And everyday when I walk down the street, I run the risk of being raped and or murdered. It doesnt keep me from going where I need to, I just use more caution, knowing there is danger out there.
I could fall off of the roller coaster while its in motion, doesnt mean im never riding a roller coaster again, I take my chances for the thrill of it all. I get bucked off a horse, do I never ride again??/ Hell no, I firmly grab the reigns and I ride, and its wonderful while it lasts. It may last forever, maybe not, but you never know till you try!

Oh, I know where your coming from and agree with you. But as far as answering all the emails I kinda think about it first because I want to come off as a good guy friend who is happy to say hi but who also doesn't want 20 emails to flood my page from one girl in 10 minutes without being a friend or seeing them on the threads or even asking me about my personal relationship.

I just dont get it, enlighten me. I have so many guys tell me that they are shocked that I answered their email.

Why should that be shocking.

If someone takes their time, and directs it to me by emailing me, the very least I could do, would be to email them back. I answer all my emails, I would think it rude not to.

They dont always get the answer they want to hear. I usually read their profile, (no matter if I think their picture is cute or not),and respond knowing their profile when I do. If they are too young(which happens alot to me) I simply tell them that, and I usually add in that I hope they arent hurt, mad, or disappointed. If they dont live near me its easy, because I already have a boyfriend all the way across the country. And if im just plain not interested, I just say,"sorry, but I am not interested at this time, but thank you for considering me".I think thats a nice tactful way to say it. I dont expect men to be perfect, and I certainly dont judge them, who am I, or are we, to do that??? I just think, it would be nice, if more women responded to their emails.You have to have at least once written someone, and they didnt write back...how did it make you feel??? Terrible huh? So at least be nice enough to say "no thank you". JMO.

P.S. I also write in the end of every letter that I write ..."Good luck in finding your dream girl".

shirley you're not talking about Lex and I ??

I always reply to my mail (even most of the spammers/scammers!). Of course they get a 'Not interested' for obvious reasons.... , but I still reply. The thing that really annoys me is when I reply to the first message and they don't reply back to me! Especially if it's before I give the 'Access denied' !

Kinda feels that way, huh?



Before I can even begin to think about the potential for a relationship, I'm going to have to first believe there's a POSSIBILITY that there MIGHT be someone compatible out there. I have yet to see a single indicator that this could be the case. So it makes no sense for me to waste a lot of time and energy on something that probably does not exist in the first place. If I have to choose between spending my time writing more books, or squandering it away on a pointless, delusional search for something that was never even there to begin with, it's not a difficult decision.

i "usually" do, but if it's just a 'hi' from a shirtless guy grabbing at his you know whats, i don't.

Same here ... come ON guys!

I even answer (and politely decline) the 26 yo's (what is it about that age?... now THAT'S creepy, considering that my son is THIRTY!!!) and the ones who inappropriately call me Sweetie or Baby (do I *KNOW* you, Mister?) which, to me, is like getting a slap on the derriere.

I really want to stress here that I am no authority on relationships, just know what I know from experience....

And I am not in any way, trying to tell anybody, what to do.

This is all just my opinion.

Yup, and most spam is from bots anyway, so responding to it useless, or may place you on a spammer/scammer contact list.

I email back most of the time. Most of the time I'm just getting perved with no convo. It makes me feel like a piece of meat.

so I DON'T have to write her first ??????

I always reply to my mail (even most of the spammers/scammers!)...

Shows how different people are...

I call everyone Sweetie, and baby girl or baby boy, or honey, or whatever pet name strikes me at the minute. I would never have thought that anyone would take that as a slap on the derriere.

I love it when guys call me babe, or sweetie, or darlin, or honey, or whatever, my profile even says so, but I take it as a compliment, not as anything dirty or inappropriate.I think its endearing.

Different strokes for different folks.

Hell Mg called me his baby on one of the threads today, should I feel like he smacked me on the azz? I dont. To each his own, I guess.

I also get hit on by alot of younger men, I dont think its creepy,(maybe if I had a thirty year old son, I would), but I take it as a compliment. And you have to admit there are alot of older women who date younger men. My hearts desire is 37, and im 48.But we really dig each other, we just live on opposite ends of the country. We've been emailing each other for 3 years, and I dont consider one minute of it wasting my time, even though we may never be together...I still hold out hope!