So I met a girl a couple days ago at some party, started talkin bout sumthin random cant even remember what it was for the life of me. Half an hour later we were passionately making out upstairs. That was great and alls well. So I started to advance a little bit. and my lips moved lower but she pulled me back up to her lips. So I started workin my arms more and she pushed them away. Made out for like and hour the whole time her just pushing me away from doing anything more then she just up and left. I didnt think much of it hey maybe im just a bad kisser, god knows. Well an hour later she comes upto me and says "why didnt we do it?" I said "ummm didnt ya notice me trying to but ya kept pushing me back." She said "yeah i know i like it when a man takes control." O.o I was dumbstruck. i understand being more in control of a situation but i asked her, "so you think i should just rape a girl ive just met on the off chance that she likes it? what the hell kind of sense does that make?" Im still confuddled. No damn communication, made me feel like a right plonker. Guess its just the way the world works......

U did the right thing

good choices - good for u

she was playing mind games

the girl is clearly a flake. you were a gentlemen. if i push a guy away it's because he's moving too fast for me.

Well myself i don't jump into bed on the first few dates i really got to know a person first lolll and this gal you with maybe shes just the type that has some kind of fantasy or maybe shes not all there too was she drinking heavy also sounds like she was confused or just using you for money? and head games? don't know ask her haha cheers but if i were you i get to know them for longer then few dates good luck

Thats just wierd, How are you supposed toknow what she wants...Hmmm maybe you need to talke a lesson in mind reading

Good thing you stopped and don't change your thinking if you had not most likely a normal girl would have kicked ya where it counts..... kuddos to you and the girl is nuts those kind of games should only be played with ones that know you and what you like................

she was indeed thanks

I thought I was moving too fast at first but then shed.... i dunno it was a very disconcerting experience

Tru im all for getting to know someone better but in that situation i was like you know what screw it. we both knew it wasnt gonna be more then a one night stand, and i decided (against my better judgement) the hell with it. Live a little ya know lol. Nah aint talkin to her again, think my beer goggles were in full focus that night too lol

I did end up taking mind reading lessons but then i walked into a mall and almost passed out. Had to get a brainwash done. Craziness, the things men do to understand women lol

Im nothing if im not tru to myself, I cant do that just not in me. I like for both parties to have a good time. Plus forcing yourself on someone is the lowest of the low I believe.

No wonder men get confused. I wonder if a bit of communication might help in a case like this or will it destroy the mood?

When she pushed you away, you should have asked, "well do you want to stop or continue, I'm getting mixed messages here."

Or better yet, if I was a guy I would ask a woman to sign an agreement to have consensual sex so she can't come back later and scream rape.

Better safe than careless.

Also wear protection. Who knows where she has been.

geeeeze.

Very tru, communication would have helped tons but when your a bit sozzled and exploring the back of someone elses throat its kinda hard lol. But u are absolutely right

most importantly _ and "warning"- in the situation as u described it, there is a chance that it was a set up - that th next day she be claiming u assaulted her - that right there is the best reason to NOT sleep with girls u don't know well - especially if they're young

and I'm not saying she would have - but can't say she might not have

and I don't think women usually do that - most assaults a underreported, but it has been known to happen