give love a fighting shot or do you resist it. (I know the answer before I ask the question so, if I have talked to you for a while now...you better be honest or I will call you out) Do you have the guts? Step up...or step away. I've been reading and reading this post krupa... an *excellent* post. I'll bet (and I'm one of them) a lot of people are going to **** or get off the pot if this sinks in. I'm ready for love... have lots of love in my heart to give to the right one, but may have been fooling myself by saying I wasn't in a hurry. I've enjoyed reading the forums and making friends... maybe it's time to get off my butt and get a little more serious about what I signed up here for. Two thumbs up my friend 
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I think most people are scared of the initial phases of dating and relationships more than fearing too much to fall in love.
Not everybody's the same but I think I can speak for many people when I say that it becomes difficult to BEGIN relationships when you're closed up or have had a recent unhealthy, painful or tumultuous relationship. Hell, Ive been on this for weeks now and not one person has said hello to me out of the blue and out of the women I have written an introductory email to, two wrote back and both were up to no good, obviously not being serious. Maybe just kids fooling around or fake profiles, idk, but here's the same old junk with simply trying to begin a conversation. It used to be pretty simple, is everybody THAT paranoid and damaged? Ive had terrible things done to me in a couple relationships and I wasnt always the best I could be but Im definitely not going to throw away a new chance out of fear. I think people seem to be just plain afraid of FUN or GENUINENESS these days!! Sad. |
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