Topic: Non-profit religious charities - ulterior motive?
Redykeulous's photo
Fri 06/03/11 09:42 PM


I didn't say homosexuals can't be good parents. I said kids would be better off in a heterosexual home with a male and female role model.


You still have not answered my question about why you think that.




Um, because there is a male and female roll model to grow up with... Didn't I already say that a few times?


What is it that they model - I don't understand?

Do you do your own laundry, cook, clean? My heterosexual parents taught both my brother and I what we would need to know to be self-sufficient. My 6'4" football playing brother could iron anything and he wasn't going to starve. I can change the oil in my car, hell give me an old car and I can rig a caborator too and change the spark plugs.

I know several men who stay home and do housework and take care of the kids becuse the wife is an executive who has to travel.

So exactly what is being modeled that makes it imperitive, in your mind, for a child to grow up seeing?


Redykeulous's photo
Fri 06/03/11 09:53 PM




I didn't say homosexuals can't be good parents. I said kids would be better off in a heterosexual home with a male and female role model.


You still have not answered my question about why you think that.




Um, because there is a male and female roll model to grow up with... Didn't I already say that a few times?


THATS YOUR ANSWER?

Why is that better? Are these people living in the sticks that the child does not know what a male and female are??

And how do you know there would be no male and female role models in the child's life?




Did you grow up with a mom and dad?

If so, did you look at your parents as the examples of what a man and woman mean?

Did you look at other adults the same way as you did your parents?

That is what I mean...


Explain it more thoroughly please. What behaviors and attitudes are specifically male and specifically female and why is that important in a child's home life?

Redykeulous's photo
Fri 06/03/11 09:56 PM

why? when GENDER is a SIGNIFICANT factor in creating a child should it suddenly have no MERIT or SIGNIFICANCE In raising one?


I would ask you the same questions in my previous posts above this one as to what you thing is so different about the behaviors, and attitutdes between makles and femailes and why a child should see these displayed in their home life?

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Fri 06/03/11 10:01 PM





why? when GENDER is a SIGNIFICANT factor in creating a child should it suddenly have no MERIT or SIGNIFICANCE In raising one?


Because there can be good parents as heterosexuals, just as much as homosexuals, even as much as single parents. Gender does not automatically equal a good parent nor should it be the main factor looked at.



a prostitute is not automatically a bad parent either, or an 'escort', but Im sure it weighs pretty heavily on a decision of adoption based upon the 'environment' that would no doubt accompany that type of lifestyle,,,


a prostitute, should not be ruled out as a good parent either, BUT , unless no other options are available, Im sure she would likewise be often pushed down to the bottom of the 'good , better, best' list


Here we go with the extremes again....

(sigh) When are you going to understand that a prostitute, a drug addict, is not anywhere CLOSE to a homosexual loving couple? To try and compare them like that, makes you just look plain stupid. It is not a fair comparision AT ALL.



can you explain why a loving prostitute is not like a loving parent from any other demographic? isnt that a discriminatory attitude?

whats stupid about it? to say its nothing close seems quite 'discriminatory' to me.....

wasnt it posted before what people do in their personal life shouldnt be anyones business

so as long as a parent loves a child, what difference does it make what their sexual lifestyle is?




What is similar and different between a male or female prostitute, a person or a couple with a drug dependancy, and a SS couple joined by marriage or civil union. Please compare and contract so we can all perceive these things - at least from your point of view.

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Fri 06/03/11 10:04 PM





why? when GENDER is a SIGNIFICANT factor in creating a child should it suddenly have no MERIT or SIGNIFICANCE In raising one?


Because there can be good parents as heterosexuals, just as much as homosexuals, even as much as single parents. Gender does not automatically equal a good parent nor should it be the main factor looked at.



a prostitute is not automatically a bad parent either, or an 'escort', but Im sure it weighs pretty heavily on a decision of adoption based upon the 'environment' that would no doubt accompany that type of lifestyle,,,


a prostitute, should not be ruled out as a good parent either, BUT , unless no other options are available, Im sure she would likewise be often pushed down to the bottom of the 'good , better, best' list


Here we go with the extremes again....

(sigh) When are you going to understand that a prostitute, a drug addict, is not anywhere CLOSE to a homosexual loving couple? To try and compare them like that, makes you just look plain stupid. It is not a fair comparision AT ALL.


Why is a prostitute a bad comparison? What makes her bad and a homosexual couple good?


That a question I'm trying to find the answer to. I hope either you or Msharmony will share a response.

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Fri 06/03/11 10:11 PM






why? when GENDER is a SIGNIFICANT factor in creating a child should it suddenly have no MERIT or SIGNIFICANCE In raising one?


Because there can be good parents as heterosexuals, just as much as homosexuals, even as much as single parents. Gender does not automatically equal a good parent nor should it be the main factor looked at.



a prostitute is not automatically a bad parent either, or an 'escort', but Im sure it weighs pretty heavily on a decision of adoption based upon the 'environment' that would no doubt accompany that type of lifestyle,,,


a prostitute, should not be ruled out as a good parent either, BUT , unless no other options are available, Im sure she would likewise be often pushed down to the bottom of the 'good , better, best' list


Here we go with the extremes again....

(sigh) When are you going to understand that a prostitute, a drug addict, is not anywhere CLOSE to a homosexual loving couple? To try and compare them like that, makes you just look plain stupid. It is not a fair comparision AT ALL.


Why is a prostitute a bad comparison? What makes her bad and a homosexual couple good?


That a question I'm trying to find the answer to. I hope either you or Msharmony will share a response.


You're asking the wrong person. I'm saying there is no difference.

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Fri 06/03/11 10:17 PM


why? when GENDER is a SIGNIFICANT factor in creating a child should it suddenly have no MERIT or SIGNIFICANCE In raising one?


I would ask you the same questions in my previous posts above this one as to what you thing is so different about the behaviors, and attitutdes between makles and femailes and why a child should see these displayed in their home life?


the difference is in their hormones, their biology, their cultural roles as MOTHER vs FATHER, or AUNT vs UNCLE

they are a compliment to each other BIOLOGICALLY, because of those differences, which are as 'common sense' to me as the similarities are 'common sense' to others

similarity and difference can coexist


Redykeulous's photo
Fri 06/03/11 10:17 PM











You can have your opinion.

Why can't I have mine?

I don't agree with yours. So what? Why does that bother you so much?

They already are going with your opinion. I disagree with what is already happening. Why do you feel you need to defend this so strongly?

I never said a homosexual couple was incapable of raising a child.


Oh NOWWWWW you're gonna backpedal. If you don't think they are incapable, than give them a damn chance!

I don't care if you agree with me or not, you can have your view, but when your view is directly or indirectly effecting others lives as would be in a case like this, that's where I have a problem. And that's where I feel a need to defend this, because this is bad for the kids as it means less chances to find a home for them, and discriminates against loving couples who would love to give them that home.


I'm not backpedaling.

If you care to look, I always said kids are better off in a heterosexual home. I never said that a homosexual home is bad.

This whole debate stared because the Catholic church was forced to decide if allowing a homosexual couple adopt was better than closing their doors. Each was an equally abhorrent choice they had to make. They had to choose the lessor of two evils. Renounce one of their tenants as being false. That is a church body standing up and saying, "We are wrong on what sin is." Or, abandon their cause to help children.


Now you're just twisting words, cause you infer that the homosexual home is bad, when you suggest a heterosexual home is better. You can't get around that.

As for the church, I'd say perhaps admitting they were wrong would be an improvement, because they are, but that's just me.


No, that is your interpretation of what I mean by better.

Levels are good - better - best.

I have been thinking all along that a homosexual family can be good. You did not know what was in my head.


As for the church, I'd say perhaps admitting they were wrong would be an improvement, because they are, but that's just me.


Are you now the arbiter of what is right and wrong?


Why didn't you say it then to start with?

Is the church? Can they speak for God?


You never bothered to ask. You just started yelling saying I was wrong.


Well, if you think they can be good, why not give them a chance to prove it then? Put your money where your mouth is.



Um, perhaps you were not listening this entire time?

I would prefer to put the child in the best environment possible. Why settle for good when you can have better or best?


Because I don't think you can easily define that just by gender, each child has different needs, and every possible couple offers different things. They should be judged on their own merit, not on gender.


Ok, coming back to it for the twentieth time.

men and women are different. Our bodies are different. The way we think is different. What we prioritize is different. How we show affection is different.

So, yes, you can easily define that by comparing two genders to one.

That has been my argument all along. Two genders give the kids a better understanding of life as they grow up over one gender. This is shown by studies of single family homes as MsHarmony said.

It is better.


Are you saying that we LEARN to be masculine and feminine; that there is nothing inherent to gender that affects our thoughts and behaviors?

How do the kids in single parent households learn to be masculine and feminine?


no photo
Fri 06/03/11 10:19 PM
the nature of the business doesnt include children(unless its child prostitution)

but that would be like comparing all homosexuals with homosexuals who happen to prefer children

keeping it broad , a homosexual is no more/less likely to make a good 'parent' to a child than a prostitute

unless EITHER one is bringing their personal/sexual life AROUND the child,,,,


,,,,do you feel otherwise?


Msharmony I will say this again. I hope you read it this time.


Prostitution is ILLEGAL. That can't be a good environment for a child. Mommy would have to be bailed out of jail, her pimp might beat her up, etc. LOL

Being homosexual is not illegal. They are not breaking the laws.


As Red said, if you aren't part of the solution you are part of the problem.

Children and families are being discriminated against as far as benefits are concerned.






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Fri 06/03/11 10:27 PM






why? when GENDER is a SIGNIFICANT factor in creating a child should it suddenly have no MERIT or SIGNIFICANCE In raising one?


Because there can be good parents as heterosexuals, just as much as homosexuals, even as much as single parents. Gender does not automatically equal a good parent nor should it be the main factor looked at.



a prostitute is not automatically a bad parent either, or an 'escort', but Im sure it weighs pretty heavily on a decision of adoption based upon the 'environment' that would no doubt accompany that type of lifestyle,,,


a prostitute, should not be ruled out as a good parent either, BUT , unless no other options are available, Im sure she would likewise be often pushed down to the bottom of the 'good , better, best' list


Here we go with the extremes again....

(sigh) When are you going to understand that a prostitute, a drug addict, is not anywhere CLOSE to a homosexual loving couple? To try and compare them like that, makes you just look plain stupid. It is not a fair comparision AT ALL.


Why is a prostitute a bad comparison? What makes her bad and a homosexual couple good?


That a question I'm trying to find the answer to. I hope either you or Msharmony will share a response.
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actually, Msharmony posed the question to being with,,lol

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Fri 06/03/11 10:30 PM

the nature of the business doesnt include children(unless its child prostitution)

but that would be like comparing all homosexuals with homosexuals who happen to prefer children

keeping it broad , a homosexual is no more/less likely to make a good 'parent' to a child than a prostitute

unless EITHER one is bringing their personal/sexual life AROUND the child,,,,


,,,,do you feel otherwise?


Msharmony I will say this again. I hope you read it this time.


Prostitution is ILLEGAL. That can't be a good environment for a child. Mommy would have to be bailed out of jail, her pimp might beat her up, etc. LOL

Being homosexual is not illegal. They are not breaking the laws.


As Red said, if you aren't part of the solution you are part of the problem.

Children and families are being discriminated against as far as benefits are concerned.









ok, so an extremely promiscuous woman GIVING IT AWAY for free with no risk of being incarcerated'

would be no further down on the list to adopt a child than a nun?

lifestyle does at some points intersect with raising children and parens lifestyles are and should be considered in deciding the better or BEST envronment for the child

it is idealistic to insist that ALL that is needed is love, but its not realistic or true,,,

msharmony's photo
Fri 06/03/11 10:32 PM

the nature of the business doesnt include children(unless its child prostitution)

but that would be like comparing all homosexuals with homosexuals who happen to prefer children

keeping it broad , a homosexual is no more/less likely to make a good 'parent' to a child than a prostitute

unless EITHER one is bringing their personal/sexual life AROUND the child,,,,


,,,,do you feel otherwise?


Msharmony I will say this again. I hope you read it this time.


Prostitution is ILLEGAL. That can't be a good environment for a child. Mommy would have to be bailed out of jail, her pimp might beat her up, etc. LOL

Being homosexual is not illegal. They are not breaking the laws.


As Red said, if you aren't part of the solution you are part of the problem.

Children and families are being discriminated against as far as benefits are concerned.








it may be discriminating against potential parents, but its not discriminating against children to try and place them with the best parental environment

Redykeulous's photo
Fri 06/03/11 10:32 PM



why? when GENDER is a SIGNIFICANT factor in creating a child should it suddenly have no MERIT or SIGNIFICANCE In raising one?


I would ask you the same questions in my previous posts above this one as to what you thing is so different about the behaviors, and attitutdes between makles and femailes and why a child should see these displayed in their home life?


the difference is in their hormones, their biology, their cultural roles as MOTHER vs FATHER, or AUNT vs UNCLE

they are a compliment to each other BIOLOGICALLY, because of those differences, which are as 'common sense' to me as the similarities are 'common sense' to others

similarity and difference can coexist




We don't see hormones and I never saw my father or mother naked - did you?

Cultureal roles? You might want to explain that better, particually why you think male or female role models would be lacking in the life of a child raised in a SS household

The rest of what you said is laughable. Do think a child in a single parent household lacks a world full of role models of either sex?
Why would a child in a SS household have any lack of opposite sex role models?

The straws you grasp for seem to be very short.

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Fri 06/03/11 10:34 PM
but the bottom line is , the charity placed children in loving homes, the criteria they used were LATER deemed to be not permitted, they didnt want to change the criteria so they got out

thats really the end of it, cant change what was done, can only learn from it, and of the options they had, to place children in homes they GENUINELY Felt werent a healthy environment, or to go along with what SOCIETY Insists they should agree is healthy

they did right by bowing out,,,

Redykeulous's photo
Fri 06/03/11 10:35 PM







why? when GENDER is a SIGNIFICANT factor in creating a child should it suddenly have no MERIT or SIGNIFICANCE In raising one?


Because there can be good parents as heterosexuals, just as much as homosexuals, even as much as single parents. Gender does not automatically equal a good parent nor should it be the main factor looked at.



a prostitute is not automatically a bad parent either, or an 'escort', but Im sure it weighs pretty heavily on a decision of adoption based upon the 'environment' that would no doubt accompany that type of lifestyle,,,


a prostitute, should not be ruled out as a good parent either, BUT , unless no other options are available, Im sure she would likewise be often pushed down to the bottom of the 'good , better, best' list


Here we go with the extremes again....

(sigh) When are you going to understand that a prostitute, a drug addict, is not anywhere CLOSE to a homosexual loving couple? To try and compare them like that, makes you just look plain stupid. It is not a fair comparision AT ALL.


Why is a prostitute a bad comparison? What makes her bad and a homosexual couple good?


That a question I'm trying to find the answer to. I hope either you or Msharmony will share a response.


You're asking the wrong person. I'm saying there is no difference.


So explain what msharmony failed to. What is this role model think you are stuck on. What is its funcion and how does help or hurt a child who does not have both a male and female adult in their household?

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Fri 06/03/11 10:40 PM




How is saying I won't want a child placed with a homosexual couple forcing my religious views down people's throat?


Simple, you force these people to adhere to your beliefs and in so doing strip them of their right to adopt a child and be judged as being able to adopt a child on their own ability to give them a good home as a couple. That's how.


No matter how you slice it, I am not forcing my beliefs upon them. They don't have to adhere to my beliefs in any way shape or form. They don't have to be Christian and I am not saying they need to convert to have a child. They can complain that my personal belief is that a kid is better off in a heterosexual home all they want. That doesn't make them have to accept my faith in any way. I could still have that view if I were not Christian. There actually are quite a few people that hold that view that are not? Are they also forcing their beliefs down someones throat?


Well let's see if I can make this simple for you.

Since you don't believe homosexuals should raise children, I can assume you don't think they should be married either. Which leads me to believe you have not voted to pass any equal marriage legislation.

The fact is that homoseuxals DO HAVE CHILDREN, and they do have long-term relationships and raise loving, and happy children as well as heterosexual couples.

Unfortunatley the SS couples are denied many of the valuable benefits that make having a successful family life much easier.

In effect much of the suffering that you might perceive in such a child's life is that of YOUR OWN making.

Since you refuse to vote for or otherwise support the legislation that would accommodate these famililies, then you are putting that child at greater risk than families of heterosexuals whom you would allow to have these benefits.

To use a faded but correct figure of speech - if you're not part of the solution, you are part of the problem...


thats alot of assuming...

I have no absolute standard about people , there are situations that happen planned and unplanned which CAN work despite the odds against it

so no, Im not opposed to homosexuals raising THEIR (biological) children. I am opposed to homosexuals raising OTHER children IF there are other options available.

I have not voted on equal marriage legislation, as I believe the government should stay out of relationships(neither endorsing nor condemning them) EXCEPT the relationships which create future citizens

I have voted on civil unions however for those who wish merely to have similar LEGAL privileges as a married couple. I would love a time when any two adults, whether related or not, whether best friends, whether same sex or opposite sex, who merely want civil privileges will be permitted into such a union and visit each other in hospitals, get benefits, or all the other privileges that legally apply to marriage because of the commitment to a lifelong UNION that is implied.

the solution cliche is cute, but not quite accurate

it usually means if you are not part of MY solution, you are part of the problem,,,but people dont all come to the same conclusions about what the 'solution' is,,,

no photo
Fri 06/03/11 10:43 PM
You personally have a right to your opinion. And you personally are neither part of the problem or solution.

It is that typical type of thinking, lack of information and knowledge, fear of the unknown, lack of understanding of the problem as a whole etc. that is part of the problem.

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Fri 06/03/11 10:44 PM




why? when GENDER is a SIGNIFICANT factor in creating a child should it suddenly have no MERIT or SIGNIFICANCE In raising one?


I would ask you the same questions in my previous posts above this one as to what you thing is so different about the behaviors, and attitutdes between makles and femailes and why a child should see these displayed in their home life?


the difference is in their hormones, their biology, their cultural roles as MOTHER vs FATHER, or AUNT vs UNCLE

they are a compliment to each other BIOLOGICALLY, because of those differences, which are as 'common sense' to me as the similarities are 'common sense' to others

similarity and difference can coexist




We don't see hormones and I never saw my father or mother naked - did you?

Cultureal roles? You might want to explain that better, particually why you think male or female role models would be lacking in the life of a child raised in a SS household

The rest of what you said is laughable. Do think a child in a single parent household lacks a world full of role models of either sex?
Why would a child in a SS household have any lack of opposite sex role models?

The straws you grasp for seem to be very short.


you are free to your assumptions and opinions as am I, we will not agree on this one

men and women are different, no matter how un pc it is to admit it, and its beautiful that they are

we dont have to be THE EXACT SAME to be equally significant

its no less significant to have someone who keeps the house clean than it is to have someone provides

it is MATHEMATICALLY logical to determine that its probably easier for TWO people to split the responsibilities of raising a child than for one person to try to stretch themself,,,

these are not straws, these are as valid points as the point that people should make no distinction between male and female and that children have no benefit from having both of the people who created them, all of who THEY are themself, nurturing that full self thoughout their life, and even best if they are doing it together, daily.

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Fri 06/03/11 10:45 PM

You personally have a right to your opinion. And you personally are neither part of the problem or solution.

It is that typical type of thinking, lack of information and knowledge, fear of the unknown, lack of understanding of the problem as a whole etc. that is part of the problem.


I agree, and hindsight is twenty twenty. We will just have to wait a generation and two to see how it all turns out.

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Fri 06/03/11 10:46 PM


the nature of the business doesnt include children(unless its child prostitution)

but that would be like comparing all homosexuals with homosexuals who happen to prefer children

keeping it broad , a homosexual is no more/less likely to make a good 'parent' to a child than a prostitute

unless EITHER one is bringing their personal/sexual life AROUND the child,,,,


,,,,do you feel otherwise?


Msharmony I will say this again. I hope you read it this time.


Prostitution is ILLEGAL. That can't be a good environment for a child. Mommy would have to be bailed out of jail, her pimp might beat her up, etc. LOL

Being homosexual is not illegal. They are not breaking the laws.


As Red said, if you aren't part of the solution you are part of the problem.

Children and families are being discriminated against as far as benefits are concerned.









ok, so an extremely promiscuous woman GIVING IT AWAY for free with no risk of being incarcerated'

would be no further down on the list to adopt a child than a nun?

lifestyle does at some points intersect with raising children and parens lifestyles are and should be considered in deciding the better or BEST envronment for the child

it is idealistic to insist that ALL that is needed is love, but its not realistic or true,,,


LIFESTYLE - what are you talking about?

Have you even bothered to look up the criteria that ANY state might use for foster care or adoption? Do you know the rigorous routines, the programs, and lenght of time and all that people have to go through to be considered for either of these programs.

You have no idea the stress, the heartache, ther trials, and even sometimes the trauma that can be involved. And there you are throwing these idea around inserting prostituion and drug addictions, haphazardly as if the whole world views THOSE PEOPLE in some underworld light.

MY first reaction here was to say --- Shame on you - an all time low for you , I must say.

But then I understand that you are grasping at straws to make points for for which there is not rational view. So I can only assume you have, as you have done in the past, not bothered to look up and ACTUAL inforamtion about this discussion.

Definately not a good role model for MyLifeToday, but then he only needs to look in the mirror to find his hero. Where do you look for your heros?