Oh, it was WAY more than ONE....!

Enough to let me know I was wasting my time, not to mention wasting the time of those I was writing to.

After I had been here awhile, and had become established in the forums, they started writing to me. Much easier that way. As I'm essentially pretty lazy, it's better for me to sit back and wait for them to initiate things.

It's true that I still haven't heard from anyone who is close enough (either geographically or philosophically) for me to actually get to know in person, but there's always the possibility someone new (and local) will sign up tomorrow.

But I will NOT be sending out any more first messages....! I LEARNED my lesson on THAT one....!

I wasent aware that you wanted to stay single...

ON A DATING SITE!

My bad!

It's not just a dating site, it's a social site.

So maybe the girl who joins tomorrow, and is a bit shy, could be "the one" for you...but you wont ever know, because you refuse to write her first. Thats sad! Rejection is part of the process, but just cause you lost this race, doesnt mean your gonna lose the next one,and you should never race again. You feel me??

hell yes I do. I'm here to play with you women, not marry you

Yep, its both, so expect both to be happening here all the time!

Who said marry??? There is a happy medium in between marriage, and being single. Its called dating.

well it really doesn't matter cos there on no women in my area that have been here in the last month

Yeah you get knocked down, but you get right back up, and stronger for it!!
I hate to think that certain people have made it to where other people build these high walls to protect them from rejection. Than when someone good comes along, who would really like to be with you, your walls are so high, they never get to see or meet you.

Please dont do that.

Ive been on here for years, and the only one ive found lives all the way across the country, but it doesnt mean I lose hope that maybe we will be together one day, or we may find others to make us happy.

Its worth rolling the dice, you dont always lose!!

Oh bummer, you just picked the rude girls or the ones who just came on to have a look.

Let's see Websters definition of dating. Here it is.


Dating: scariest word known to men

Doesnt mean she wont show up tomorrow, or Thursday. You have to have your eyes open to see her. Ya know?

I'm OK with being single. Everything I really NEED to do -- breathe, eat, sleep, drink, read, write -- I can do perfectly well on my own. I really don't NEED anybody.

Fact is, I'd gladly go back and ERASE every relationship I've ever had from my personal history, if there was any real way to do so.

So, in my experience, I've yet to see a relationship that wasn't more trouble than it was worth.

I don't expect to ever see one. Not saying it's impossible, but I've seen more evidence for the Yeti than I have for a "good relationship."

Bottom line is, since I don't actually NEED anybody, I'll be damned if I'm going to "settle" for another dead-end, brain-dead, society-driven airhead fluffball who is only going to try to turn me into a cardboard cutout 3 months down the road. If it ain't what I want, I'm not even THINKING about starting anything. End of.

Dating is scary for everyone, especially when half way through the date you realize there is no chemistry between the two of you. So you probably add a new one, to your list of friends, you dont run away like a scared puppy with your tail between your legs!

I always respond to my messages also. My ma raised me to be a curteous, respectful person. What I don't get are the messages that go back and forth a few times....than just Stop . I figure they must have found someone more interesting .

well why can't SHE write first ??

What the heck...Dating, I thought that we where all here to propose marraige int he first email.. Bummer

Hmm how about putting on your profile that you dont email first, so at least anyone who is interested can message you.

yup