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Is everyone meant to be with someone, or is most ppl meant to be alone??? I've had to kiss several frogs/toads, and can't seem to find that one who is my prince!!! Is it just me, or does this happen to some of y'all. It's almost like a curse.
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Who knows...? I ask myself that question daily. I am just not ready to give up...not yet...maybe I will someday, but not now.
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I don't think anyone is "meant" to do anything -- the whole concept of "meant" requires someone or something to be in charge of determining the "meaning."
I do think there are people who simply work better together, who simply are more suitable and compatible with each other. I don't see the need to postulate any kind of metaphysical causes or explanations for it. And some of us, I'm convinced, are better off alone. That doesn't mean I think I'm "meant" to be alone; just that I don't seem to be able to find anyone interesting and compatible enough to pursue. It's just circumstantial. Just "it is what it is." Based on my past relationships,I believe I am better off alone. But it has nothing to do with "meant to be." |
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Ok, but what if u really want to be with someone? Cause i know some ppl would rather be alone than to be with someone. I hope i'm explaining that right lol.
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Who knows...? I ask myself that question daily. I am just not ready to give up...not yet...maybe I will someday, but not now. Well what if ur whole life has been thru soooooooo many that was just not for you? I'm almost 40 and still finding guys who play around, even ones that are older than me, just lookn for games. |
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Ok, but what if u really want to be with someone? Cause i know some ppl would rather be alone than to be with someone. I hope i'm explaining that right lol. I think this has to be strictly individual and strictly situational. For myself, yes, I would definitely like to have someone in my life. So it's not that I want to be alone, it's just that I haven't been able to find anyone who is better for me than being alone. This took me a long time to discern. But my reality is that, if I had the opportunity to go back and erase all of my past relationships, I would do it in a heartbeat. So I don't have much hope that anything better is going to suddenly appear anytime in the future....! |
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Ok, but what if u really want to be with someone? Cause i know some ppl would rather be alone than to be with someone. I hope i'm explaining that right lol. I think this has to be strictly individual and strictly situational. For myself, yes, I would definitely like to have someone in my life. So it's not that I want to be alone, it's just that I haven't been able to find anyone who is better for me than being alone. This took me a long time to discern. But my reality is that, if I had the opportunity to go back and erase all of my past relationships, I would do it in a heartbeat. So I don't have much hope that anything better is going to suddenly appear anytime in the future....! awww ok, i understand now! ok thx, i don't see anything happening for me either, especially around these parts of ohio. |
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I think the reality of finding the right person has changed so much over the last 20 years that we almost have to reevaluate how to go about getting to know someone and finding out if they are someone we might be interested in.
I would say that there are probably a ton more people playing games than before and fixated on looks. That's enough right there to drive you crazy. But on the other hand there are more ways to broaden the search through the use of the Internet, you just have be be smart in knowing what to look for as far as signs of good and bad on the Internet. I find that being straight up about what you want and how you look at things weeds people out quickly. For example: I on purpose put up post that go a little over board in what I want (giving lots of detail) this way women who might be scared off can do so without burning up my time and theirs. Some might think this to be too much but for me I feel these are things that are going to come up some time in the getting to know process so why not get them out of the way now. I don't think people think any less of me as a friend but they know deep down that it would never work because of X or work because of the same thing. I strongly recommend you getting involved on mingle threads and let others get to know how you are and what your dislikes and likes have to offer. If nothing else it will be a lot of fun making friends and teach you things about yourself you didn't know. How was that for a Mingle promo? |
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I think the reality of finding the right person has changed so much over the last 20 years that we almost have to reevaluate how to go about getting to know someone and finding out if they are someone we might be interested in. I would say that there are probably a ton more people playing games than before and fixated on looks. That's enough right there to drive you crazy. But on the other hand there are more ways to broaden the search through the use of the Internet, you just have be be smart in knowing what to look for as far as signs of good and bad on the Internet. I find that being straight up about what you want and how you look at things weeds people out quickly. For example: I on purpose put up post that go a little over board in what I want (giving lots of detail) this way women who might be scared off can do so without burning up my time and theirs. Some might think this to be too much but for me I feel these are things that are going to come up some time in the getting to know process so why not get them out of the way now. I don't think people think any less of me as a friend but they know deep down that it would never work because of X or work because of the same thing. I strongly recommend you getting involved on mingle threads and let others get to know how you are and what your dislikes and likes have to offer. If nothing else it will be a lot of fun making friends and teach you things about yourself you didn't know. How was that for a Mingle promo? yea it does weed em out...they run FAST AND IN A HURRY! lol it's like NO ONE is serious anymore, i guess ppl are more into looking for a quick sex convo and pic swap than anything else. so sad. |
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WOW! By the time it took me to write a post it looks like you are off and running. I don't think it's going to take you that long to figure this out.
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Edited by
RainbowTrout
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Fri 06/17/11 07:02 PM
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Who knows...? I ask myself that question daily. I am just not ready to give up...not yet...maybe I will someday, but not now. Well what if ur whole life has been thru soooooooo many that was just not for you? I'm almost 40 and still finding guys who play around, even ones that are older than me, just lookn for games. Good observation. I find that by not having a chain to jerk stops a lot of chain jerking right from the get go. By just working on friendship type of relationships that I can have many relationships whereas if I was in a committed type of relationship I would feel committed. It sure nips a lot of mistakes that I could make right in the bud. I say that because the ones that want me to be committed to them don't necessarily expect that they should be committed to me. After hearing one lady tell me that I just fall in love too easily made me feel that I must not have been a challenge at all. It is cool to be alone when I want to be. 
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WOW! By the time it took me to write a post it looks like you are off and running. I don't think it's going to take you that long to figure this out. NO NO NO lol I meant how ppl are when u tell them what kinda person u are lookn for, they split and run on to the next, cause they don't want to talk to u. and with me, all i gotta do is put a body pic, they run...cause they don't want a thick woman lol. i'm just saying |
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I would say that there are probably a ton more people playing games than before and fixated on looks. That's enough right there to drive you crazy. But on the other hand there are more ways to broaden the search through the use of the Internet, you just have be be smart in knowing what to look for as far as signs of good and bad on the Internet. Michael, I would say that not only is this 100% accurate, things are actually even worse! For one thing, people are putting less and less effort into their dating site endeavors. Profiles are worse, the communications are worse (spelling, grammar, punctuation, etc.), and the content has dwindled to the point that significant percentages of profiles are limited to "I don't know what to write here" or "Anything you want to know, you'll have to ask." In addition, it seems that (the larger) dating sites are becoming more and more mainstream. If you're not looking for the traditional marriage-with-2.4-kids-and-obligatory-1950s-mentality, you're just plain screwed on most sites. Women on the larger sites don't seem to want a guy who has a functional brain or who can read and write above a third grade level, in my experience. While it's still possible to run across some non-mainstreamers on some of the smaller, more specialized sites, those sites generally have so few members that the odds of finding someone close enough to meet in person is negligible. Yes, people focus on looks, and yes, that creates a lot of limitations. But there are lots of other kinds of limitations out there as well! |
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WOW! By the time it took me to write a post it looks like you are off and running. I don't think it's going to take you that long to figure this out. NO NO NO lol I meant how ppl are when u tell them what kinda person u are lookn for, they split and run on to the next, cause they don't want to talk to u. and with me, all i gotta do is put a body pic, they run...cause they don't want a thick woman lol. i'm just saying Well, that's very shallow on their part. You in the short few post have said a lot and if the man is looking for someone who can be real with them you are the type of gal who is putting out the right signals that are inviting for them. |
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WOW! By the time it took me to write a post it looks like you are off and running. I don't think it's going to take you that long to figure this out. NO NO NO lol I meant how ppl are when u tell them what kinda person u are lookn for, they split and run on to the next, cause they don't want to talk to u. and with me, all i gotta do is put a body pic, they run...cause they don't want a thick woman lol. i'm just saying Absolutely. When I tell people what I'm looking for, they usually want to argue with me and tell me I'm wrong. |
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I would say that there are probably a ton more people playing games than before and fixated on looks. That's enough right there to drive you crazy. But on the other hand there are more ways to broaden the search through the use of the Internet, you just have be be smart in knowing what to look for as far as signs of good and bad on the Internet. Michael, I would say that not only is this 100% accurate, things are actually even worse! For one thing, people are putting less and less effort into their dating site endeavors. Profiles are worse, the communications are worse (spelling, grammar, punctuation, etc.), and the content has dwindled to the point that significant percentages of profiles are limited to "I don't know what to write here" or "Anything you want to know, you'll have to ask." In addition, it seems that (the larger) dating sites are becoming more and more mainstream. If you're not looking for the traditional marriage-with-2.4-kids-and-obligatory-1950s-mentality, you're just plain screwed on most sites. Women on the larger sites don't seem to want a guy who has a functional brain or who can read and write above a third grade level, in my experience. While it's still possible to run across some non-mainstreamers on some of the smaller, more specialized sites, those sites generally have so few members that the odds of finding someone close enough to meet in person is negligible. Yes, people focus on looks, and yes, that creates a lot of limitations. But there are lots of other kinds of limitations out there as well! All the more reason why we need to cherish people like you and need to be a place that cultivates a good crowd. |
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WOW! By the time it took me to write a post it looks like you are off and running. I don't think it's going to take you that long to figure this out. NO NO NO lol I meant how ppl are when u tell them what kinda person u are lookn for, they split and run on to the next, cause they don't want to talk to u. and with me, all i gotta do is put a body pic, they run...cause they don't want a thick woman lol. i'm just saying I have met some thick headed women and men for that matter. Thickness can be taken in so many ways. |
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WOW! By the time it took me to write a post it looks like you are off and running. I don't think it's going to take you that long to figure this out. NO NO NO lol I meant how ppl are when u tell them what kinda person u are lookn for, they split and run on to the next, cause they don't want to talk to u. and with me, all i gotta do is put a body pic, they run...cause they don't want a thick woman lol. i'm just saying Absolutely. When I tell people what I'm looking for, they usually want to argue with me and tell me I'm wrong. This is something that I like we can gain control over. |
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The older we get, the more comfortable we become with ourselves. The more respect we have for ourselves. It seems like yesterday I was divorcing my husband and I just knew I would find someone, get married again and possibly have more children. That yesterday was 20 years ago
 . What I have found through the years is that I won't settle for another divorce. If I don't feel right in my gut/heart, then I've come to accept that it's not right for me. I have learned to detect the players, funners and users. I don't even give them a second chance  . I'm comfortable enough with myself, by myself, that it will be in God's time, if it is meant for me to be with someone again.
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Is everyone meant to be with someone, or is most ppl meant to be alone??? I've had to kiss several frogs/toads, and can't seem to find that one who is my prince!!! Is it just me, or does this happen to some of y'all. It's almost like a curse. I don't believe in soulmates, but we can choose life long partners. Being alone is a choice for most, you do have situations such as the still born or child death where they were not given a chance to find someone, but who's to say they don't grow up in heaven and find someone there? Becareful trying to find someone you create in your head outside of your head, that's a trap a lot of people fall for. 
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