how can 1 deal with a long distance relationship?

Their getting more and more common and can be a beautiful thing. It also depends on what your lifestyle is like.

Long distance relationships are not for me. I'm sure they work for some, though.

Been about 7000 miles away from mine for over 3 months. Not fun.

Just flow with it, but dont put all your hope and heart in it.

They are like any relationship they require communication and work to work. In this day an age communication is so effing easy its not even funny.

I'm not sure. I need them physically as much as mentally. I need to actually feel a hug. I've never been in a long distance relationship, but i know i don't want to wake up everyday with potential lover at the other end of the world, when i could have him laying right next to me instead. I need to see it with my own eyes if that makes sense. Though i won't worry about it that much, cos i remember making a pact with a guy friend i've known for years, and basically if i don't find another man to be with, in the next three years, then HE will be my lover. I think sometimes you've got a better chance if you've known them for quite a few year. I guess some people like me just aren't built to handle long distance that well.

It is realy nt abt the distance,it is abt lov and trust between you both...I dnt hav a girl buh i knw if i hav 1 i would make it look lyk she stays next door to even whern she is country away...It all depends onwhat we want.And how much trust we hav..Reply

Some people like it and others like myself not so. I was in one for 5 years and never liked it at all. Seeing him every 6-8 months was hard. I like to be close to the one I love.

You either get really good at pleasing yourself and keeping up communication with your partner, or you don't deal with long distance. I have tried and failed so many times.. Take my advice, unless the long distance will be relieved in a matter of 1-3 months, it's really useless trying

Also, i don't have that kind of money to be getting planes from my country to another all the time. I can't afford it. I think having a relationship with someone in my own country will be my limit. I can't travel any further than England. If i was rich then maybe things could have been different, but not from where i'm seeing it.

The problem with LDR's is that a person can hide who they really are for a much longer period of time than if you are dating them close to home. So, you really need to go A LOT slower when entering such a relationship.

Dealing with a long distance relationship really depends on how you are as a lover. If you are one who tends to be so physical, I guess LDR is not for you, much more one with a very infrequent meetings. But if you are one who's very capable to deal with your emotions and the physiological issues LDR brought about, then you may be in for it. This is where the saying: Absence makes the heart grow fonder goes.

I tell you, this is true because I am one who experience this. After having been in a failed marriage and a romantic relationship with someone near me after a few years, I realized distance works well for me as I am capable to express my affection without any qualms - to the right type of man, even from a distance. Yes, it takes the right man though. One you should have an spiritual or emotional connection with. With this kind of relationship, physical thing should be of lesser priority. It could be very hard to some though, but it's possible. So, I think you oughta give it a try - just be stronger.

Good luck

HATE IT...cause he cheated on me everytime he's away...sooo...it's OVER!!!!

I've dabbled with a few LDRs ....never again.

I wish i could feel as positive as you do about LDR :) It's mainly being able to afford to travel planes or ferries, see. I would have had more of a choice if i didn't limit myself to England. I suppose if said potential partner was willing to travel to my town and visit, i could give that a fair go. I just haven't met anyone that is a match yet, really. As long as that potential LDR partner really was genuinely willing to travel to see me, and not just on a whim.

Yup, yup.
Distance in miles is not as important
as closeness of mind.

I am living one right now. Its hard! I guess it depends on how strong your love and connection are and if you see yourself making the effort to be together in the future. In my case, I see no other path. My love for him is too strong to deny.
Good luck

I would rather be crazy mad in love with a real love half the country away, than sleep in the same bed with someone who just doesnt care.

I have to agree with Krupa, distance in miles can be worked out, distance in the heart never can..

If you really love someopne you will do what ever you have to to make it work.