Is there really a decent guy out there that's respectfull, caring, and sweet?

Yes, there are guys like that out there.

difficult to find such a guy.

yes, i m

no, there isn't... might as well pick one of the uncaring, not sweet and disrespectful losers...

I too, and much more, just finding a lady close to my age
has been my dilemma.

Maybe but my shining armor is rusty and dented from all the fighting! Prince Charming stayed at home while the rest of us are out fighting his war!

<------------Yeh, this guy

http://mingle2.com/user/view/2988744

Well, you asked.

Yes, but we have major issues.

Well, we do....!

That's funny and yes would b nice bean lol and maybe I just havent found the right one because all the one I have dated are like what I mentioned.

There are many.
You just need to lose the blinders.
They come in many packages, all
wrapped differently.
You must use your x-ray vision to
see through the wrappings..

Yep and often its the ones you least expect..
I have found that on here there are so many great blokes, fellas that look tough and even may sound hard at first but the more you read through their posts the more you will find that they are just a big bunch of fantasic men just waiting to share thier love, they are caring and have had enough hurt not to want any more rubbish they have so much to give just no one to give it to YET.. Gosh I luv all of them.
If you stay in the communities and chat you will see who they are.

Dont look for Mr Perfect he's not here, although Krupa might tell you he is. . But look at thier hearts and you will find someone perfect for you.

You're not that old. How about close to your city?

I'm starting to see a pattern developing here. Most chicks ask this question. "Is there a nice guy out there? One that doesn't want just sex? Or one that won't cheat on me when he sees my best girl friend who is so hot all men would nail her? Or will be respectful?"

Ever ask yourself why you ASK this question? I mean, aside from the fact that, yes, most dudes just want to tap azz, could it be that you are somehow.....oh I dunno....wanting to date these dudes? And why do you date them? Cause they (meaning the "bad boys") have the balls to hit you up. To sweet talk you. And yes, in the end, they end up breaking your heart. And all along, that nice guy you didn't want? He's busy wondering, "What the hell do I have to do to get the girl"?

It's a vicious cycle. One that has been played out for years and years. And guess what? It won't change because men and women will do what they do. Agree or not, this is the "ugly truth" of it all. Yeah, one day that bad boy will wake up and realize he wants to settle down. But when he does, he will get his azz handed to him by a chick who....and get this....gives him a taste of his own medicine. And, the girl who has been hurt over and over again? She either (finally( notices the good guy, marries him, has twenty kids, and lives a good life. Or she becomes the next Lindsay Lohan. Eh, but hey. These are my own thoughts. Take them as you will. Goof out.

If you met a guy like that then you would probably just assume he is gay...lol

If you are ready for the next step in this learning process, here goes, start asking yourself why you chose them and why you stay if you do after their first demonstration of as sholishness. Then fix what it is in yourself so you will not have low self esteem or whatever the issue is that makes you willing enough to put up with a jerk the next time.

Or that has been what has worked for me so far.

It should be step one in not dating jerks but it seems we all learn it at step ten or something like that. We have to go through blaming all outside forces first for some stupid reason.

Hope it helps.

Well it usually Ames a while for someones true colors to to who as well as my own, and I don't really look for guys like that they just seem to come my way. That's why in one way it's good being single but in another it isn't so much fun

just watch what you ask for and be careful who you let into your life! My last ex was sweet and caring most of the time, but his drug/alcohol problem made him far less than respectful enough of the time to kill the relationship. Currently, I am focused on getting me where I need to be before finding someone else. I will, however, make certain he doesn't have the kinda issues that I can't deal with well before anything gets serious! Relationships are harder to get out of than into. Good luck!