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well, then, it's a decision you've already made with your own logic. you just have to follow through with what you already know.
the pain of doing it.... has not exceeded the pain of.... not doing it yet, and this is why you haven't made your decision final. funny how it takes years sometimes to make a decision, but two minutes to actually follow through and do it. |
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Good comment.
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thankya
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I've been dating someone for two years. He's told me he doesn't want to get married and he doesn't want to live together right now. I feel like I'm wasting my time with this guy. How long should I wait to have the kind of relationship I want? It's frustrating and I don't know what to do. Sounds like he is still playing the field to me. agreed I agree with you and Artlo completely - he wants to keep his options open so he won't commit because he does not want to be a "cheater" and OP you already know the answer - he's not into enough to commit, and you want something else - time to find it...or accept that this is all you are going to have with this guy, and he is likely to keep you on a string as a back up till he finds what he wants |
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I've been dating someone for two years. He's told me he doesn't want to get married and he doesn't want to live together right now. I feel like I'm wasting my time with this guy. How long should I wait to have the kind of relationship I want? It's frustrating and I don't know what to do. Sounds like he is still playing the field to me. I'd have to agree, it sounds like he has something more important than you to consider. He is your number 1, he should feel the same way. If you aren't number 1, don't talk about it, don't take abuse, just end it now. |
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Edited by
sweetestgirl11
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Fri 03/04/11 04:36 PM
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well actually I did that for awhile and I don't regret it
I stayed with a man for quite awhile knowing that I loved him more than he did me I thought a lot about ending it - but for a long time I decided that I'd rather be with him on his terms than not be with him. we aren't together now, but I don't regret a minute of it, and he & I will always be friends sometimes I actually even think about him |
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At least he's told you what he doesn't want. My last relationship took me 6 years to figure that one out. If you love him enough, maybe you don't need the marriage. If that is something you want though you'll need to move on to someone who does want marriage. What she said :-) Yup, she said it good. |
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yep sadly if he isnt commited by now, you dont have a great chance,
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There are many factors that could influence his decision. First, look at what's going on in his life right now. Is he busy with work, is he short money? Talk to him about it. After 2 years, you should know that communication is key. Let him know how you feel and make sure you understand how he feels. Either come up with a compromise or realize that you are two different people wanting two different things and should move on. It could save you from a bad break-up and in the least, you should remain friends.
Best of luck. :) |
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"there are worse things
than being alone but it often takes decades to realize this and most often when you do it's too late and there's nothing worse than too late" — Charles Bukowski |
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after 2 yrs im sorry. this sounds more like a friend with benifit..
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There are many factors that could influence his decision. First, look at what's going on in his life right now. Is he busy with work, is he short money? Talk to him about it. After 2 years, you should know that communication is key. Let him know how you feel and make sure you understand how he feels. Either come up with a compromise or realize that you are two different people wanting two different things and should move on. It could save you from a bad break-up and in the least, you should remain friends. Best of luck. :) 
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He told you where the relationship is NOT going...what does he say about where the relationship IS going?
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He knows what I want. He says he wants that too someday, but he is not ready for it right now.
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He knows what I want. He says he wants that too someday, but he is not ready for it right now. can u accept that? |
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For Pete's sake, it's been two years! Dump him and move on.
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Yeah I guess I question if he really means it or if he is just telling me what I want to hear to keep me on the hook.
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im curious here... have you ever felt you werent ready before? then suddenly you met someone and you were ready? .. i have felt that way and come to the realization here.. that i thought i wasnt ready cause that person just wasnt right for me..
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then suddenly you met someone and you were ready? The question that I would ask is, what is it about that someone that made you feel that you were ready? Was it something that you can put into words, or was just chemistry? |
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Yeah I guess I question if he really means it or if he is just telling me what I want to hear to keep me on the hook. yup |
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