This is a reply I got this morning, after working up the nerve to get back onto this online thing for about 8 months. Now I remember why I don't date anymore.

Hi there,

So I just joined this site yesterday, and I'm a little surprised I found someone like you
this fast. I mean, someone who, at least from what I've seen, has a pretty good head
on her shoulders. So I'd like to see what comes of talking to you some more. Hope the
feeling is mutual.
-A


REPLY:
Ah....The feeling is definitely not mutual.

You look like a lanky fagot that hasn't been laid in years.

Go fist your mother you fag.
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been to Pittsburgh....been to Arizona, been to Amsterdam. been to Berlin, been too Cologne.....

Don't EVER underestimate what "this" can bring you!!!!

That's very unfortunate. Post in the forums. You'll make friends there, and you may run into someone that interests you. Best wishes!

Sadly, this is kind of the norm, although it usually takes me significantly more time-wasting (chatting back and forth). I seem to bring out the inner-beast in women.

Wait. Did you say a house full of cats?

I will be right over with my cooking utensils.

tell your parents that since you feel so much pressure to have a steady relationship you are thinking of havin a sex change operation, since you´re not doing so good as a woman maybe you´ll have better success as a man...Im sure they´ll stop pressuring you...

I envy you -- I never got a reply at all....

Dude, 1st off, in the nicest way possible, who cares about your family-as far as dating-, you dont want to rush and meet mr wrong. Have you tried taking any classes for ex-curricular activity, like painting or science, whatever your interest is??? I find i meet more guys at these types of events than online. You know you already have something in common by just being there and you will most likely talk a lot more. I have gone on several dates here and met different types of guys, i realize it is just fun to come here and chit chat more than anything. well good luck to you. I hope you find Mr right.

Wow, i am so sorry, I can not believe someone would say such rude things. That is so uncouth and absurd. When i dont feel interested in someone i keep it simple by either never replying or just saying I already found someone. It's called manners.

fishing sux, wait around for ten years and come up empty handed. It's fun waiting around and getting bait stolen from time to time, but in the end you are still left hungry and fishless.

The only advice I will give is just be yourself. No matter if it's your family pressuring you or being frustrated with on-line dating. Be true to yourself and live YOUR life. Chill...do things that interest you and make you happy. Love will come along when you least expect it and aren't trying to force it.

just checked out your profile ... you sound like agreat person....yeah eevryone else ha ssaid it already and i will just join in with them...there's no need to rush into things...take it a day at a time and enjoy everything.

hope what everyone has to say helps you

That sort of rudeness just isnt called for, whatever happened to a mature way of dealing with things? Some people, sorry A.

You've just begun posting, so it's obvious you don't get into the forums...spend some time out here withm the rest of us...that is the best way to be noticed. Allow people to get to know who you are...stop concentrating on finding "the one...and have some fun...it will happen when it is supposed to

Giveit time baby.......

It took me over a year to wade through the pricks before I found my rose!!!

How much do you want for that hat Dawg..........

Stop falling to the pressures of your family; this is your life and not theirs.

Online dating isn't magical. You will have the same perils as meeting someone in person as opposed to online.

A person has to use more common sense with online dating to avoid predators but many people have enjoyed success from online dating.

It's not necessarily the specific website that is the problem. It's the nature of people and that will always be regardless of how you meet them.

Men can be just as cruel. I've received similar messages after I have said, "no thank you". They come back with a malicious reply.

Join the forums. Remember, it's not just online dating; it's the regrettable nature of some malevolent people no matter where you meet them.

Sitting down and have a chat with the family might be a better idea.

Throw the "Sure, I could meet, marry, and move in with the first guy I come across, but if he's the wrong guy, then I'd probably be moving back in with a screaming kid in tow, that ya'll would have to take care of while I try and get my life and finances back in order. Wouldn't it be better for me to do the smart thing, finish school, and be able to afford to move out on my own?!