also called a pseudo-girl/boy friend a close friend of the opposite sex that you spend a lot of time with and talk to often much the same as you would with a girl/boyfriend, though they never will become your girl/boyfriend due to factors such as, but not limited to: age difference, the other person being in a relationship, the other person living too far away, fear of ruining the friendship etc. You will often to "date-like" things with them, such as: go to dinner and a movie, take them to a party to introduce them to your friends, or have them meet your parents. though you will never do other "date-like" things, such as: hold hands while walking, get/give a kiss goodnight, have them to a big family function like Christmas dinner etc. can be a cause of grief and jealousy if one of the friends is in a relationship and their girl/boyfriend feels threatened by the surrogate friend. NOT to be mistaken for a friend with benefits, there are no sexual conotations on a surrogate friend.
Bob: i feel so bad for Tim, he really likes Sharon but she's been with her boyfriend for 8 months now, so Tim really has no chance

Bill: i know eh, they go to movies almost once a week, and Tim always pays. And they went on that camping trip on the long weekend. If someone didnt know better, they'd think Tim and Sharon were going out

Bob: Tim only wishes that was the case. Poor guy is hung up on her bad. Sharon is like his surrogate girlfriend

*having a surrogate girl/boyfriend sucks

From urban dictionary.

I had to have one for a while at work. I wonder if anyone else has had to do this.

No not in that sense, but my last relationship was like a surrogate marriage! Glad it's over with

hold hands while walking, get/give a kiss goodnight, have them to a big family function like Christmas dinner etc.

I messed up on that part. I guess neither one us of read the manual. But she wasn't in a relationship. Though she was enough of a friend that she had my back when a resident said I was her boyfriend. Sure kept me out of the front office. Its always like a scare when they call you there. Its like what did I mess up on this time. It is a lot easier to do my job when I am not paranoid.

interesting post... I have good friends who are female, one in particular is close and we share much of our lives with each other, turn to each other for support - help with normal things... we go out together to dinner, movie -- or just hang out... nothing sexual... just a hug and a peck on the cheek for hello or goodbye... sometimes we hold hands, like at dinner when talking - it just seems natural sometimes...

we were good friends before I met my GF... GF and I have been together 9 months, and GF understands (or says she does)... I guess my best friend is a woman, other than my GF that is... they have met, and we all three see each other at parties, gatherings ect... It's good, mature, platonic... and healthy I think...

Nothing wrong with it, as long as you keep the boundaries... I dont share everything with my friends - emotional intimacy is reserved for my SO/GF.... hope I wrote this so it makes sense...

Why didn't we get together? She is a single mom, and I am not in a place where that works for me... I'm not being judgemental - I just want a child of my own, and she does not want to have any more...

$.02

I'm on the opposite side of this equation. I have a male friend and I'm his surrogate girlfriend.

We met on a dating site but I said immediately that I had no interest in dating him, but we chatted on-line and became friends. We do occasionally have lunch together or catch a movie.

But, to be honest, it's not working out too well.

Everything is fine if I'm not dating someone at the time. But if I'm dating I constantly get that 'hurt' look.

Sometimes I wonder whether it would be kinder to cut off all contact.

I have had so many of those type of friendships. Eventually we end up spending so much time together I end up falling for them and it hurts so bad knowing they don't feel the same way that I have to drift away to break that attachment. After a few months I'm ok and am able to talk to them again, just not all the time as before.

I definitely thought this topic was something else.

Surrogate women: bearing a child for a couple who can't have one..