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At 47...
If he's never been married, it'a a red flag, if he's flirtin' with you and he's married, it's a red flag, if he's separated, that's a red flag, if he's been divorced X number of times, it's a red flag. Sorry folks, when you get to your 40's, everything CAN be a red flag. So if you ain't willing to take a chance - then just wave the white flag. |
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Hey, I'm 45 and NEVER been married either!
Why? I have yet to find a woman who I can live with more than 2 years. More often then not something else always pops up or happens or something. Besides, you don't need a piece of paper to have kids! And a piece of paper means nothing if someone doesn't honor their promises. I am not going to get stuck living a lie. If I do manage to find the one groovy. If not the game was fuqued up anyways. Not being married by the time you are 40 probably is the smartest thing a man can do for himself. people want to put us out to pasture so damn soon. Everyone wants the newest car and the biggest TV. If my age and not ever being married is a red flag oh well. Ask me if I care! 
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WHY is he 45 and not been married? LTR and living with a woman for 20 years. Being in the service, and not wanting to subject a wife to that. Being 'married' to his job, and not wanting to subject
a wife to that. Lots of traveling on the job. Should find out why, not just assume that he's a slacker or jail bird or something. Ron |
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Yes Lex, I know there can be many reasons but my red flag radar is usually pretty good, that's why I asked - to see if it would be a red flag to anyone else. The opposite happened to me, the last man I dated had been married 6!!!! times. I initially agreed to see him just to find out how one man could get 6 woman to marry him! We dated for 6 months before I moved 700 miles away, never did figure it out! My own inclination would be that multiple marriages are much more of a red flag than no marriages. Hey, I've been married once, and if I could go back in time and prevent it from ever happening, I would! I saw something on TV about "serial marriers" once, and it was a little disturbing. These are people who have been married 8 or 10 or 15 times. I got the impression they were addicted to the whole concept of marriage, and not so much interested in their spouses. Or maybe they were trying to break the world record! But if a guy is 47 and never married, that could mean he's just been so wrapped up in his career that he never had time for a relationship until now. Or maybe he just never found anyone he was really interested in or attracted to. (I'm a little biased because my situation is something like that.) Or he COULD be a serial killer who spent 28 years locked up and just got out! I just don't think you can make any blanket assessments without additional information. Very much agree here. Personally, i think it's grossly unfair to generalize that anyone over an arbitrary age that has never been married is a loser by definition. Personally, I'd be far far more alarmed at multiple divorces than I would at never having been married. Some put off being married because they've seen a few too many horror stories among their friends or families too. |
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Hey, I'm 45 and NEVER been married either! Why? I have yet to find a woman who I can live with more than 2 years. More often then not something else always pops up or happens or something. Besides, you don't need a piece of paper to have kids! And a piece of paper means nothing if someone doesn't honor their promises. I am not going to get stuck living a lie. If I do manage to find the one groovy. If not the game was fuqued up anyways. Not being married by the time you are 40 probably is the smartest thing a man can do for himself. people want to put us out to pasture so damn soon. Everyone wants the newest car and the biggest TV. If my age and not ever being married is a red flag oh well. Ask me if I care! Thank You!!!! |
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I'm still wondering at what age do people start considering never been married as a red flag.
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I'm still wondering at what age do people start considering never been married as a red flag. 32 |
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I'm still wondering at what age do people start considering never been married as a red flag. 32 lol |
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The female relatives close to the men I have known who aren't married after 35 or so say that the men are too particular. Ridiculously so. Meaning that chances are slim to none that they will ever find what they expect.
A man who expects too much from those around him is extremely hard to impossible to live with. |
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Wow you all! I never thought a simple question would generate all this response. Please let me reiterate...I am interested in '47 and never been married' but know him not a bit other than a few choice tidbits while chatting at my place of employment. I love all your responses and advise and well wishes! Thanks for those the most...5 years is a good while to be alone and a friend would be most welcome, I grow tired of always hearing '5' as the number to be seated...
Maybe I should have posed the question more broadly, what are red flags to you? I believe as many of you have said and as I said that when something is a red flag for you (and maybe you alone) you should pay attention to it. This does not mean you don't explore (unless the red flag is big and glowing and trying to save your life) it just means that something about the situation rings wrong for you. I know there are lots of reasons to be pushing 50 and never married, lots of them!!! Really I was just asking...so let's put it this way...what are red flags for you? Thanks again all for all this great and interesting feed back. I read every word! You all are the greatest and I can't believe I was gone for so long!  for all!
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I'm still wondering at what age do people start considering never been married as a red flag. I didn't marry until I was 33 and had a 10 yr. old son so I guess 47 is my magic number! |
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Yes Lex, I know there can be many reasons but my red flag radar is usually pretty good, that's why I asked - to see if it would be a red flag to anyone else. The opposite happened to me, the last man I dated had been married 6!!!! times. I initially agreed to see him just to find out how one man could get 6 woman to marry him! We dated for 6 months before I moved 700 miles away, never did figure it out! My own inclination would be that multiple marriages are much more of a red flag than no marriages. Hey, I've been married once, and if I could go back in time and prevent it from ever happening, I would! I saw something on TV about "serial marriers" once, and it was a little disturbing. These are people who have been married 8 or 10 or 15 times. I got the impression they were addicted to the whole concept of marriage, and not so much interested in their spouses. Or maybe they were trying to break the world record! But if a guy is 47 and never married, that could mean he's just been so wrapped up in his career that he never had time for a relationship until now. Or maybe he just never found anyone he was really interested in or attracted to. (I'm a little biased because my situation is something like that.) Or he COULD be a serial killer who spent 28 years locked up and just got out! I just don't think you can make any blanket assessments without additional information. Very much agree here. Personally, i think it's grossly unfair to generalize that anyone over an arbitrary age that has never been married is a loser by definition. Personally, I'd be far far more alarmed at multiple divorces than I would at never having been married. Some put off being married because they've seen a few too many horror stories among their friends or families too. I have to agree with this! If you take your time and get to know him, you will be able to make a confident decision to move on OR not! |
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So, which is worse? Multiple marriages or no marriages? Or does it even matter?
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When she is screaming out another dudes name in the throes of passion is a BIG red flag for me. I don't know who this "Ogod" guy is but he has been with EVERY woman I have had sex with! Its creepy.
But, in all fairness, I scream out my own name when I orgasm so I guess I shouldnt be so judgemental. |
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I bet he has cooties!
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When she is screaming out another dudes name in the throes of passion is a BIG red flag for me. I don't know who this "Ogod" guy is but he has been with EVERY woman I have had sex with! Its creepy. But, in all fairness, I scream out my own name when I orgasm so I guess I shouldnt be so judgemental. 
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When I see a red flag, I stay away from it til it heals back up.
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So, which is worse? Multiple marriages or no marriages? Or does it even matter? I'd say it depends on why there were multiple marriages. |
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I'm still wondering at what age do people start considering never been married as a red flag. 32 lol Why does it not surprise me no one gave a serious answer. heh. |
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Maybe I should have posed the question more broadly, what are red flags to you? The telling of the personal story is not substantiated by the actions... Someone who is NOT who they say they are...Huge red flag for me! Be who you say you are, or be prepared to be called on it. |
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