Topic: Do you have the guts...?????
GotConverse's photo
Wed 08/24/11 08:32 PM
I don't know that I can trust enough to recognize love. I just got hammered in a 20 plus year marriage, viscious divorce and custody battle. I need some friends to help me re-enter the real world!

metalwing's photo
Wed 08/24/11 10:08 PM

I don't know that I can trust enough to recognize love. I just got hammered in a 20 plus year marriage, viscious divorce and custody battle. I need some friends to help me re-enter the real world!



You need to take it real slow for awhile!happy Friends are a great idea and this is a good place to find some.

Ruth34611's photo
Thu 08/25/11 06:37 AM

I thought I did when I came onto this site but found I didn't.

So I worked on myself for a while.

Now to have someone who moves me and who I can respect cross my path so I can see if I have the guts again.

I don't think we can really know for sure until the opportunity presents itself and the decision is in front of our face.


Very well said.

newarkjw's photo
Thu 08/25/11 07:33 AM
Been there. Done that. Didn't even get a f!cking T-shirt.........smokin

Simonedemidova's photo
Thu 08/25/11 09:51 AM

I don't know that I can trust enough to recognize love. I just got hammered in a 20 plus year marriage, viscious divorce and custody battle. I need some friends to help me re-enter the real world!



Oh that is the worst...People can be such jerks. Dont let it ruin you, You just need a break to re-group and realize who you are again. Hang in there. flowerforyou

Niceladyrealy's photo
Thu 08/25/11 11:35 AM

To actually fall in love?


This question is mainly posed at the old timers here. Though, anyone is free to answer.

Can you let go of your fear and just love like what you want to recieve?

Can you put aside the heart ache of failed attempts?

Do you got the balls to stand up to the plate again and risk striking out when you want a Homerun?

It took me three years before I had the courage to just say "Screw it! Let's fall in love"

I am so grateful that I took the chance and despite odds or distance, I found what everyone here is searching for.....love.

Do you really plan on saying "F**kit...I do love you"?

If not, no biggie cause I know that some of my very best friends are here.... But ask yourself this simple question....DO YOU WANT TO FALL IN LOVE? I am talking about the patience, work, compromise, empathy. Cause I know alot of people here can't see past thier past or thier ideals. I used to be one of them.

Just curious....

Will you honestly give love a fighting shot or do you resist it. (I know the answer before I ask the question so, if I have talked to you for a while now...you better be honest or I will call you out)

Do you have the guts?

Step up...or step away.


krupa, is right. A relationship is like participating in the olympics..you have to go all the way and give it everything you got,or you wont win, and chances are even if you did put in all the èffort you might still not win, and you wont know if you can win unles you risk it all. A loving relationship is wonderfull i think its worthe risk. Mingle is everybodys comfort zone you can get involvd online withoutaking any risks.and yet you might meet some1here thats wortheffort.no onever succeded by doing something halfway. Like krup a said u have to letgo ofthe past and be ready for something new and wonderfull. Your new love is not your ex. Doubt can destroy a potential good relationship. Take a chance and trust some1 again and love with all you heart. You will feel great when you do.and when or if you fall of your bicycle dust yourself of, give the wound time2heal. And get on it again and enjoyour life. Fear is what keep you misrbl, move beyond itowards happynice posting krup a, thanks.

no photo
Thu 08/25/11 11:52 AM
To answer the question...YES! But my close friends know that already...

Niceladyrealy's photo
Thu 08/25/11 12:13 PM

Define lovewhat what
love iselfless and unconditional. When you hava loving partner they will do anything inthere power to keep you happy, they will make sacrifices for you. They will let you be who you want ando what you want in order for you to be happy. And yethey will tel you that you cant throw dirty clothes önthe floor it must go inthe laundry basket. Or do your lover become a yourloveslave. Unconditionalove means they willove and support you regardles0f bad choices that you make, they wilove and guide you2becomore than you are and achiev al your goals. Ithink that is love?

Niceladyrealy's photo
Thu 08/25/11 12:13 PM

Define lovewhat what
love iselfless and unconditional. When you hava loving partner they will do anything inthere power to keep you happy, they will make sacrifices for you. They will let you be who you want ando what you want in order for you to be happy. And yethey will tel you that you cant throw dirty clothes önthe floor it must go inthe laundry basket. Or do your lover become a yourloveslave. Unconditionalove means they willove and support you regardles0f bad choices that you make, they wilove and guide you2becomore than you are and achiev al your goals. Ithink that is love?

no photo
Thu 08/25/11 12:18 PM
Well after 3 years and many patches I finally married my Blow up doll If that counts!!!!noway drool :banana:

newarkjw's photo
Thu 08/25/11 12:39 PM
Edited by newarkjw on Thu 08/25/11 12:44 PM


To actually fall in love?


This question is mainly posed at the old timers here. Though, anyone is free to answer.

Can you let go of your fear and just love like what you want to recieve?

Can you put aside the heart ache of failed attempts?

Do you got the balls to stand up to the plate again and risk striking out when you want a Homerun?

It took me three years before I had the courage to just say "Screw it! Let's fall in love"

I am so grateful that I took the chance and despite odds or distance, I found what everyone here is searching for.....love.

Do you really plan on saying "F**kit...I do love you"?

If not, no biggie cause I know that some of my very best friends are here.... But ask yourself this simple question....DO YOU WANT TO FALL IN LOVE? I am talking about the patience, work, compromise, empathy. Cause I know alot of people here can't see past thier past or thier ideals. I used to be one of them.

Just curious....

Will you honestly give love a fighting shot or do you resist it. (I know the answer before I ask the question so, if I have talked to you for a while now...you better be honest or I will call you out)

Do you have the guts?

Step up...or step away.


krupa, is right. A relationship is like participating in the olympics..you have to go all the way and give it everything you got,or you wont win, and chances are even if you did put in all the èffort you might still not win, and you wont know if you can win unles you risk it all. A loving relationship is wonderfull i think its worthe risk. Mingle is everybodys comfort zone you can get involvd online withoutaking any risks.and yet you might meet some1here thats wortheffort.no onever succeded by doing something halfway. Like krup a said u have to letgo ofthe past and be ready for something new and wonderfull. Your new love is not your ex. Doubt can destroy a potential good relationship. Take a chance and trust some1 again and love with all you heart. You will feel great when you do.and when or if you fall of your bicycle dust yourself of, give the wound time2heal. And get on it again and enjoyour life. Fear is what keep you misrbl, move beyond itowards happynice posting krup a, thanks.


Well Chit! A relationship is like being in the Olympics? Possibly like the Winter Olympics. Sorta like the Jamaican bobsled team.....smokin

no photo
Thu 08/25/11 12:49 PM
Absolutely! Life is all about chances. Everyday we take NEW steps. Love is hard but has such a wonderful payback!

"It is better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all!" ...Says it all!flowerforyou

winterblue56's photo
Thu 08/25/11 04:54 PM


To actually fall in love?


This question is mainly posed at the old timers here. Though, anyone is free to answer.

Can you let go of your fear and just love like what you want to recieve?

Can you put aside the heart ache of failed attempts?

Do you got the balls to stand up to the plate again and risk striking out when you want a Homerun?

It took me three years before I had the courage to just say "Screw it! Let's fall in love"

I am so grateful that I took the chance and despite odds or distance, I found what everyone here is searching for.....love.

Do you really plan on saying "F**kit...I do love you"?

If not, no biggie cause I know that some of my very best friends are here.... But ask yourself this simple question....DO YOU WANT TO FALL IN LOVE? I am talking about the patience, work, compromise, empathy. Cause I know alot of people here can't see past thier past or thier ideals. I used to be one of them.

Just curious....

Will you honestly give love a fighting shot or do you resist it. (I know the answer before I ask the question so, if I have talked to you for a while now...you better be honest or I will call you out)

Do you have the guts?

Step up...or step away.




Ok here goes. I'm three (OMG DID SHE SAY 3?) times divorced. And yet I still came on this site hoping. I have had many awesome conversations with some very interesting men. I have found amazing people to call my friends. One disaster of a relationship (wih a fellow mingler). And gave anyone who contacted me a chance.
I now have found a great man (well he found me) and wehave been dating a few months now. Seems to be going great and I have NO plans on tradin ghim in any time soon.
SSSSOOOOOOO.........

If I after 3 (OMG frustrated slaphead DId I just admit it again?) divorces can stil have faith. Then ANYONE should be able to try.
You can not expect love to just find you... you have to be open to the idea.
So I stepped up!!


Congrats Trouble! flowerforyou

no photo
Thu 08/25/11 05:03 PM
being gutsy is the only way i think i can express what i really feel...
i mean, I'm more of a subservient type, but when push comes to shove. specifically to falling in love. Its better that i have done something than regret not doing anything at all..

no photo
Thu 08/25/11 05:03 PM
being gutsy is the only way i think i can express what i really feel...
i mean, I'm more of a subservient type, but when push comes to shove. specifically to falling in love. Its better that i have done something than regret not doing anything at all..

winterblue56's photo
Thu 08/25/11 05:04 PM

Been there. Done that. Didn't even get a f!cking T-shirt.........smokin


Hope this helps laugh


no photo
Thu 08/25/11 05:15 PM

Well after 3 years and many patches I finally married my Blow up doll If that counts!!!!noway drool :banana:


CONGRATULATIONS Mikey!!!
Do we get to see a wedding pic? (be careful not to get introuble iwht mods)

lionsbrew's photo
Thu 08/25/11 05:16 PM
A wise man once said there is nothing to fear but fear itself. Letting ones fear guide them through life is pitiful. I personally couldn't live with the "what ifs". What if i had done this or what if I had done that.......I cant stand it. I have to get up and do it. What do I have to show for it? A good woman who drives me crazy in all the right ways.

If I spent my time worrying over distance I'd see myself as a fool cause distance is a variable that I have control over. Packing up to move a new place around without the security of friends and family is scary but at the same time exciting. Even if every thing were to explode in my face I'd still know in the end I was true to myself and can continue living a life with no regrets.

If I couldn't let myself love again after being hurt I'd be a fool and would miss out on so many grand emotions and feelings. Yeah getting into the wrong relationship can hurt.Well.....Life can hurt. Life goes on. Get on with it or get out of the goddamn way. Life is too short our time on the planet is finite theres not a single moment to waste. Its life its best when lived in my opinion.

no photo
Thu 08/25/11 05:16 PM



To actually fall in love?


This question is mainly posed at the old timers here. Though, anyone is free to answer.

Can you let go of your fear and just love like what you want to recieve?

Can you put aside the heart ache of failed attempts?

Do you got the balls to stand up to the plate again and risk striking out when you want a Homerun?

It took me three years before I had the courage to just say "Screw it! Let's fall in love"

I am so grateful that I took the chance and despite odds or distance, I found what everyone here is searching for.....love.

Do you really plan on saying "F**kit...I do love you"?

If not, no biggie cause I know that some of my very best friends are here.... But ask yourself this simple question....DO YOU WANT TO FALL IN LOVE? I am talking about the patience, work, compromise, empathy. Cause I know alot of people here can't see past thier past or thier ideals. I used to be one of them.

Just curious....

Will you honestly give love a fighting shot or do you resist it. (I know the answer before I ask the question so, if I have talked to you for a while now...you better be honest or I will call you out)

Do you have the guts?

Step up...or step away.




Ok here goes. I'm three (OMG DID SHE SAY 3?) times divorced. And yet I still came on this site hoping. I have had many awesome conversations with some very interesting men. I have found amazing people to call my friends. One disaster of a relationship (wih a fellow mingler). And gave anyone who contacted me a chance.
I now have found a great man (well he found me) and wehave been dating a few months now. Seems to be going great and I have NO plans on tradin ghim in any time soon.
SSSSOOOOOOO.........

If I after 3 (OMG frustrated slaphead DId I just admit it again?) divorces can stil have faith. Then ANYONE should be able to try.
You can not expect love to just find you... you have to be open to the idea.
So I stepped up!!


Congrats Trouble! flowerforyou


Thanks WInterblue! flowers

krupa's photo
Thu 08/25/11 05:18 PM

Being in love or infatuation.


THAT is a good question.

My answer...infatuation is just about lust.