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Topic: Is he just not that into me?
buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Fri 03/04/11 07:24 PM
then suddenly you met someone and you were ready? The question that I would ask is, what is it about that someone that made you feel that you were ready? Was it something that you can put into words, or was just chemistry? for me.. this happens not after two yrs though.. it is if you are dating.. and to me dating does not mean sleeping together.. rather you are dating one or 4.. dating means getting to know someone.. now with this.. one or 4 who cares... facts are you can have the feeling of not being ready with one. then the next week go on a date with someone else and yes.." the chemistry happens" so only a week before was it really that you werent ready or was it they just werent right for you... see i have had this happen to me before. and i came to the realization yes the chemistry wasnt there..though i thought i just wasnt ready... from this i learned.. to not tell someone that!! to just move on.. never realized this till a much older age of humm 39? cause i never dated much...and i settled <not realizing at the time>

artlo Joined Sat 01/29/11 Posts: 3085	Fri 03/04/11 07:31 PM
so was chemistry enough of an answer to ensure a solid, lasting relationship? My sense is that, without chemistry, it is a waste of time (unless you're just good friends). At the same time, I don't think that chemistry alone is enough. But I will say is that chemistry is certainly enough to change everything.

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Fri 03/04/11 07:33 PM
so was chemistry enough of an answer to ensure a solid, lasting relationship? My sense is that, without chemistry, it is a waste of time (unless you're just good friends). At the same time, I don't think that chemistry alone is enough. But I will say is that chemistry is certainly enough to change everything. artlo.. i have the beleif that even being friends you have to have some kind of chemistry..

Lpdon Joined Thu 02/25/10 Posts: 18772	Fri 03/04/11 07:33 PM
Yeah I guess I question if he really means it or if he is just telling me what I want to hear to keep me on the hook. It depends, do you put out? He may not want to get rid of a sure thing.............

artlo Joined Sat 01/29/11 Posts: 3085	Fri 03/04/11 07:35 PM
i have the beleif that even being friends you have to have some kind of chemistry.. Fair enough.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Fri 03/04/11 09:21 PM
Yeah I guess I question if he really means it or if he is just telling me what I want to hear to keep me on the hook. It depends, do you put out? He may not want to get rid of a sure thing............. well we best take THAT away no man should have his cake & eat it too

Lili_M Joined Fri 02/11/11 Posts: 300	Sat 03/05/11 08:13 AM
Yeah I guess I question if he really means it or if he is just telling me what I want to hear to keep me on the hook. CLICHE WARNING* If you love something let it go...if it comes back it was meant to be...if not I AGREE WITH metalwings move on.

ballerina9 Joined Thu 02/24/11 Posts: 93	Sat 03/05/11 01:13 PM
I dont want to believe that he is still looking, but anything is possible I guess. I'm just at a loss...do I give him an option, or just split? dump his *** and find someone who'll give you what you need...plenty more fish in the sea

Deoré Joined Mon 05/25/09 Posts: 31	Sat 03/05/11 03:13 PM
I'm going to see him tonight and tell him I'm done with the.games.

ballerina9 Joined Thu 02/24/11 Posts: 93	Sat 03/05/11 04:16 PM
I'm going to see him tonight and tell him I'm done with the.games. good for you! dont let him mess you around

winterblue56 Joined Sun 12/12/10 Posts: 2465	Sat 03/05/11 08:55 PM
After two years, moving in together is very reasonable. I wonder what's got him so spooked about it. Hell, im usually ready to move in with someone after the first date.........