Why do ladies date other ladies when their hetero relations fail?

Someone please fill me in.

Well speaking only for myself. I have been married( three times to men) and when it ends I joke maybe I should "switch teams" But in all reality I'm way to heterosexual for that. IMHO I believe any woman who has that curiosity, after a bad breakup may decide its a good time to experiment and see if teh grass is greener.
But what do I know I like men WAY TOO much. no matter how many jerks there are in the world.

I would have to imagine that women are sick and tired of the BS men give them (in their own minds). Since they can't find Mr Right they prolly look towards another woman for relationship fulfillment. Some are prolly Bi anyways and their BF didn't like (Or appreciate) that.

I am sure the reasons are as numerous as stars in the night sky though. Some guys have turned gay becasue of bad relationships with women.

It is just proof positive of how dysfunctional people, men and women really are.

even though most of the women on the hetero team won't let me play i would still never change teams. then again, men are hairy and sweaty and gross, so i can understand why some women would entertain the idea of switching sides.


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A man is better for this job, a woman would have to use toys.

More tupperware parties?

Maybe her relations with guys didn't work because she wasn't attracted to them. maybe shes experimenting to find out who she is. Maybe she dated men as a front to keep her family off her back. There really are a lot of reasons why,

well now, don't misinterpret girl's nite out - or in (like an oldfashioned slumber party) as bi dating

it's not

and we usually spend our time talking about dudes anyway

so ya - get a big head - we're talking 'bout u



kind ofa girl bonding ritual

"Because they can."

It's a free country. If you go to one tailor, and he makes one of your sleeves long and the other short, and so do all other tailors in your town, then you think for a while and get your next suit made by a taxidermist, no? For your leopard-skin evening jacket.

Or
"If the peg doesn't fit the hole, try fitting two holes together, and screw the mutually facing tiiits onto each other by a siamese connection operation."

Or
"don't sweat the small stuff, you are not ugly, only men are blind. Love makes them blind, you see."

Or
"Try to learn how to sweat inwardly (and not outwardly) in public at an indoors venue. If that's too tough for ya, forget dating men, you must date women."

Because it's too hard for them to admit they are failures.

A charwoman or a kitchen worker would just simply give up. They are not ladies, you see.

Shouldn't you be filling us in.

Disclaimer: It is not my intention to offend anyone. This is just an observation based on women I have known.

More women seem to be open to homosexual relationships than men. Based on spending time with women who wished to experiment, several of them became lesbians for non-genetic reasons. Whereas men tend to experiment much less, and gay men tend to regard many bisexual men as phonies. In other words, with men either you are gay or you are not - it's determined by genetics (or assumed to be until proven otherwise).

Women, on the other hand, are more likely to become lesbians for pleasure or for psychological or emotional reasons. When I say this I mean, they date women exclusively even if they are not truly gay. It's a personal decision. Bisexual women usually admit they like men, although they may enjoy sex with a woman more. Faux lesbians usually return to dating men because of something they miss from the other gender, whether it be sexual or not.

I know there are some homosexuals that will take exception to this. Truth is, I have known several gay men and women - some as personal friends, others from hanging out with a groups of friends. (And no, I've never experimented myself.) But I also have not traveled much outside of the northeastern U.S. Perhaps this is a localized phenomenon. Unfortunately, my experiences have permitted me no way to determine that.

so hw long have women u date been suddenly turning lesbo?

respectfully, I really do not agree with you at all - not even a little bit - so it maybe it's something ur doing to them

Seriously, it's not anyone I dated. Just women I knew from hanging out in college and just after college.

I suppose it could have just been due to the social circles they were in. I don't really know. I do know that some of those women are no longer lesbians as they once professed to be.

I really have no problem with gay people though. I had a middle-age lesbian couple invite me to go see a Mets game with them this season. I'm a Mets fan, and it turned out one of them was too.

A while back, one of my three closest friends admitted he was gay. We used to hang out a lot, but he moved away after both of his parents died within a month of each other. He was a real pro at covering it up too. He came from a Navy family - three generations including himself. They would have gone ballistic if they had ever found out.

ok sorry _ I was teasing you - and you don't know me that well - and I wouldn't think anything u did could "turn" anyone gay anyway

because I subscribe to the theory that folks are born that way

it's not the same thing as being "bi-curious"

Actually, I thought you were teasing, but often how things appear in print is not how they were actually meant.

Anyway, if someone does disagree with what I seem to have observed, I would listen to a more informed view or an astute observation.

Probably because they liked ladies and not men in the first place and thats why their relationships failed.

Ditto...........even though I have had relationships that have failed it has not had to do with the sexual aspect of it at all. Hell there were a few that now days I would have keep around just for the sex ............

All I can say I would be with a wimpy man before I ever went for a woman anyday!!!!

Myself there is nothing a woman has I want ........I LOVE MEN~~~~~~

because, in my opinion, 'sexual preference' is not a constant like gender , but an everchanging variable that evolves from various social AND biological stimuli which are also everchanging,,,


I certainly am attracted to taller men, for example, so that I cant SEE a shorter man and imagine being physically able to feel satisfied or turned on by him, because of the extent in which TALL men turn me on

BUT, if enough tall men did me dirty, or if I just happened to meet an incredible short man, I may FIND myself becoming attracted to him for reasons that have nothing to do with his physical attributes,,and I may find that I suddenly PREFER this 'short' man

likewise, as a woman, I may be turned on by men initially and completely(in the physical sense of the word), but I may meet a woman that I become ATTRACTED to for reasons having nothing to do with the physical but which later EVOLVE into physical attraction as well

and IF I am INTERESTED deeply enough in having that bond with SOMEONE, I could persuade myself to go there,,,,with very little effort and be every bit as satisfied, attracted, and happy in that relationship as any other,,,

hypothetically

this is a reasonable difference, probably easier to 'emotionally synchronize' our minds as women to the 'soft' embrace of another body(regardless of gender) , than it is for a man to 'emotionally synchronize' his mind to the 'rough penetration' of another mans penis,,,,