:Shshsh anything over 2 hours is too far apart for me.... and for some even that is too far..

Yup. Here in Connecticut, I've seen many profiles on many sites where women don't want a 20 to 30 minute drive for a date. They expect to find someone within 5 to 10 minutes online. It's rather unrealistic, but I've been rejected just because I live 30 minutes away.

YES ME TOO..........

Hummm well that is a bit far fetched to me sounds like and excuse..... I would drive an hour to meet someone half way... but any farther then that if you click then you would be pretty much limited to weekends meeting only....

It really depends on the area, I guess. Someone here could be 30 miles away (Washington, DC), but it could take a long time to get there because of bad traffic. Would I want to drive through all that traffic all the time to see someone? No. Would I automatically say no to a date because of that? Probably not. But, I do prefer someone local if possible.

That's what CT is like though. People don't like to drive more than 15 minutes to go anywhere except work or a special occasion. To us, 30 minutes is a long drive, and 6 towns away.

It's not really an excuse, just a mindset. My roommates and I discussed this in college. The one from Malibu was shocked by how short a drive was considered long. In his words, "pfft, we drive to San Francisco like it's nothing...like a day trip....and that's a 6 hour drive." Around here, a day trip is an hour or 2 hours away max. Driving to my college was a 5 hour ride, and that was considered a really long drive....but I've driven 10 hours in one day by myself non-stop.

Maybe try offering to meet them in their town first? That way they don't have to make the drive.

Still don't know why I'm being rejected, but I sure hope it's because of the distance.

I always offer to do that. Only had one person take me up on it, and we became friends instead.

Truth is, in this state, everyone is in a hurry. No one wants to waste time. No one even wants to stop for a stop sign anymore. Four cars in a row will run a red light. And so on. The patience of people in this state has declined dramatically since I was age 10 or so. If I sat down, I could probably graph out the increase in impatience. For instance, in my area when the speed limit was 55 most people actually drove 55. A rare few drove 60. Now the speed limit is 65 and it is extremely rare for anyone to drive less than 70, and several drive 80.

So I guess, I a lot of people want to be able to have someone around constantly, rather than have to drive 25 miles or so. I drive 17 to 25 miles one way just to visit friends each week!

I absolutely agree!

You guys are soooo lucky! Here in my country, one has to travel an hour or two (one-way) to get to their loved ones or friends. I don't know what's wrong here but aside from the heavy traffic, our drivers tend to while their time away while driving

I lived there for a while. I always thought the best part about CT was that anything outside CT was just a few hour's drive away.

If you think that's bad, try driving anywhere near DC.

I've lived here all my life, in the back end of town but only a few miles away from I-95. I have seen a lot of changes since I was born 40 years ago.

On weekends, and sometimes during the week on summer days, I-95 is a veritable parking lot with traffic moving 15 mph to 40 mph because the volume. There isn't a city for 20 miles either way, and the highway is still the original two lanes in each direction. Part of it is beach traffic, some summer residents, and some are headed to the casinos. But those same people will drive 80 mph to 90 mph when they head back, especially if they lost all their money, or were drinking, at the casino. I used to take classes near the casino 4 nights a week. I had to drive the entire distance behind them many a time. It's rather scary some of the behavior I've seen.

WITH THE GENERAL LEE YOU CAN GO ANY WHERE........

Awe....c'mere you

OK

I SO prefer long distance.
You can spend a long (or short) time getting
to know someone online.
When a meet finally arrives, it is like a
nuclear reaction, the intensity is so acute.
Build-up, my good people :-)

I have to agree with Soufie; I prefer long distance. Sometimes when you're physically close, the attraction can get in the way or cloud your thinking. I prefer to start out mailing or messaging, then talking on the phone to get to know each other. Meeting is the icing on the cake. I love the anticipation.

YOU are so DANG CUTE SOUFIE---

"Build up, my good people"
(it's cuz we live in a day of Instant gratification)