ok what women dont want a good man in their life some choose the a hole over the good guy why is that it makes no sense to me im sweet and lovin and care about what u think but i could be the a hole so why does the good guy always loose

amen brotha! i cant figure it out either

most woman want a bad boy for just a little while,then we realize he's just a jerk and then we go looking to settle down with the good man.Hold on guys you'll find the one.Just have patience it will happen

"Good" is going to be subjective. What you consider to be good, someone else may not agree.

As for choosing the aholes, they don't always show they're aholes until later on.

Absolutely correct. I dated a bunch of aholes but they started out as a "good" guy. The man that hit me swore up and down he was a good man and would never do anything to hurt me; yeah right!!! So draw your own conclusions on that. This is what has put me off dating.

http://www.youtube.com/artist?a=GxdCwVVULXfZtQDlm_8ZjI_G5YdxSFL_&feature=watch_video_title

Here's my answer. Both!!
Two for the price of one.

I believe women want the same thing men want (maybe a little more).

We certainly want the good guy, but we also want the fun guy once in a while. Both terms are extremely subjective.

Some of us just want any guy...(or girl) some will just take what we can get...

If relationships were easy then there wouldnt be a million services and websites out there making millions off of our inability to find it on our own.

Imo..a lot of girls confuse an ahole with men who have a protective instinct..they assume that the ahole is going to protect and defend them,when actually an ahole goes on the attack.

These women may have male friends that tell her that the guy is an ahole.The woman rationalizes that their friend is telling her this due to jealousy when in actuality he is seeing the guy for what he really is

This situation can also be seen happening in the same way with women...I had a guy friend who was dating a woman..of course he didn't believe me when I told him she was psychotic..until he woke up with her over him with a knife

The moral of this story guys and gals..is to listen to ur friends when they bring up a concern about the person u are dating.They may see something you don't and can save you from a bad mistake in the long run

I just say f*** it and see where it goes! If it works, then so be it. If not, back to single life.

From experience the ones that call themselves the 'good ole guys' end up being the needy, clingy and creepy dudes. That ones that can't take "No" for an answer, the ones that call you 100 times a day wondering why you havent texted them back yet... just saying.

Yes, I have found that in my experience too and they have a tendency to turn violent.

exactly - I've met guys who totally have it mastered and will be perfect angels for weeks even months just to obtain sex

at this point I am reconsidering what I said last night about incompatible schedules because most of the dudes who behaved badly (in one way or another - cheated - showed up late a lot - only wanted nsa and lied about it) had schedules so different than mine that we couldn't really keep in touch or talk enough for me to figure out earlier that they were jerks

so after that conversation - I think I'm going to make the compatible schedule thing a priority - so I can get a better handle on what a guy is like earlier on

he's gotta be around when I am if it's gonna go anywhere...

I get what you're saying. My girlfriend tells me I'm a stalker. Well, she's not exactly my girlfriend, yet. ha ha ha

I tell women I am the nicest ahole they will ever meet.

yup!

Define a "good man".

I had one of "those" recently.

You know why we fought? Because he would not let the money I worked hard for go to taking him out to dinner. "I was raised that a woman's money is her own to spend how she wanted to. A man's money went to supporting her and the children and paying the bills and the mortgage."

Well, this woman wanted to use "her" money to buy him a nice dinner and go on a romantic date.

But was told no, because it was to be spent on something that made her happy. Conflicting, yes no?

I was raised that "my money" and "his money" are one and the same. It is a partnership, not a one way bank.

So yeah... Sometimes the "morals" a good man is raised by conflict BIG time with a woman's sense of self. We fought for equality and the "good men" bring us right back to the pre-feminism days.

Sure it is nice when you open a door for us, but sometimes, I like knowing I can open my own damn door. (unless my f**king carpal tunnel kicks in. Then you can have the damn door and open it all you want.)

Sure it is nice that you throw you jacket on the ground if there is a puddle. But what if it starts raining again? Where was your forethought on that one?

For me, I desire a man that is logical, kind and strong in sense of self.

My husband is that way. He supports all my decisions that I make regarding my OWN self, but only objects if he thinks I am being seriously stupid and could potentially affect our daughter. (Like, why did mommy go back to America when she was happy here?)

He is strong. He is not afraid to cry in front of me (which he did when his father died and when he was forced to flee the country and leave me and our daughter behind here.)

He is logical. When I pop up with a very stupid idea, he reminds me that it is really stupid and not at all logical. As in, even though we are still married, because Israel kept grilling me about my frequent trips there, we signed custody papers so they would stop pulling me aside and targeting me as a suspicious character. (I think it was the cowboy hat I wore that threw them off.)

He is kind. He helps me out whenever he can, even when he is too ill to work. He helps me figure out what I want in life, be it school or work. He is happy for me when I am happy and doesn't care if I work for McDonald's or for Microsoft. He doesn't leave me because I gained weight and he has my back when my family mocks and ridicules me.

And yes, "my money" and "his money" are one and the same. Even though the majority of "his money" supports us cause I still don't make enough. But we share everything. Because we are partners. Even if he thinks I am being retarded being happy working for McD.

Why do women pick a**holes? Thats actually kinda easy. When you think about what makes someone an A-hole. Or how should I put it?... The qualities associated with being an *******.
The main one is confidence. Confidence is sexy to alot of people.

A lot of times people are called an A-hole for speaking their mind too. Being decisive and not afraid to say what is on their mind.

Stubbornness is also known as tenacity when looked at through different lenses.

Sense of humor Ive noticed a lot of times an A-hole being funny in being an A-hole. Sense of humor is also sexy to a lot of people.

While being a nice guy and catering to your womans wants and needs is indeed noble. Following blindly like a lost puppy gets old. There is a reason the Alpha is leader of the pack.

great call on the confusing an ahole with one who is protective,,been there , done that,,lol

Want some cheese with that whine?

run on sentence.

I met a guy once who right off the bat said something like "I would never hurt you..."

It scared me because I was not even thinking on those lines. To say a thing like that indicates that he was thinking about hurting me and decided he would not.

I was not even thinking such a thing.

Its just like telling your child not to go out in the street. That's what gave them the idea to go in the street.