I notice some profiles that state the lady is divorced and her kids live with the X. That does not bod well for my thoughts on her being a stable person to establish long term relationship with.

Your thoughts?

George

she may mean that they are adults and moved out..

Humm not sure what site your talking about for this site does not give a option that the kids live with the X.

What it does give is the option saying they live away from home.

Which in my case both of my kids are grown and live on their own therefore they live away from home......

just because a women is divorced doesn't mean she is a unstabled person.There are alot of divored pple in the world today.Its just the way of the world today.Just as there are different reasons that the children live with the ex.my children did live with me tho.So if its not for u then just don't bother with them.That's my thoughts.

I think based on your apriori judgemental viewpoint, those women are better off without you.

Hmm\
You are in you're 60's! How old are the women you are looking at.
If they are even in your age group I would hope the children are grown.
If not have fun with the hotties Gramps.
And your children live away from home!
What have you got to say for yourself?

First, the in "about (me) section some of the members report that the kids are living with the X or live at home only sometimes. I have noted this response on a number of cases for matches to me of women from 50 to 60.

I raised my son as a single parent from the age of 8 when I was divorced so I kind of have a little insight as to why some divorced women are NOT raising their children. I also know of the hardship of raisng a child by yourself. My children are now grown and have good educations and families of their own - why would they not live away from me?

Perhaps I am carrying some of my past experience (baggage) into this question and I am sure it is not applicable to most other people. That is why I asked the question.

It has nothing to do with being divorced and I know there are various reasons for not having the kids living with Mom. I was just asking a question.

You guys and gals, won't need to respond to me as I will not be returning to the Community Section after this reception. Life is just a bit to short.............


And by the way, I am not a Gramp dear.

(((George))) Sorry

A lot of divorced people share custody.. that doesn't mean they are unstable..And when children reach a certain age, they may choose who they want to live with...And because they live away from their mother doesn't mean they live with their father..Probably grown and living on their own..

think based on your apriori judgemental viewpoint, those women are better off without you. :

I think you are carrying entirely too much of your personal baggage into the equation. One person does not represent many...besides, judges can be pricks sometimes handing out visitation rights.

In raised 3 boys alone, all by myself, and I'm the most unstable person I know..nothing is guaranteed!

So my ex is unstable!! I have proof now!!! Otherwise my daughter would live with her.

Not sure if there is room for my daughter's husband and her kids but that is beside the point

When I left my ex 12 years ago, my sons were 15 and 18 (he was legally an adult, but he was not self supporting): they both chose to stay with their father because I was moving to another state. They had lived in one spot their entire lives, had the same friends, and were well established.

It grieved me to leave them, but I respected their choice and knew it was not a judgment of me.

I was certainly not more unstable than was my ex; in fact, within two months, both of my sons came to live with me.

OP, your comments and expectations are sexist. When I see a divorced man whose children live with his ex-wife, should I assume that he is unstable and perhaps even an abusive man?

Get real. The times are not only a'changing, but have already changed.

i find it so refreshing to see a man stand up for what he believes in and post an unpopular opinion in a general forum, than get upset when others post opinions contrary to his beliefs. when the ball belongs to you and the game does not go your way, take your ball and go home. salud!

doesnt phase me, as a single parent myself, I know its not always gender which determines what will be the BEST environment for the child,,,,finances, family support, community, educational resources, and many other things factor in

my son stayed with his dad for several years, because his dad was better to teach him to be a man when my son started trying to challenge me


there is no shame, in my opinion, when parents arent together in one having custody,, its the way things work and it doesnt mean either is questionable because they dont happen to have the primary custody

u r so bad...

You act like it is a rarity.

must be why we all luv you