well, then, it's a decision you've already made with your own logic. you just have to follow through with what you already know.

the pain of doing it.... has not exceeded the pain of.... not doing it yet, and this is why you haven't made your decision final.

funny how it takes years sometimes to make a decision, but two minutes to actually follow through and do it.

Good comment.

thankya

agreed

I agree with you and Artlo completely - he wants to keep his options open so he won't commit because he does not want to be a "cheater"

and OP you already know the answer - he's not into enough to commit, and you want something else - time to find it...or accept that this is all you are going to have with this guy, and he is likely to keep you on a string as a back up till he finds what he wants

I'd have to agree, it sounds like he has something more important than you to consider. He is your number 1, he should feel the same way. If you aren't number 1, don't talk about it, don't take abuse, just end it now.

well actually I did that for awhile and I don't regret it

I stayed with a man for quite awhile knowing that I loved him more than he did me

I thought a lot about ending it - but for a long time I decided that I'd rather be with him on his terms than not be with him.

we aren't together now, but I don't regret a minute of it, and he & I will always be friends

sometimes I actually even think about him

Yup, she said it good.

yep sadly if he isnt commited by now, you dont have a great chance,

There are many factors that could influence his decision. First, look at what's going on in his life right now. Is he busy with work, is he short money? Talk to him about it. After 2 years, you should know that communication is key. Let him know how you feel and make sure you understand how he feels. Either come up with a compromise or realize that you are two different people wanting two different things and should move on. It could save you from a bad break-up and in the least, you should remain friends.

Best of luck. :)

"there are worse things
than being alone
but it often takes
decades to realize this
and most often when you do
it's too late
and there's nothing worse
than too late"
— Charles Bukowski

after 2 yrs im sorry. this sounds more like a friend with benifit..

awesome post

He told you where the relationship is NOT going...what does he say about where the relationship IS going?

He knows what I want. He says he wants that too someday, but he is not ready for it right now.

can u accept that?

For Pete's sake, it's been two years! Dump him and move on.

Yeah I guess I question if he really means it or if he is just telling me what I want to hear to keep me on the hook.

im curious here... have you ever felt you werent ready before? then suddenly you met someone and you were ready? .. i have felt that way and come to the realization here.. that i thought i wasnt ready cause that person just wasnt right for me..

The question that I would ask is, what is it about that someone that made you feel that you were ready? Was it something that you can put into words, or was just chemistry?

yup