Do you ever look at your children and finally see that they are not babies any more.
It seems that with each of my children, one day they get to a point where i finally look and think, Where has my baby gone.
My children have been waiting for their granmother to arrive for weeks, she was just passing through on a cruise for a day and wanted to see them. It has been 2 years since some of them saw her.
Anyway she arrived in port this morning and my son rang her to organise for her to come to our home and she wouldn't.
Her son , the munchkins Dad had been a very violent man and we had left. So she blamed me and wouldnt come near our home as i was there.
So My Aunty said she would take the children into town to see her, but my son refused.
He said it would be disresptectful to me if they went in when we had never done anything wrong.He tried talking to his grandmother again and just stated that she needed to just let it go, She told him that she was sorry she wouldnt see them. So He refused to go and told his brothers ans sisters they couldnt go either, they had all taken the day off school waiting for her and where pretty upset. She lives 4000 ks away she still would rather not see them then come near me.
I found this really painful as all of the children really love her, but at the same time i was very proud of them for choosing not to go and stand their ground.
But its so sad to see that they are growing up .
But so good to see that they are turning into young men and women who can think and deal with things in a good way..

No wonder i love the little ferals.

yeah...really hit me when my youngest turned 25...have 6 grandkids and it didn't hit me til her birthday....and then again when my boyfriend asked the ages of my kids....he responded with.."Oh....so your kids are middle aged!!!!!!

my youngest baby just turned 24

my oldest baby is 28 with 3 and another one on the way
but yet i dont feel like a grndma

Oh my gosh, middle aged children, I am not ready for that quiet yet,
My eldest is pregnant at the moment, thats enough for now

children do grow up, I am always proud when my son makes grown up decisions on his own

Yea I was forced to wait a long time to have my one and only son, he's turning 6 in May and I'm 39 so it's interesting to see the changes and to know most of my former classmates from high school mostly have teenagers and older, my kid is younger than some of their grand kids, wow...but yea I tell my boy all the time I want him to slow down and that he is growing too fast, wow 6 already! Seems like only yesterday he was born!

Guy

It is sad that your ex mother in-law chooses that route she is missing so much.. Funny my ex mother in-law is like the mother I never had she lives 10 blocks from me and we are very close. I have been divorced for 20 years and would never think of her not wanting to see my kids.

Even my son's ex wife and I are still close she calls me when she needs to talk or advice since her mom lives in NC and her and her dad don't always see eye to eye. Wow I would jump mountains to see my grand kids there is no price I would not do to see my granddaughter. It is sad that one would stay away from their grand kids just cause they can't let the past be in the past and learn to forgive for the sake of the grand kids....

My kids are grown my son is 28 with his child on the way and my daughter is 26 with her first child on the way..... I would cut off my right arm to see my grand kids.

As far as them being my babies no matter how old they get they will always be my babies..........

broken families are always sad(to me) but I do think it is sometimes an act of love to stay away if coming together causes drama and arguing

i dont know the story here, Im just saying that sometimes the choice isnt as simple as 'loving' them enough,,,

No there have never ever been arguements, its just that her boy got mixed up badly with drugs and alcohol, which made him very violent, I think its just whatever she has been told that has made it dificult, and its always easier to not see anything wrong with your own child. I like to think mine are perfect. ( which of course they are)

The sad part is that my son thinks that because I always protected them, that now he has to do it for me , even against his grandmother as she is a hard women, where I tend to just let them walk over me. As long as everything is happy and friendly I dont mind.

Some of the kids where taken once before and it was difficult to get them back, which is why he wouldnt let the others go without he was there. he is only 16 but thinks he needs to protect all of us.