I have never experienced somebody cheating on me before, so to see the signs is rather new to me. But lately I have been seeing some different behavior from my boyfriend.

the two of us have been together for about 9 months now. Things have been great, we see each other regularly, text each other all the time, and always try to communication open. One routine we had is he would always come over to use my tub after his night shifts.

Lately he has not been coming over. He will make plans then cancel them. Like today, he did not come over after work (another thing that makes me go hmmmm)but texts me after his shift at 6am saying that he can barely keep his eyes open, and that he was just going to go home and crash. That he will text me in a few hours and we will get together by me coming over to his place. I let it go thinking that is was strange as it never mattered in the pass how tired he was he still came over. But i still let it go, as I know he never sleeps more then like 5 hours. So I wait for his text around noon. Nothing. 2pm rolls around. Nothing. 5pm, and still I ma hearing nothing from him even after me texting him. 8pm comes along and I finally hear from him. He tells me that he is just getting up, and that he was still half asleep laying in bed. I asked him if he wanted a cuddle buddy as I was really wanting to see him as it is not going on three days since we have seen each other and we live only 5 minutes away. So I ask him, and he usually jumps all over it no matter how tired he was, but nope not tonight. Tonight when I asked him he response with, that sounds really nice, but why do we not get together in the morning as he was still tired. AFTER SLEEPING ALL DAY! So now I am here pissed off after waiting around for him all day just for him to again say that he did not want to see me. AND has not texted me since.

So what do you guys think? Should I be worried? Or am I being silly?

Sounds like he may be losing interest.

I can't give any advice. I'm not so good in these kind of situations, I usually just end the relationsip when it gets to a point like this.

I should also add that he is starting to buy me more gifts then usual. Friday alone, he had boughten me a chrystal vase, we got our pictures done (first picture I actually have of him and I) took me out for supper, bought me chocolate and then finished by taking me out to the bar.

Hhmm, sounds like something might be going on.

That is what I am thinking. Which is why I think I am going over there in the morning and "surprising" him with breakfast.

yes !!! yes !! yes !! honey SURPRISE HIM

OMG please don't surprise him. you might get surprised yourself. if things are not normal, try talking to him first. if he continues to be illusive or vague about things, then confront him. take your time girl, and prepare yourself, just in case your relationship has changed

I am not saying it is the right thing to do but I have known people who used the trackers in the cell phone, you can subscribe to any number and see where the phone is at. Then you can see if it is someplace he is not suppose to be at maybe...

Lol, this is probably him you're talking about, with a no picture account.

maybe.. a pacific islander living in Wisconsin?... that's something you don't hear everyday...

God forbid to have a Pacific Islander in Wisconsin.

And then you looked. It was a joke. way to go.

That is the whole point. If he really loves me and misses me as much as he claims, then me popping over should not be a problem. IF by chance somebody else is there, then yes it may hurt a LOT for a period, but at least I will know.

Yep you will know and there will be a scene and it would be horrid.
maybe you shouldjust let him know how you feel, If he cannot talk toyou about it and understand, then let him go.
Honesty is always always best. If you dont have honesty and trust now you never will, by you being sneaky its just as bad as him..
Sorry.

Thank you! As much as I appreciate them men jumping in with the advice, it is nice to have it from another female.

But really how am I sneaking? I am only doing something that he has never had a problem with me doing in the pass. Sure is something is not right there is going to be a scene, but in the end if he is being dishonest, is it not best that I know 100%? anybody can lie. and if he is cheating on me, it is not like he is going to come right out and tell me.

But what happens if you get there and nothing is going on and he is just really tired, wont you feel horrid and dishonest. wont you wish that you had trusted him.

Hmm but then I have had 2 husbands that played up on me and one long term partner of 5 years and i never ever noticed and just blindly trusted.. Sooooooooooo, I have no idea what is best.
But truthfully my husbands and I couldnt talk and comunicate openly , if i had a problem I would keep it to myself, if they had a problem they would let the whole world know. So I guess it depends on your comunication.
For me now i have a man I can talk about anything with, if I was worried i would talk to him. Hmmm but then again , I would trust him so he could play up on me and I would blindly believe everything he told me..
Bummer I have no idea what you should do.

If i go there and it is nothing, then it would be like a regular visit that I have done many times in the pass. As much as i love him, to be able to talk about a problem like this that kind of communication is just not there. and that is mainly because of me, I have never been comfortable with openly admitting how I feel. I am usually a VERY trusting person, but this feeling is just something I just cannot shake. I just do not know either LOL.

It would be so easy if everyone just told the truth. then we would never ever doubt.

When you look for trouble.........you usually find it...just saying.

man, i never would have known you were joking... way to go to you to...

Um, call cheaters, I love that show, its soooo cool when they get exposed in public....