yes u do see the negatives & always have for as long as I have known u on here. my question is, if u r so certain, why do u bother asking us to show u the positives?

unless you open to them u will never experience them anyway, Krupa

I really like u so that is my "it's my turn to be a real friend" dose of truth - even if I'm just a cyber friend

marriage doesn't do those things krupa, people do. all those things happen, or not, whether you are married or not.

being in a committed relationship, unmarried, doesn't keep someone faithful or more enamorous, it is just makes it easier to walk away. it is the original intent of those involved, married or not, that makes it work. over years, people have led to the destruction of the relationship in general. becoming greedy and self-serving and often fearful of, in their mind, a lonely existance. too many people settle, marry as the 'thing to do' and look at it as the vehicle to forever love. there are destructive forces that come in to any relationship, some can be worked through, others not.

marriage is not for the weak of heart, and society has taken a once sacred oath and allowed us to speak, what seems now, mostly meaningless vows. it is the hearts intent that makes it work or not, one must truly know their self to know if it is something they can enter into with another. to find two like minded people these days seems to be a daunting task.

marriage can be a beautiful thing, a committment of that level can be powerful and in its purest intent, forever. it ONLY becomes negative when love does not prevail. its up to the the two to make that happen.

Everyone will have an opinion on this one....

Everyones opinion will be true (for themselves)

I am curious about individual perspectives here.

Personally, NEVER! I see nothing but negatives reguarding the strangle hold of marriage. It does not enforce loyalty. It kills sex drives. The majority of the time it leads to the legal headaches of divorce (often leaving kids with biased and limited information available on what actually happened). It leads to criminal taxation rates against the secondary income. It leaves you socially obligated to deal with in-laws on all major holidays hand half your weekends off (and all the drama those freaks bring with them).

Rarely, it will bring in a person who you really can grow to love but it aint often. (my ex bro-in-law is a great guy and I still treat him like a loved brother)

Someone wing some positives out here cause I need to understand why so many women are hung up on the concept that marriage is the end goal of even forming a relationship.

Cause honestly....unless I get pregnant...I ain't getting married.

marriage doesn't do those things krupa, people do. all those things happen, or not, whether you are married or not.

being in a committed relationship, unmarried, doesn't keep someone faithful or more enamorous, it is just makes it easier to walk away. it is the original intent of those involved, married or not, that makes it work. over years, people have led to the destruction of the relationship in general. becoming greedy and self-serving and often fearful of, in their mind, a lonely existance. too many people settle, marry as the 'thing to do' and look at it as the vehicle to forever love. there are destructive forces that come in to any relationship, some can be worked through, others not.

marriage is not for the weak of heart, and society has taken a once sacred oath and allowed us to speak, what seems now, mostly meaningless vows. it is the hearts intent that makes it work or not, one must truly know their self to know if it is something they can enter into with another. to find two like minded people these days seems to be a daunting task.

marriage can be a beautiful thing, a committment of that level can be powerful and in its purest intent, forever. it ONLY becomes negative when love does not prevail. its up to the the two to make that happen.

I know that, when I was in my 20's, and my friends were getting married, the main reason they decided to do it was because it was "The Next Step". I never understood why a reason like that would warrant two people to marry. And, as it stands, the majority of those who got married then are now divorced.

I believe people don't truly know what love is anymore. They think they do, but as the statsitcs show, they don't. Love isn't just about great sex. And a marriage can't be based on that either. Don't get me wrong. Sex is important, and if it waivers then it usually leads to adultery from one of the spouses. Love, however, is about something more. It's this feeling that cannot be explained. That sounds corny, but in all honesty, it is true. We all want that feeling, even if we say we don't, I believe all of us want to find that someone who will love us like we believe we should be loved. And love them back in that same very way.

True. You don't have to be married to be in love. To me, marriage is a symbol of the devotion, the committment...a public display of your affection to this one person that he or she is the one person you want to be with....until death do you part. Faith plays a part in why most people do get married. Some even look at the tax breaks of it. But for me, I would only marry for that one person who I could look at and honestly say to myself....she is the one and I want no other.

Anyway, enough mushy stuff. Bring on the sluts!

Marriage has a high failure rate, much like the lottery your chances of winning are slim yet people do it anyway.

Of course, the lottery has never thrown a big old blue desk phone at me, either. Lottery 1, marriage 0.

I was married and i dont regret it. I learned a lot from it.
I would do it again.
I think im just romantic.

Marriage has a high failure rate, much like the lottery your chances of winning are slim yet people do it anyway.

I was married and i dont regret it. I learned a lot from it.
I would do it again.
I think im just romantic.

I am romantical too! I love letting a woman get me drunk to have her way with me!