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Topic: is it cheating when you are dating both sex at the same time
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Sun 04/17/11 06:25 AM
so im bi right and i am dating a guy we r not a couple yet but i also want to date a women to and if i establish a relationship with both am i cheating

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Sun 04/17/11 06:52 AM
This is just a simple observation....

Uhhhh.....No1....just your name says straight up that you are willing to be sneaky.

I have been the "Other guy" without knowing about it and it sucked!

Rarely...everyone is cool with it....but when everyone doesn't have the same information......it is cheating and that rates at the same level as dog schitt with me.

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Sun 04/17/11 06:55 AM
Edited by esebulldog on Sun 04/17/11 06:58 AM
if you really want relationships with two people (ala charlie sheen) then you need to be open and honest with everyone involved. eventually you will find the people who are willing to tolerate that

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Sun 04/17/11 07:01 AM

if you really want relationships with two people (ala charlie sheen) then you need to be open and honest with everyone involved. eventually you will find the people who are willing to tolerate that


^^^this...being bi is one thing, but maintaining 2 relationships is gonna be a beeeotch IMO!

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Sun 04/17/11 07:04 AM
Yupe whoa

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Sun 04/17/11 07:23 AM
Most people appreciate honesty ,it's good to be , how badly do you want clear conscience, in general , it is cheating in my opinion,

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Sun 04/17/11 08:32 AM

so im bi right and i am dating a guy we r not a couple yet but i also want to date a women to and if i establish a relationship with both am i cheating


whoa indifferent

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Sun 04/17/11 08:34 AM
to me, being bi doesn't have anything to do with it. any time you share intimacy with someone other than the person who thinks they're the only one you share intimacy with.... cheating.

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Sun 04/17/11 09:31 AM
I know with bi people, it's just a matter of wanting two partners of both sexes. You can't help that, or re-wire your genetic code to stop it. You were born like it. Have you tried talking to other bi peeps about this?

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Sun 04/17/11 09:41 AM

to me, being bi doesn't have anything to do with it. any time you share intimacy with someone other than the person who thinks they're the only one you share intimacy with.... cheating.


betraying trust is cheating, if you have to ask its probably cheating because it implies you think the other person MAY consider your relationship monogamous

true 'dating' kind of implies there is no commitment, so I wouldnt feel betrayed or cheated on if someone were merely 'dating' me and had not made any indication that they 'love me' or that they were expecting ME to be 'theirs',,,it all depends upon whether some commitment has been agreed to or implied,,

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Sun 04/17/11 10:10 AM


true 'dating' kind of implies there is no commitment, so I wouldnt feel betrayed or cheated on if someone were merely 'dating' me and had not made any indication that they 'love me' or that they were expecting ME to be 'theirs',,,it all depends upon whether some commitment has been agreed to or implied,,


drinker :thumbsup:

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Sun 04/17/11 11:44 AM
as my mom once said to me and it has stuck with me all these years:

"If you have to ask, then you already know it's wrong!"

It is definitely cheating.

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Sun 04/17/11 02:43 PM

so im bi right and i am dating a guy we r not a couple yet but i also want to date a women to and if i establish a relationship with both am i cheating


I think if you are casually dating then no its not cheating but if you are in a relationship with someone yes its cheating and it doesn't matter what sex you date.

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Sun 04/17/11 04:38 PM

so im bi right and i am dating a guy we r not a couple yet but i also want to date a women to and if i establish a relationship with both am i cheating

If all is in the open and both know you are casually dating then No.
If you hae to be sneaky about it, or lie then YES.
But in my opinion if you are in a relationship , they need to know all. not just what you care to share with them

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Sun 04/17/11 04:53 PM

so im bi right and i am dating a guy we r not a couple yet but i also want to date a women to and if i establish a relationship with both am i cheating


I don't think it is cheating, unless one is your father, and the other, your pet ghecko.

Even God would frown on that, if he existed.

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Sun 04/17/11 05:01 PM

so im bi right and i am dating a guy we r not a couple yet but i also want to date a women to and if i establish a relationship with both am i cheating


You'll have an unfair advantage over both of your lovers. And this time it's not cheating I want to talk of.

You see, you have a tiss with the bf, and you badmouth him to your gf. Then you make up with him, and she riles you. You gut her out with him being a sounding board. You make up with the gf and the boyfriend goes and buys a vegemite sandwich without asking you first. You and your girlfriend will have a field day, calling him names and "chauvinist".

You see, both of your lovers will expect loyalty from you, even if they won't expect fidelity; and loyalty is harder to provide. Each time you turn your coat, your lovers will be aghast, as they don't expect that from you.

I used to have a lover like that, but I did not mind, coz she was really excellent in bed. You know, you take the good with the dad.

You see having lovers of both and opposite sexes screams for your mind to spoil itself with an outlet to gain and keep a listening, and very compatible ear of a confidante. Your life will become easier, but at the expense of two other people becoming miserable.

Which is great as long as you are good and exciting. But please don't ask me to calm your guilt. You have to do that on your own. Or maybe with the help of your parish priest.

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Sun 04/17/11 05:05 PM

so im bi right and i am dating a guy we r not a couple yet but i also want to date a women to and if i establish a relationship with both am i cheating



Depends on what you mean by "dating."

(He could be screwing some guy...or other girls... that is, if you are "not a couple.")

You should look into polyamory if you want to have several intimate relationships.

Be honest. Don't delude the guy into thinking that he is your only one and then betray that. DUH!

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Sun 04/17/11 05:27 PM
If you are in a relationship with more than one person, then yes it is cheating....UNLESS all three of you are swingers, then you may all be cool with it. Even then swinger couples usually have a set of guidelines which they establish early on to avoid problems in their relationship.

Personally, I think it's all just a bunch of selfish garbage....but that's why I don't do it. If you want to, then go ahead. Just be prepared for any consequences or backlash.

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Sun 04/17/11 05:30 PM
Edited by Jeanniebean on Sun 04/17/11 05:30 PM


Personally, I think it's all just a bunch of selfish garbage....but that's why I don't do it. If you want to, then go ahead. Just be prepared for any consequences or backlash.



drinker Yep. Cheating and lying go hand in hand. Lots of backlash.

Try honesty and see how that works.



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Sun 04/17/11 05:30 PM
Edited by josie68 on Sun 04/17/11 05:30 PM
Honestly, I wouldnt care if it was another women or man that my man was seeing, if he was seeing anyone it would be cheating, for gosh sakes, if he had a doll I would think he was cheating...
Yep i am a very jealous person.

For me anything that wasnt me is cheating..:angry:

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