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Also to the OP if he feels that way don't let him waste your time. You can find someone that is worth it. If we are discussing you. If it's a friend you can pass the message. Find someone worthy of their time. If they don't appreciate you is it worth it? why didn't you just say this in the first place? |
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Also to the OP if he feels that way don't let him waste your time. You can find someone that is worth it. If we are discussing you. If it's a friend you can pass the message. Find someone worthy of their time. If they don't appreciate you is it worth it? why didn't you just say this in the first place? Because it's the comfort post anyone can put. I wanted to show a different perspective to answer the question of why. The comfort post is like giving the man a fish. I want to teach her to fish. To have people think how the qualities we cherish about ourselves are not always the same qualities people look for in others. You see that's a quality in myself that a lot of people in this thread don't like but I do. I don't think less of myself because others dont appreciate it and she shouldn't feel that way either. |
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Men say they want a good woman and when they find her they don't know what to do with her? She intelligent, financially stable, loving, caring, honest, sexy, fun, positive, uplifting, God-fearing and more. And guess what....he's afraid. Why? Fear! "Run, Forrest, run!" I constantly hear both female and male friends complaining they can't find a good mate, but when someone great comes along they run away. I think it has a number of reasons but the most common is that they are so used to crappy people that when a good one comes along they get suspicious. They think is too good to be truth and start obsessing on finding something wrong with that person. Second reason is they feel lacking. When they are with someone that seems to have their lives more together than them, it's like a constant reminder of how shitty their lives is. Third reason, they want to be in power, it's easier to do so with someone that has no mind of their own. I do agree people want different things and might not find what you have to offer attractive, my problem is when they do say you are every man's/woman's dream and start a relationship with you and then get scared that you have a brain and a life, and bail; leaving you wondering WTF happened and questioning your worthiness. Don't want a strong mate? Get the F out of the way and don't waste someone's time. A lot of brainless twats around to stroke your ego. |
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Men say they want a good woman and when they find her they don't know what to do with her? She intellegent, financially stable, loving, caring, honest, sexy, fun, positive, uplifting, God-fearing and more. And guess what....he's afraid. Why? The problem is, everybody seems to CLAIM to be all of those things. What I've found is that usually they're manipulative, self-absorbed, and totally committed to an agenda I want nothing to do with. Sure, I'd be afraid of someone who described herself in such cliched terms -- it's been a red flag many times in the past. |
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Men say they want a good woman and when they find her they don't know what to do with her? She intellegent, financially stable, loving, caring, honest, sexy, fun, positive, uplifting, God-fearing and more. And guess what....he's afraid. Why? She might be too good and maybe they can't take a person like that at face value. Its like, nah, no way. They may be even willing to look twice, even. She may even be all the things she says she is but they have been burnt so many times that they can't even trust the real thing when it comes along. It can get where a person like that can't even give someone a benefit of a doubt. I think the word for is 'cynicism'. |
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Who is to say that those qualities you listed are what every man thinks is a "good woman"? So what would make a "good woman" for them then? Dumb as a rock, always needing money, hates everything, doesn't give a crap about anything, lies constantly, has warts all over her face, mopes around, totally negative, has no beliefs, whichever they might be?  Maybe they want a housewife. I financially secure woman way be too independent for their liking. Maybe they are atheist or non religious so God fearing is not on their list of whats attractive. Sexy in of itself is an opinion and what is sexy for everyone can be different. If she is intelligent than maybe she is an intellectual. Someone into high intellect deep conversations and has a thirst for knowledge. Maybe their interests and personality type don't match. You people need to be more open minded. So you are looking for a plain Jane that won't even turn your head while you are in bed, just as long as she doesn't make money, believe in anything (even atheists believe in something because they believe in no higher being) who can just about carry on a conversation but that won't matter because she has to spend all her time cleaning the house and cooking your meals and washing your clothes? If that's open minded, mine will stay closed. Everyone has their own ideas of what is smart or sexy or whatever but the OP has a great sense of self esteem and was listing what she brings to the table, if it's not your table just say "I'm just not that into you", don't bash her. Why are you making this personal? I never said these were my opinions but that they could be someone's opinions. My girl is smart. She speaks 4 languages. She works full time in a foreign country and still works her old part time job 4 hours a week just to spend time with her old friends. The OPs post made it sound like there is something wrong with these guys for not going after here. I am just here trying to defend the defenseless and give a different point of view. If everyone went after the same qualities in a mate then we would all be chasing the same few women. Its a good thing we all are attracted to different things because we are all different. There is no reason to have hostility towards me. The way you came after her and said Who is to say that those qualities you listed are what every man thinks is a "good woman"? is knocking her for having great self esteem and and sounding like you were putting her down for having her life in order. All you had to say before knocking her traits was "Maybe that's more than some guys can handle, they might be looking for someone less independent." But you went off on a tangent about her traits that 'seem wrong' for others. You seemed to get personal with her. I didn't see that he was making it personal or knocking her for having great self esteem. He was right in saying that not every man is going to go for the same type of woman. That goes the same for women. There's nothing wrong with not wanting all the qualities the OP mentioned. |
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Men say they want a good woman and when they find her they don't know what to do with her? She intellegent, financially stable, loving, caring, honest, sexy, fun, positive, uplifting, God-fearing and more. And guess what....he's afraid. Why? Because of the drug war. |
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If she is also a freak in the bedroom, then send her Goof's way!
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Thank you!!!
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Men say they want a good woman and when they find her they don't know what to do with her? She intellegent, financially stable, loving, caring, honest, sexy, fun, positive, uplifting, God-fearing and more. And guess what....he's afraid. Why? because guys r hopeless dorks? 
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bc if he said he wanted a dirty girl that way lazy and good in bed hed be kicked in the nuts.. idk maybe the men are intimidated by a lady whos got her stuff together? he does? where? where is he? 
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Men say they want a good woman and when they find her they don't know what to do with her? She intellegent, financially stable, loving, caring, honest, sexy, fun, positive, uplifting, God-fearing and more. And guess what....he's afraid. Why? because guys r hopeless dorks? Define hopeless dorks.
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Men say they want a good woman and when they find her they don't know what to do with her? She intellegent, financially stable, loving, caring, honest, sexy, fun, positive, uplifting, God-fearing and more. And guess what....he's afraid. Why? because guys r hopeless dorks? Define hopeless dorks. and where does it say my name is Webster?
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