When a person first meets you, you will most likely fall into one of
three categories:


1) Your impression is average (this is probably most of you). People
will not form a strong impression of you. There is potential for you to
be forgotten and fade into the crowd of everyone else. However, you are
deemed suitable for continued interaction. Hopefully you can make up for
lost ground in the long-run.

2) You make a negative impression. The person who you have just met
decides to keep communication with you at a minimum. It will be very
difficult, if not impossible, to build a relationship with this person.

3) You make strong first impression. Wherever you go, people take
notice. You are admired and looked upon as a valuable contact. At this
point, people will work for your attention.


Do you think that first impression will cause the person to instantly
decide if you get a second chance? And do you base first impression's?
If so what are some of the things that others should do or say or not
say on the first meeting in order for a possible second meeting?

I am huge on first impressions. I find that I can summarize a person very quickly. If a person gives a bad first impression, there is no second chance in my world. I need to meet people who are positive, extroverts and intelligent. I ALWAYS give a good first impression, unless I decide I don't like the person, but that doesn't mean I'm noticed or admired. I like to stay below the radar. It's hard to say what a person should or shouldn't do, there are so many things. My big ones would have to be manners, intellect, humour, honesty and realism. If I do not see any one or combo of these traits, I usually separate myself. I'm extremely picky about who I keep around me, that's not to say that I think I'm better than anyone, but we all have that choice.

WOW eklectek what a great answer.
And I am positive that a first impression decides if you want to give them a second chance. I mean do you really want to talk to someone who was an obnoxious, rude, arrogant jerk the first time you met? If you want a second meeting with someoen you shoudl try and be friendly, interesting, polite, and engaging in both personality and conversation.

Well thank you!! There is nothing that I hate more then ignorance and negativity. I wish everyone saw it like that lol

Very good comments so far, I also agree that first impressions can usually be what you gauge the person on. Generally a person will act the way they normaly do on the first meet and if they have a potty mouth or look around at other opposite sex in the room when they are supposed to be looking at you thats a bad sign (unless you like that sort of thing).

I do hear you on this one about first impressions being a big factor. And for many years I felt the same way..........but as I have gotten older I have also found out that first impressions are not always what they seem to be....

Not saying that it happens all the time for most of the time I nail them pretty close. But due to realizing that even my first impression could be wrong. I have in fact started trying the second chance just to see if maybe I was wrong and give that person another chance....

Even I have found out from time to time I was wrong with my first impression.

"Do you think that first impression will cause the person to instantly
decide if you get a second chance? And do you base first impression's?
If so what are some of the things that others should do or say or not
say on the first meeting in order for a possible second meeting"

First impressions is not concrete factual information of whether or not a person is positive or negative. If we base first impressions as concrete or factual we are setting ourselves up and applying the judgment bias syndrome.

First impressions is a small of many ways we can gain information on whether there is chemistry, attraction, substance and or stability in a person. In order to receive concrete factual information about a person we must allow time, effort, and openness to lead the way, because our own perceptions can lead us into bias thinking.

First impressions are important to me, however not the bottom line.

Alina

First impressions are developed within the first 3 seconds of looking at a person. And the impressions stays in our minds permanently, however it can be refined as more knowledge is gained about the person over time.

If you can summarize a person in 3 seconds and are able to judge a person actions without knowing his/her motives within this time-frame you flaw, because it takes a good deal of character to judge a person by his future instead of his past and this is not part of your equation, therefore your tatics are flawed.

Alina

I can totally see how this opinion/thought is relevant. Good answer! Me...I'm a little more reliant on the first impression. I believe the first meeting, and the first kiss will tell you everything you need to know about the person/relationship.
EK

I can totally see how this opinion/thought is relevant. Good answer! Me...I'm a little more reliant on the first impression. I believe the first meeting, and the first kiss will tell you everything you need to know about the person/relationship.
EK

Yes in part some things are obvious, however there are so many variables, a person could be nervous, shy, timid, and so on... Tell me something can an employer know an applicant is a good worker by the interview (NO), not at all....same principle different action for this reason they have a probation period.

Alina

YES! An employer is able to size a potential employee up during the first interview. To me what we are disagreeing on is the variables. Nervous shy and timid are not traits of professional success. It is the extrovert that stands out. Introverts blend with the majority of people. My martial arts teacher taught me that ANYBODY can become an extrovert when they REALLY want something. I feel the employment example wasn't a good one.

I myself have been conducting interviews for years...I could tell a person if they could hack it in my regiment in 0.1 seconds. And FYI it is up to the employer to ask questions outside the realm of education and professional experience. HR can definitely be a tough job, but If I can do it on a federal/international level, than any employer/HR rep can do it. You just have to have the right people skills, and most important, you have to ask the right questions.

I find first impressions unreliable. A person of true worth hardly shows it to a stranger. Ever inspected a gem? Shiny never was good for much.

First impressions are just that, impressions, they are not absolutes.

Anybody can have an off day or be much more under the surface.

Yes agreed...

You are wise beyond your years young lady........

I think you're pretty groovy too.

First impressions are only unreliable to the people who are unable to read people.

if we're talking job interviews or dating, i find first impressions can be misleading because people tend to be nervous. i'm pretty intuitive when it comes to people, but, in fairness i have found that to really get to know someone takes time. i would have missed opportunities to have some of the great wacky friends i do had i let first impressions be the end all.