What I mean rigid, is that somehow they are so strict, that you can't even talk dirty to them , not even during sex. Have you met one of those?

What about guys?

Somehow the way they were raised or because of strict religious rules or something, they are not allowing themselves as far as they really wish to, because they feel ashamed, because what they were taught and raised.

I don't mean, that women should behave like trash-wh_res with with extremely kinky stuff, and I do understand and value if people got manners.
What I'm talking about is hard liners (I have met those before) who won't allow and wont even do - for example - oral sex, and strictly speaks politically correct terms, even during sex.

A huge turn off for me.

some people prefer the same sex, and sodomy, which I dont understand, but thats THEIR preference, but are they being 'too rigid' by not 'allowing' themself that heterosexual experience some of us have enjoyed?


sex is HIGHLY intellectual, what we place as boundaries in our own heads vary from person to person,, and leads to 'preferences'

are you refering to christine o'donnell?

I actually was with a feller who was
very uncomfortable around sex, very
rigid, and disapproving.
Old school.
Nothing could be done.
He just didn't like it.
Rather freaked me out.
So I am guessing anyone can be like this.

If you have run into it, you are forever
beware of peeps like that.

Indeed. Especially if you have been with others before who aren't like that and you can't even imagine yourself taking it too long to behave in a certain way.
I mean, making love is supposed to be connected with freedom and letting the wild fantasies out, not strict rule driven activity, where you have to do things in an "appropriate" manner.

That makes me run away screaming.

Me, too :-)

You know I love it when you talk dirty to me!!!

Yeh, that's always been a surprise to me. I had it happen once, creeped me out, to be honest. Others I've talked to have said they felt it was the religious upbringing. Of course, I know of a couple who went to the extreme, then got religion and shut themselves down cold.

Happy mediums are few and far between. I can see not being interested if one has tried it, and didn't like it, but that's something that needs to be discussed with the partner. Open talk about sex just doesn't seem to be happening in the USA.

Some people just explode at one moment, because they can't restrain themselves anymore and it usually comes down to violence and rape. Keep blowing up the balloon and it goes out with a bang if there is no deflation time to time. That's what I think, that's why are so many sexual predators and totally nasty behavior. People explode because their natural instinct is restrained artificially.

That I wholeheartedly agree with!!

^^^I don't get this at all ED? Sex was openly discussed in our house growing up and within the circle of friends I maintained in my life. My parents had a healthy love life so I guess wanting a healthy sex life was instilled. Of course being raised southern baptist teaches no sex until marriage, but hey...Mom & Dad married in June & my brother born in November the same year

I was shocked when I moved away and found out how many people are not comfortable talking about sexual things

My ex hubby was was a great match in that dept..we experimented and were adventurous together! Wish the rest of that marriage was as fun :) My ex bf, on the other hand, was not open to much. Sex became too predictable and boring...IMO!

I just don't understand the ones that don't want sex at all

Basic info on sex and health was here too. Nothing was restricted, regarding questions and books. Heck I was reading some pretty intense books at 8, 9, 10 with the understanding that if I had questions come ask, but don't talk about it at school. We didn't have the no sex before marriage part, but we did have don't be foolish/stupid part.

I knew I had it good, but didn't realize how good till I had had a upper classmen in community college come ask me if saran wrap could be used for a condom. Her folks had NEVER said a word. Eeeekkk!


I can understand not being interested, or having a high libido, or having injuries that make things difficult, but to outright say no, and make it filthy, in a not-good way is sad. And to not be willing to even try it, and try it openly/open-mindedly, is even worse.

This is a misconception.

Rape is an act of control. The act of sex is just the method to reach complete control over another person. It is the control and pain and suffering of the person that gets them off, not the sexual pleasure as in a sex act.

My understanding is that sexual desires that are not being met usually manifests into the irritability and in extreme cases OCD or something like that. But they are not usually taken out on others in a sexual way (like criminal rape or molestation) I fully recommend sex for one to take the edge off.

As to the OP, yes I have met men who wanted the lights off, no talking, no discussing the act, etc... what I found was they believed the act to be so dirty/filthy/disgusting/shameful/animalistic from religious teaching that the shame of them doing it had to be hidden as much as possible.

Personally, I have a hard time talking dirty myself during sex (not that there is not words used) but that is just because I am thinking about the pleasure and not discussing it. It is a time for mostly actions for me not conversations....

This is an interesting topic. While I personally have never been with someone so uptight about it. Well once when I was younger and it didn't last for more than a couple of passionate kisses but thats another story for a different thread. But the way I see it the rigidity could just be a way in which a person is using sex as a way to control the other person.

That being said personally I could put up with it if it meant she was loyal and genuine. You can always discuss things like adults and who knows maybe she would come around to being less rigid after a while. Especially if you go through the effort of doing positive things to shed a different light on the subject. Communication is a really powerful tool for couples if they just use it ya know.

Hey, I like rigid women. Why?

Because my tool is rigid!



And rigid women love Rigid tools!





Plumber humor!

Wouldn't necrophilia have something to do with that?!

Rape is an act of control and supremacism over another, correct. But there is a reason and there are outside influences that make a person become such controlling. He wants to control something that he couldn't even think of controlling before, so it comes out of him after a while.
If you ask me, you gotta watch the first 15-20 years of a kid and see what kind of an environment he or she grows up in, because it's usually the main suspect of developing violent supremacist behavior.

I like rigid women. I get a turgid member when I think of rigid women. A rigid woman looks good on a pedestal, with her alabaster-looking skin and porcellain-doll personality.

In my most important years of sexual formativeness psychological-wise, in the early sixties, the Swedish sex bombs were in favour by European movie makers. The Ingrid Bergmans and other sex bombs were told to not say a word, not move a muscle, not move a limb on the set. If you saw any of Ingmar Bergman's movies, there you have it, you know what I'm talking about.

So I grew up to like turging, unmovingly apocalyptic women, women who have no personality other than saying very quietly, "no, thank you".

I must admit I don't like swearing during love-making, but that's a personal preference, you can't read too much into that. I don't like when ladies swear, unless they use swear words to name the real thing -- I prefer them to call a f a f, and not "love making" when in fact the act promises to be not an act of love, but a good-old fashioned f. A f of the kind that horses and salamanders do with their mates.

I remember one lady friend, who was not so much a lady, in fact, she was a hooker, who liked and respected me tremendously due to my standing in the social millieu we met in, and who therefore gave me sex for a nominal fee -- five dollars a head. But she once told me over the phone when I called her about an urgent issue, "A., you want to come over for some bang-bang?" And that was it, I could not help but get into the car and drive to her place at 50 miles an hour above the speed limit.

She lived by that time in one of Toronto's poshest neighbourhoods, on Bayview Avenue, on Arjay, in which homes at that time cost one million dollars and up. She had just bought it. She lived there with scanty furninture, seventy cats, a lot of used condoms, and knee-deep in an interesting smelling mix of dried cat food and dried cat feces.

This lady was strikingly good looking. She lived on a health kick, did not use drugs, did not smoke, did not even drink, but she confessed of sometimes breaking down and ordering a pepperoni pizza. She had been involved in an automobile accident, in which she had suffered serious brain damage. She was a nice woman, always 29, for the entire 23 year span of our business relationship. I don't know how women manage to do that. She is not the only one who has in front of my eyes achieved exactly that.

But hey, I do things too, that women never would understand why on earth I do them.

Is "beware" an adjective?

I would have written "wary", but hey,
I am an ignorant ignoble immigrant.

Well, that's exactly what I meant. I'm talking about women, who even restricted me to say the f word. Not even in bed. Under no circumstances i was to say "I'm gonna f u" or what if we just "f"? and similar. I was not allowed, neither to wonder anywhere with my tongue beside her mouth.