OK, I understand completely that everyones experiences are different.
However, allow me to share mine and please share your comments.

I have been divorced for a few years now. And I have been trying this internet dating thing, but to no avail.

More often than not, the guy comes across as interested, will email and text, and call...but when it comes to actually going OUT...its rare...almost non existant.
I understand scheduling is a problem for everyone...I have a schedule too...& if I got to know someone well enough I would be more than happy to invite someone to my home for dinner and a movie here.
But, I just cant seem to get to that point!

I dont feel like they arent interested, because they will continue to contact me via the internet or phone. However, just dont seem to want to make the time for the first, second or third date.

This is a problem because I dont go out. I am a not from this area and know very few people. So, dating is very difficult. But in all honestly I am really starting to get lonely.

What's up?

Guys can be as nervous in print
as they can in reality.

maybe men are doing what married women do on these types of sites,just lead ya on to boost their self esteem

Maybe they aren't who they say they are.

IDK, I've met several people from this site. I don't think it's anything personal, but if they were serious, they would meet at least once.

There's a lot more BS online than in real life, and it can be more difficult to detect. It takes while to figure things out.

You have to be soooo careful....
I have been scammed by one, here.
I have dated 2 off of mingle2, one turned out to be married.

I see your points, I figure a few of them must be married or something...just into games...I get it.

I personally would much prefer to meet people in real life, because its REAL....but that old grocery store thing just doesnt work.

And I dont want to come across as thirsty...(which I understand this post really ruins that...lol). I just want to meet people, urgh...Y is this so dang hard?

I have thought about the gym thing..but thats not my scene.

I have considered some sort of church that is really involved with the community, however, I am not a religious person & I would feel I was being fake.

I know women who are my age and older who have just accepted the fact that they do not have a partner....they seem content with that...its not what I want, but, maybe its time to consider that.

I hear where you're coming from on this. But also remember meeting in real life is not all it's cracked up to be sometimes. I've had more fails than good ones. Bein stood up is the worst! And well, just other things that have happened to make me re-consider everything as you are doing too.
In your last paragraph you stated that maybe it's time to consider it also, maybe it is if you feel it's right to do so. Personally, I'm on here, making friends, and if something happens..it happens. If not (which I don't expect anything to reallly happen off of here lol, lets get real). Sometimes people don't get me because I live 15 minutes from the Chicago city limits, and I don't go anywhere. But most of that lies with the fact I work 2nd shift, and it's hard to have a life of any sort on that shift.

Agree be careful be wise. I've made some good friends. It takes time. You never know when or where the one for you will show up. Me time isn't so bad right now. I was married most of my life single for 6 years now.

>I know women who are my age and older who have just accepted the fact that they do not have a partner....they seem content with that...its not what I want, but, maybe its time to consider that.

JustSayHi, I have a very similar experience except, I haven't been duped by married women ;)

I too toil with the idea of being alone, I don't like the idea; but if this is what the world has to offer me, then so be it.

Yea me too, I think I'm meant to be alone lol, but I'm here for a reason, so I haven't given up just yet.

That sucks..lol

Hah, which part?!

Never give up tattooed! I don't know if I am meant to be alone, but I certainly know that I would rather be alone than with someone that makes me unhappy. I believe in the possibility of finding someone that is like me to be happy with longterm, but right now I am not concerned with looking for him! I want to finish school and just enjoy being myself for now.

I have made some great friends here that have helped me realize who I am and what I want out of life! They make me laugh, listen when I need it, and give advice when I ask...this place is worth all the time I spend here.

I don't give up..except on women But I'm not to that point yet, cause I'm still here. When I suddendly vanish, then you know I quit

Not that I like being alone but so be it like you said till the world brings someone across my path that I click with.

Wouldn't be so sure...the women around here are great with duck tape and hand-cuffs, all it takes is one of 'em to bait you into her trap

Yeaaaa I don't see that happening!

Some people just have issues with taking it to that final step and actually meeting. I've come across a few of them. My suggestion is to not spend too much time on those kind of guys. If they're local and not willing to meet within a couple weeks, move on.