Humm ese now see I would say go surprise him if he has a surprise for me I would rather get straight to the problem and deal with it there and then.... Not have him hiding the fact he is roaming around.

Been there done that and took the video with me as well....

Well I never did get a chance to surprise him. He ended up texting me, making plans to meet an hour later. We ended up spending the whole day together. I am just getting home infact.

I do admit, I looked at his cell phone,texts were all from men. I think I am just going to keep an eye and ear open, and see if I notice anything, more, then when I get the chance to be able to surprise him again I will.

I don't know, it's weird, when he starts to act all strange, like I mentioned in the opening post, I get all worried. Then all he does is spend time with me like we did today, and I just push all the worry to the back of my head, and enjoy the time.

I know I am messed up LOL.

Whispers....


How do you know he always acts like this 9 months into a relationship?

How do you know how he acts 2 years into a relationship?

What I read from your description is a man who is settling in...getting comfortable...relaxed and trusting of his relationship, and you.

We always show our very best behaviour...our bestest side, when we are interested in someone, but like water...relationships always find their own level.

Is it possible he feels safe enough with you to skip a day or two...to sleep through a whole day?...to actually say, not right now, honey, I need some 'me' time?


You are reactive to changes in the relationship.....and thinking the worst...

you know the death of most relationships? taking each other for granted..."he always acts like this...She always does that"....and then getting bored.

he doesn't sound bored...he sounded physically exhausted from night shift....he sounds like he appreciates the woman you are, and showed you that by buying you lovely gifts and more of them...

wow...a man who adores you buys you more gifts...'than normal'...nd he's fooling around?


Ask him....simple...

Well my suspicions are over, and sadly indeed correct.

Now you know, go have a good cry, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and try again.

F**k crying. Life is FAR too short to sit around crying over the lost of a bloody idiot. I am not the one that lost. It was him. HE is the one that broke my trust, HE is the one that betrayed me, HE is the one that lied, and HE is the one that can rot in hell! LOL.

There ya go whisper.

Ah. Even better then. Woot!

Party at Whisper's place! I have already started!

I'm sorry. I'm glad you found out the truth.

F-HIM, he is an F-ING Loser!!!! They never learn honey! KARMA IS A *****.

Very true, Simone.

It pisses me off, that men don't even have the nerve to just tell a woman, when they are done, they just disappear, or wait around for you to catch them doing something. Is it really a killer to say, Im not interested anymore or i have found someone else.

I know! Men for the most part try to play all big and macho, but yet when it comes to relationships, they are cowards.

Yes very cowardice. Over all these years, Im not sure I have ever been dumped....I've been abandoned though -----left wtf just happened....

A guy did that to me when I was 24, slept with me, said he'd call and it's been 14 years and he hasn't called yet. I guess that means it's over between us?

Whisp, I am so sorry you had to go through this. You deserve SO much better....it's hard to find someone decent anymore, I know how that goes.

Just be yourself and do what you've always done. The guy is a moron and you're better off without him. You never know, maybe the next one will be different....

Yep there are so many good men out there.
Knowing that doesnt stop the hurt, but it does heel.
Just harrass the blokes on here for a while, It makes life interesting.