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dont you sometimes wish these sites would offer an 'other' option in certain categories?
sometimes you can only choose married, single , divorced, or seperated, or widowed and you can only choose wants children or doesnt want children I have a situation where on paper I am married, but in real life I have not been in that (or any other) relationship since mid 2009 I am never sure which to pick because I certainly dont live the life of someone in a marriage, I am very much a single mother, but I wouldnt want to get involved in a relationship and have that marital status be a deal breaker anymore than I would want to attract the types interested in affairs with 'married' women. I also have children of my own and dont want anymore(of my own) but I would welcome a blended family with someone else. So Im never sure how to intepret the category 'wants more children' are there categories you have trouble narrowing down to YOUR situation? |
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I totally agree with you MsHarmony. I have my own child but don;t want anymore birth children. But I have already raised step children, and wouldn't mind blending families. BUT categories are usually so cut and dry, SO maybe that soemthign we just have to add into our profiles.
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dont you sometimes wish these sites would offer an 'other' option in certain categories? sometimes you can only choose married, single , divorced, or seperated, or widowed and you can only choose wants children or doesnt want children I have a situation where on paper I am married, but in real life I have not been in that (or any other) relationship since mid 2009 I am never sure which to pick because I certainly dont live the life of someone in a marriage, I am very much a single mother, but I wouldnt want to get involved in a relationship and have that marital status be a deal breaker anymore than I would want to attract the types interested in affairs with 'married' women. I also have children of my own and dont want anymore(of my own) but I would welcome a blended family with someone else. So Im never sure how to intepret the category 'wants more children' are there categories you have trouble narrowing down to YOUR situation? I totally agree. I think there should be an 'other' option with a space to type in a brief answer. Till then, like Troublebug said we have our profiles to clarify things. Problem is that some good matches might not proceed to your profile if something turns them off like not wanting children. |
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I would be happier with no options....just who I am.
Seems to work. But for me..I am way too happy to be married...I ain't greyed enough to have had kids....I ain't wrinkly and depressed cause of my job. They dont have a catagory for "Are You Happy"...ironacle. |
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My profile says looking for man for friendship, hey ladies the truth is I am looking for friends period!
Maybe Krupa is right, skip that part altogether, just have the part of the profile you write yourself. I suppose that for a lot of people that would be to vague, really could I continue to get to know someone if I didn't know how tall or heavy he/she is?? msharmony you have brought up a very good point! |
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Yep it was the same for me, I have children, and cannot have more, so if I had seen someone profile who said they didnt want children, then I would not have thought they would want mine, and if they said they wanted children, then that put them out as i couldnt have any and wouldnt consider asking someone not to have them if they wanted them, and if they said that they wherent sure I still wouldnt have gotten involved as I had no idea if they might want them later..
So someone who already had children but was happy to take on more would be ideal but you ust have no idea who that is.  And I couldnt have more but would have loved to add more to my family so anyone with children would have been excellent. |
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I wish we could both chose male and female for the 'Looking for ____ for friendship'
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I wish we could both chose male and female for the 'Looking for ____ for friendship' I believe the missing word is "LOVE" I hope it finds you too Rose.... |
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dont you sometimes wish these sites would offer an 'other' option in certain categories? sometimes you can only choose married, single , divorced, or seperated, or widowed and you can only choose wants children or doesnt want children I have a situation where on paper I am married, but in real life I have not been in that (or any other) relationship since mid 2009 I am never sure which to pick because I certainly dont live the life of someone in a marriage, I am very much a single mother, but I wouldnt want to get involved in a relationship and have that marital status be a deal breaker anymore than I would want to attract the types interested in affairs with 'married' women. I also have children of my own and dont want anymore(of my own) but I would welcome a blended family with someone else. So Im never sure how to intepret the category 'wants more children' are there categories you have trouble narrowing down to YOUR situation? why don't you just say you are separated? unless I read you wrong that's what it sounds like as much as I sympathsize, I feel it's wrong for anyone to select single or divorced unless they are truthfully unattached, legally as far as the children thing- that's a tough one - I can't have children but- if they are well mannered- and parented by their parents - I have no problem with kids. I don't want to put that I'm OK w/ kids because I'm afraid it will give the impression that I'm open to pregnancy, but I don't want to say no to kids because that's not necessarily the case |
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I wish we could both chose male and female for the 'Looking for ____ for friendship' I believe the missing word is "LOVE" I hope it finds you too Rose.... Thank you, kind sir.  I sure hope what I have now will be my real "LOVE" for long. Wishing you the same...
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My profile says looking for man for friendship, hey ladies the truth is I am looking for friends period! Maybe Krupa is right, skip that part altogether, just have the part of the profile you write yourself. I suppose that for a lot of people that would be to vague, really could I continue to get to know someone if I didn't know how tall or heavy he/she is?? msharmony you have brought up a very good point! I think they might use those fields to do matching - like if you selected an interest in brown haired men who don't smoke, that could be sorted by fields |
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The marriage part could be fixed with a simple "Separated" which I think would covered married not living together.
The Children part though I had thought about it before but I figured I was just over analyzing things. I will have to clarify in the profile the "want kids" part as "want more kids not already born" maybe...lol. |
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