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Topic: What are women guilty of?
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Fri 09/24/10 04:44 PM
On dating sites in general, some women tend to demonize men in their profiles, making them out to be liars, cheaters, and game players, as well as accuses them of being interested in onle one thing (I'll let you fill in the blank). I want to know what women are accused of in men's profiles. For relationships to fail, it often takes two to tango.

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Fri 09/24/10 04:51 PM
In all fairness, I've seen plenty of profiles of men who accuse women of lying and cheating and using them for this, that, and the other.

It's a two-way street, and treating someone badly isn't limited to just one gender. Nor is blowing it all out of proportion in order to make oneself appear to be more of a victim than one really is. Yeah, I think you'll see a lot of that, too.

Personally, I only accuse women (exes, to be specific) of two things: lying to me about their intentions going in, and trying to change me. If I could find one who wasn't wholly committed to those two agendas, I might find someone really great.




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Fri 09/24/10 04:52 PM

On dating sites in general, some women tend to demonize men in their profiles, making them out to be liars, cheaters, and game players, as well as accuses them of being interested in onle one thing (I'll let you fill in the blank). I want to know what women are accused of in men's profiles. For relationships to fail, it often takes two to tango.

A man's profile should not accuse women of anything.

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Fri 09/24/10 04:55 PM
Edited by Gossipmpm on Fri 09/24/10 04:55 PM
:heart: Yea....I see that bad mouthing too....nothing we can do about it but voice our opinion.....the women who bad mouth you guys are usually bitter about past relationships or whatever crazy reasons they might have.....


so guys ya just gotta bear with it...but at least ya know what women to stay clear of right?.....

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Fri 09/24/10 05:27 PM

:heart: Yea....I see that bad mouthing too....nothing we can do about it but voice our opinion.....the women who bad mouth you guys are usually bitter about past relationships or whatever crazy reasons they might have.....


so guys ya just gotta bear with it...but at least ya know what women to stay clear of right?.....

I am not here to stay clear of women. I am willing to give any a try.

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Fri 09/24/10 05:37 PM
Can I make a suggestion? Why won't everybody just stop accusing opposite gender of anything? Or even better - why such accusations won't earn the offender a ban?

Accusing entire gender is pointless. Accusing a unit - as long as you got some evidence - fair enough. But entire gender? POINTLESS.

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Fri 09/24/10 05:57 PM


:heart: Yea....I see that bad mouthing too....nothing we can do about it but voice our opinion.....the women who bad mouth you guys are usually bitter about past relationships or whatever crazy reasons they might have.....


so guys ya just gotta bear with it...but at least ya know what women to stay clear of right?.....

I am not here to stay clear of women. I am willing to give any a try.


Your profile says differently, though. It looks like you're looking for Christian women specifically. Which is fine, but that's different than giving any woman a try.

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Fri 09/24/10 05:59 PM

Can I make a suggestion? Why won't everybody just stop accusing opposite gender of anything? Or even better - why such accusations won't earn the offender a ban?

Accusing entire gender is pointless. Accusing a unit - as long as you got some evidence - fair enough. But entire gender? POINTLESS.


When people have profiles complaining about either gender, they make it easy for most of us to weed out those we don't want to get to know.

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Fri 09/24/10 06:00 PM
^^^^^^^^ I love you....if I were a lesbian I'd take you to a secluded island and.........:heart:

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Fri 09/24/10 06:19 PM


Can I make a suggestion? Why won't everybody just stop accusing opposite gender of anything? Or even better - why such accusations won't earn the offender a ban?

Accusing entire gender is pointless. Accusing a unit - as long as you got some evidence - fair enough. But entire gender? POINTLESS.


When people have profiles complaining about either gender, they make it easy for most of us to weed out those we don't want to get to know.


You got a point there.

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Fri 09/24/10 06:21 PM
..ok, ok...I admit it...I ate the last piece of pie...guilty as charged....tongue2

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Fri 09/24/10 06:31 PM
Edited by tanyaann on Fri 09/24/10 06:37 PM
There are accusations and blanket statements on any genders profile...

'tired of players'

'been lied to by all women'

'no games'

etc


However, if you can't get past prior relationships, how can you expect to have a healthy relationship in the future.

So, when I see a profile with blanked statements, I generally just move on.

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Fri 09/24/10 06:32 PM

^^^^^^^^ I love you....if I were a lesbian I'd take you to a secluded island and.........:heart:


smitten biggrin

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Fri 09/24/10 06:48 PM
Ok. Let's be honest here. I don't think their is anyone on this site who has not been wronged by a former gf/bf. And, I also believe that everyone has wronged a past bf/gf (even if you want to justify it, in some way, we are all guilty of doing something wrong).

It cracks me up when I read "I am not into drama, or games, or playas, or whores". Oh really? Who the hell is? You think you are the only one who has come into contact with any of those types? Seriously....people need to get a grip on life and quit your biatchin.

Nobody wants to be with someone who is a negative influence on them. And if you keep harping on all the wrongs done to you, then who in the hell will want to date you? All of us have had bad experiences. And yet, only some of us are able to move forward.

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Sat 09/25/10 03:23 PM
Great responses, ladies and gents! I understand people wanting to be cautious, but putting up a rancorous profile might scare some GOOD people away. Also, people who like to do harm will try even though the person specifies in his or her profile that they don't want liars, cheaters, etc. I feel that it would be better to phrase it like this: "Honest, loyal person seeking the same..."

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Sat 09/25/10 05:50 PM
Most of the time i give men to much credit where it isn't deserved.

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Sat 09/25/10 06:09 PM
grumble Ya bunch of deceptive liars

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Sat 09/25/10 06:17 PM
You know, honestly, what good does a profile do in the first place? The world is littered with people who are complete opposites who hit it off and love each other. Why limit yourself to judging people by what is in there profile? I will admit that the information gives you a basis to start up a conversation, and I won't deny that I also discriminate based on profile entries, but if you meet someone face to face and randomly you don't have any of that information to pull from, so why depend on it now?

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Sun 09/26/10 05:07 PM

There are accusations and blanket statements on any genders profile...

'tired of players'

'been lied to by all women'

'no games'

etc


However, if you can't get past prior relationships, how can you expect to have a healthy relationship in the future.

So, when I see a profile with blanked statements, I generally just move on.


I pretty much avoid those types of profiles and their authors just for the reason u said Tanya - the man who writes those comments is still mired in bitterness & not ready to move on. And it can be difficult because I think the men who write those things feel they r trying to be honest.. But to me, the best profiles just tell about yourself so we can see what we have in common.

No one wants to be lied to cheated on or used, but writing it in a profile is no guarantee that it won't happen, and just makes u look bitter (not u tanya- the ones who do that)

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Sun 09/26/10 05:10 PM

You know, honestly, what good does a profile do in the first place? The world is littered with people who are complete opposites who hit it off and love each other. Why limit yourself to judging people by what is in there profile?


Especially since most of them contain less useful information than a "Nixon's The One" bumper sticker.


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