Men say they want a good woman and when they find her they don't know what to do with her? She intellegent, financially stable, loving, caring, honest, sexy, fun, positive, uplifting, God-fearing and more. And guess what....he's afraid. Why?

bc if he said he wanted a dirty girl that way lazy and good in bed hed be kicked in the nuts..

idk

maybe the men are intimidated by a lady whos got her stuff together?

OutsideTheBox2, I get the impression that you want to know why men don't find you in particular to be attractive. According to statistics provided by Mingle2, you have been a member here since 01/08/08 and yet you have made only 4 posts. Why is that?

***hanging my head in shame and handing Miss OutsideTheBox2 a bar of soap for my mind***

My mind was so far in the gutter after I read that heading, I was underwater!!!

Because when they find what they are looking for, they no longer have a reason to complain (using "they" instead of being gender specific) and that just won't do. Or they think they don't deserve you and it is easier to cut and run before you dump them for being a moron.

Not all guys run away from great women.

Who is to say that those qualities you listed are what every man thinks is a "good woman"?

So what would make a "good woman" for them then? Dumb as a rock, always needing money, hates everything, doesn't give a crap about anything, lies constantly, has warts all over her face, mopes around, totally negative, has no beliefs, whichever they might be?

I can't wait to hear the answer on this one.

Where is the popcorn???

HELL YES!!!!

Maybe they want a housewife. I financially secure woman way be too independent for their liking. Maybe they are atheist or non religious so God fearing is not on their list of whats attractive. Sexy in of itself is an opinion and what is sexy for everyone can be different.
If she is intelligent than maybe she is an intellectual. Someone into high intellect deep conversations and has a thirst for knowledge. Maybe their interests and personality type don't match.

You people need to be more open minded.

Kick you in the butt!!!!

well with all of these "ahem" attributes, you have to know she is going to ROCK! in the sack!!!!

So you are looking for a plain Jane that won't even turn your head while you are in bed, just as long as she doesn't make money, believe in anything (even atheists believe in something because they believe in no higher being) who can just about carry on a conversation but that won't matter because she has to spend all her time cleaning the house and cooking your meals and washing your clothes?

If that's open minded, mine will stay closed.

Everyone has their own ideas of what is smart or sexy or whatever but the OP has a great sense of self esteem and was listing what she brings to the table, if it's not your table just say "I'm just not that into you", don't bash her.

No, I said "dumb as a rock".....she "will ROCK your world"

Why are you making this personal? I never said these were my opinions but that they could be someone's opinions. My girl is smart. She speaks 4 languages. She works full time in a foreign country and still works her old part time job 4 hours a week just to spend time with her old friends.

The OPs post made it sound like there is something wrong with these guys for not going after here. I am just here trying to defend the defenseless and give a different point of view.

If everyone went after the same qualities in a mate then we would all be chasing the same few women. Its a good thing we all are attracted to different things because we are all different.

There is no reason to have hostility towards me.

The way you came after her and said Who is to say that those qualities you listed are what every man thinks is a "good woman"? is knocking her for having great self esteem and and sounding like you were putting her down for having her life in order.

All you had to say before knocking her traits was "Maybe that's more than some guys can handle, they might be looking for someone less independent." But you went off on a tangent about her traits that 'seem wrong' for others.

You seemed to get personal with her.

I disagree, if I wanted to take her down I should have said something like who says any man would want those things.

I was saying possibly not every man wants those things. She asked why and that was my answer. Maybe not everyman finds those traits to be what a good woman is. I am and was not in any way saying she is or is not a good woman.

In fact I didn't say anything. I only asked a question. Pretty much most of my family would consider all those traits good, but my family does not encompass every man in the world. I am just trying to let people see a different point of view.

She asked for an opinion. Its in her post. Why? I gave probably the most honest and realistic answer than can be given with the information provided. Now maybe he has a fear of commitment (if we are talking about just one guy) Maybe some other reasons, but with the info provided we can't know any of that.

Dropping it, because you can't even read what you typed out first and are now trying to change the wording......Let it go...



Miss OutsideTheBox2, all I have to say is, "You go, Girl!!!" Don't worry about the guys who can't handle you the way you are. The right man will come along when the time is right!" Best of luck to you hun!

I read what I wrote you didn't. She also never used the word me or I. She could be talking about herself or a friend or someone else she knows. I don't assume and I don't attack. I just give an open minded opinion that could actually be a probable answer.

It's sad because if someone said he is an *** or a jerk it could be an acceptable answer but basically saying maybe that's not what he is looking for in a women is such a horrible thing to say.

Also to the OP if he feels that way don't let him waste your time. You can find someone that is worth it. If we are discussing you. If it's a friend you can pass the message. Find someone worthy of their time. If they don't appreciate you is it worth it?